Not A Very Good Christian?

[reba]

Years ago i was having a tantrum to my mom about God.
Why does God do this or that for so and so.. Look He did this and why not for me?
I never hear God speak on and on..
Mom said .. Reba shut up and listen..

 

[Boidae21]

Years ago i was having a tantrum to my mom about God.
Why does God do this or that for so and so.. Look He did this and why not for me?
I never hear God speak on and on..
Mom said .. Reba shut up and listen..

For six years I have listened. Never heard a thing. I am done with God.

 

[ezra]

Generally, when I hear the term spirit-filled it is in reference to a Pentecostal church and to that I say, no thanks!

filled with spirit is not being Pentecostal. find you a warm loving church that teaches preaches the truth from the Bible . not one that is programmed or liberal .get out and visit. we have took the term spirit filled and turned it in to a 3 ring circus . to be filled with the spirit one no room for any thing else than God. we all fail here . 2. filled with the spirit is to be controlled led by the spirit. --follow the spirits lead .it say be not drunk in excess. when drunk the alcohol controls us. when under the influence of the spirit. we are controlled by the spirit . these type churches are out there . get out and visit

 

[ezra]

For six years I have listened. Never heard a thing. I am done with God.

give up thats exactly what the devil wants.. just give up and allow him to ruin your life. it takes very little effort .to let satan control your life. but be warned to expect a disaster read john 10:10 the thief comes to steal kill destroy . so if thats what you want give up it will be done

 

[Obadiah]

Christianity is not all about what we can demand God do for us. It's about finding out how we can serve God. You say you tried for 6 years. I've tried to listen to God for many times that amount of years. Sometimes nothing spectacular happens for longer than that, then all of a sudden God does something miraculous for those who wait patiently.

Jesus waited for 30 years before starting His ministry. 6 years is child's play in comparison.

 

[Boidae21]

give up thats exactly what the devil wants.. just give up and allow him to ruin your life. it takes very little effort .to let satan control your life. but be warned to expect a disaster read john 10:10 the thief comes to steal kill destroy . so if thats what you want give up it will be done

Hah! Like there hasn't been disaster after disaster in my life already?

I'm done and have asked that this thread be closed.

 

[Ph8th]

Have you ever been told life is not fair. Has there ever been a time in your life you realized it is not about you? I knew the answer when I read your first post. You said I me and my almost 20 times. When I spoke to you about the battle with in being with our flesh/self, so its Gods fault.
I pray you are able to discard the pride and humble yourself before God and lay your woes at His feet. I pray it is He that provides you with a mate because He is the foundation that will not crumble.
peter

 

[Pizza]

I think a lot has to do with me being told that I must remain alone the rest of my life because I am being divorced. That I cannot find someone else and be happy.

I was told that, back in the 1980's after my first divorce. Of all people, it was a fundamentalist Baptist preacher who told me that I was being led astray by (perhaps well intentioned) "man's dogma". It has been YEARS since all that happened, but for now I'll just tell you that the lady who divorced me is one of my friends now. She has remarried and I also remarried since back then - and remarriage is not a mortal sin.

You have been talking to the wrong people.

When we separated, there was a sense of relief, and a peace that still has not ended. It was a very bad marriage on both sides. We were toxic together. So while it is upsetting that I am being divorced, there is also relief and peace.

Both I and my first wife would say the same thing.

Stop being so hard on yourself, God has (or wants to) forgive you - forgive yourself. Your divorce is not a life-ending or faith-ending event.

I am now off of my depression medication and doing well without it.I have lost 30 pounds and am generally healthier.

Did you do that on your own? If so, I'm impressed and certainly a bit envious. Can I suggest that our Lord may have had something to do with your success? Im not saying it was all God, or God at all - but I do'nt think it was all you.

So I think much of my issue is as I said, I must be alone the rest of my life. I do not and will not be alone the rest of my life.

As that preacher said to me, "Mark, I do not accept that God wants you to live the next 50 or 60 years alone just because you and Kerri could not work things out." The new testament is all about grace, faith and forgiveness. I think that, in the distant past, things were very different - but I can tell you that I've walked with the Lord since the 1980's and have even been married and divorced AGAIN - and yet, I am confident that I am the Lord's beloved child. His grace and love are something that I feel in my life every day.

I think you and the Lord are fine - you just need to stop listening to this judgmental crap (and I NEVER use that j-word, but this time I will.) You are listening to haughty, judgmental baloney. Do you really think that your divorce negates Jesus' sacrifice on the cross? Neither you nor I have the power to negate His sacrifice for us.

As I read your posts, I don't hear a person who is rejected by God - I hear a person who THINKS they are rejected by God. You've been rejected by some PEOPLE, maybe, but not God. We are all rejected by people, sometimes by some of God's people - but people don't speak for God - so don't listen to them when they tell you stuff that does not line up with what the red text in the new testament says.

 

[ezra]

Hah! Like there hasn't been disaster after disaster in my life already?

I'm done and have asked that this thread be closed.

so your just willing to give up and not fight? look i have no doubt its hard on you. nor do i pretend to know or understand what your going through. . i have never went through divorce . but i have had many battles each one it took time for me get through it. times i still battle it thought wise and yes times i want to give up . days i even get made about it . there is a drive inside of each on of us. that can cause us to get up and start all over. thats what i am trying to get you to do. have you ever read about the messenger of satan paul thorn in the flesh? he asked God 3 times to remove it. read it https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2+Corinthians+12:7-10&version=NKJV . you have to get up and fight
The Whole Armor of God
10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age,against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

you can remarry find you another mate..she left you divorce will not send you to hell. find you a nice bible church

 

[Boidae21]

find you a nice bible church

What do you consider a Bible church? Every church considers themselves a Bible church.

I have been to the majority of the churches, denominational, non-denominational and what I consider in between, I would not go back to them and the ones I didn't go to were Pentecostal. I cannot travel far as the gas in my truck is for work and picking up my children each week, so I am stuck with the churches in my area, and since I will not go back to them... I'm sure you can see my dilemma.

 

[evenifigoalone]

Sometimes people will hold Bible studies in their home called small groups, if you think that's something you might be interested in.

 

[Obadiah]

...I have been to the majority of the churches, denominational, non-denominational and what I consider in between, I would not go back to them ...

I can relate to that. I had been working at a church and about a year ago they terminated my employment because I was unable to do some of what they required (even though their requirements were so ridiculous that no one could fulfill them and no one has since), then a couple months back I found out the pastor actually decided he would be an atheist now, so they terminated him as well (a bit more understandable). So I had looked around at other churches close enough to get involved with and just didn't find anything that suited me. When I get involved in a church, I'm usually there 3 to 5 days every week and I just can't afford to drive half way across the county that often to the one I found that I could have fit in with.

Also like you, I am divorced and even though I had Biblical grounds for divorce, I did not initiate or agree to the divorce that my ex-wife initiated. Yet many churches will un-biblicaly treat me as a "2nd class Christian" because of this and not allow me to serve in the areas God had called me to serve in. I will not attend these kind of churches either.

So while I don't believe we should "forsake fellowship", I too am now without a church home. But I do not consider myself a non-christian because of this, nor do I blame God or refuse to follow Him because of what sinful people in churches have done. I will never forsake God over something like this.

 

[Boidae21]

Sometimes people will hold Bible studies in their home called small groups, if you think that's something you might be interested in.

Aren't these small groups just extensions of the church that the people attend? The ones that I have been to are just that.

 

[evenifigoalone]

Some are, not necessarily all.

 

[Boidae21]

Some are, not necessarily all.

Then there is the issue of time. I work three part-time jobs currently. Five nights a week I am working till at least 8pm. This includes Saturday and Sunday nights. The other two nights that I have free, I have my two kids with me. I am not keen on losing time with them.

 

[Ph8th]

Then there is the issue of time. I work three part-time jobs currently. Five nights a week I am working till at least 8pm. This includes Saturday and Sunday nights. The other two nights that I have free, I have my two kids with me. I am not keen on losing time with them.

Instead of why not to ........ try why to..........

 

[Boidae21]

Instead of why not ........ try why..........

Explain that please.

 

[Rollo Tamasi]

Years ago i was having a tantrum to my mom about God.
Why does God do this or that for so and so.. Look He did this and why not for me?
I never hear God speak on and on..
Mom said .. Reba shut up and listen..

And who do you go to with your tantrums today?

 

[Ph8th]

Explain that please.

Brother I do not believe you came here just by chance..... I believe you were drawn coincidence is bull everything has reason whether you understand it or not. You have expressed all the things that are wrong in your life but aren't looking for solution when ever people offer advice they are met with why not to do what ever. You seem angry at God because no matter how bad your life gets you won't submit it to Him. He is the answer the whole answer in my book. When I speak to you about God you bring up people and churches and how you want nothing to do with them........... I do not know what wrongs they have done to you but do not throw God into the mix. A man who seeks God has the greatest gift one could share with his children and everyone else he meets that is Jesus. He is the answer ....... unless what you want is to continue being a victim of this cruel world.
peter

 

[Boidae21]

Brother I do not believe you came here just by chance..... I believe you were drawn coincidence is bull everything has reason whether you understand it or not. You have expressed all the things that are wrong in your life but aren't looking for solution when ever people offer advice they are met with why not to do what ever. You seem angry at God because no matter how bad your life gets you won't submit it to Him. He is the answer the whole answer in my book. When I speak to you about God you bring up people and churches and how you want nothing to do with them........... I do not know what wrongs they have done to you but do not throw God into the mix. A man who seeks God has the greatest gift one could share with his children and everyone else he meets that is Jesus. He is the answer ....... unless what you want is to continue being a victim of this cruel world.
peter

I say why not, because that is my life. I am saying why their solution will not work. No one's life is a cookie cutter version of life. Everyone has reasons why they cannot do something, I am stating mine, If you do not accept them, that is not my problem.