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Online Dating...

I have too....

I think the pros and cons of online dating are about the same as regular dating.
 
I am extremely shy, so if i ever cared to date, I would probably do it online. Just so long as I never have to meet the person.
 
Just so long as I never have to meet the person.
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then what on earth is the point of dating then? are you not aware you would be getting this persons hopes up and giving them unrealistic expectations,but dating them on -line they may have hope of taking it further one day, expecially if your a christian .that is giving them false hope and in my opinion not a very nice or mature thing to do.
 
auntie said:
Just so long as I never have to meet the person.
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then what on earth is the point of dating then? are you not aware you would be getting this persons hopes up and giving them unrealistic expectations,but dating them on -line they may have hope of taking it further one day, expecially if your a christian .that is giving them false hope and in my opinion not a very nice or mature thing to do.
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I'm not going to do that. I just meant that it would sound good to me, were I interested, due to my shyness. But that I would probably never be able to overcome my shyness and meet the person if I was asked to.
 
I've had a couple online "boyfriends" ...and man do I ever have to hear about it from my mom.

"You never know who they really are...he could be some psychotic murderer"

But, mom...if I go out with a guy I meet down the road from me...he could very well be a psychotic murderer too...

Truth is, there's a risk involved with whatever methods you choose to date these days.

At least with an online relationship, you really can get to know the "person" before anything else. (appearances, etc.)
 
Brutus/HisCatalyst said:
What do you think about online dating?
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The one good thing about it is that all you can do is talk "heart to heart" where in regular dating you can go bowling or to the movies and forget about getting to know the person. In that sense, online dating is actually better since all you can do is get to know the other person's hearts and each of you are forced to get to know each other quite intimately because you really have nothing else you can do but talk to each other and hear each other's hearts.

Just have to remember one thing online... words are very cheap... people can say anything on here.... none of it might be actually true.
 
personally I think I'd be very weary of online dating, people can be very different online and offline, and you really would never be able to get to know that person nearly as well as you would if you knew eachother IRL.
 
Adams son said:
[quote="Brutus/HisCatalyst":d22dc]What do you think about online dating?
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The one good thing about it is that all you can do is talk "heart to heart" where in regular dating you can go bowling or to the movies and forget about getting to know the person. In that sense, online dating is actually better since all you can do is get to know the other person's hearts and each of you are forced to get to know each other quite intimately because you really have nothing else you can do but talk to each other and hear each other's hearts.[/quote:d22dc]

That's very true. That's what I love about getting to know people online from forums. You only go by what they tell you, what's coming from their heart. It's a great way to get to know someone. However, I think knowing a person on the internet isn't enough. What are they like in person? How do they treat the people in their every day life? There are some questions I think you just have to know first for sure. Some people can seem quite different on the internet than in person. Many people are. Just because you hit it off online, doesn't mean you'd hit it off in person.

I understand the whole online dating. I managed to get involved with someone two years ago. It wasn't an actual relationship, it was a very, VERY deep friendship, like brother and sister by heart. Unfortunately (but fortunately. It was necessary, otherwise I wouldn't be where I am with God today. :)) it fell apart after a year and there were major hurt feelings. A year later and I'm still struggling to let it go and completely hand it over to God.

SOME online relationships have proven to be successful. There are a few christians who have met their husband/wife online. A couple at my church did. However, you can't competely trust who you're talking to, no matter how trustworthy they seem. It can be *very* dangerous. There have been many sad stories to back this up. :sad

STAY SAFE, protect yourself, family and friends by NOT giving out location and identity details and remember that your safety is more important then trusting someone on the internet. I hope that made sense! IF you do happen to arrange to meet someone from the internet, do NOT go a lone!! :)
 
I think the advice given above is very good, stay safe at all times.
I have dated a few times online. Unfortunately they have not been the best experiences of my life. The problem with online dating is that the person you are dating can give a wrong impression or pretend to be whoever they want to be and as you haven't spent time with them in real, you do not know any different. I have been burned a few times by guys who pretend to be something they are not, or even worse, dating more than one person at a time.
Even while online dating has some good points, I suggest that if you meet in real, you spend the same amount of time (as you did online) to get to know them over again.

Blessings,
Surviving
 
I have online dated once. Here is my advice for you. Luckily, this is how I did it.

1. Don't go searching for love, love will find you at a time God wills.

2. If you find someone you like, talk to them another way too so that you know they are consistant. (for instance, talk to them on the phone once in awhile)

3. Don't meet them in person right away. Talking to them on the phone and email is helpful in terms of getting your values straight to them before meeting. It's easier to tell them you aren't going to go "all the way" with them on the phone than it is in person. Besides, it gives them time to think about it.

4. Let your friends/family meet them before you really decide to date. Many people tend to be sketched out with online dating, so if you want your family and friends to be cool(er) with it, let them meet your potential date.
 
I don't know Ron but I am not sure there is such a thing as online dating. Seems more like pen pals to me.
 
videocrafter said:
What is "Dating"?
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Excellent question.






I have many online friends. My very best friend is online. I met several of them this summer. But, I wouldn't consider getting to know someone via the internet, "dating." Although it IS possible to fall in love with someone and find a potential Christian spouse online.

I have found it is much easier to express myself online. I'm kinda shy face to face (at first) but I tend to "bear all" and "wear my feelings on my sleeve" when typing. Guess that could get me in trouble, too. :oops:
 
I'm sure most sites - all the real good ones..

auntie said:
Just so long as I never have to meet the person.
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then what on earth is the point of dating then? are you not aware you would be getting this persons hopes up and giving them unrealistic expectations,but dating them on -line they may have hope of taking it further one day, expecially if your a christian .that is giving them false hope and in my opinion not a very nice or mature thing to do.
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...give folk the option to specify that they just want penpals,or just friends/social group meets

As an ex-security guard, from a longstanding military family, 3 yrs running in Merseyside (Liverpool area) champion martial arts team - as wellas ex-stepdad to 4 very attractive young women, now @ 18/35 - I'd sure say that it's FAR safer for women/girls than going to bars/clubs, etc

Safety first, yes?

Tactically, ladies, do take the opportunity to talk online @ favourite kinds of music..TV..movies..places to go..things to do..etc

Not only as that fun & interesting, but by relaxing the man like that, you get maximum chance of warning signs slipping out

If he raves on @ violent, sicko movies/video games, research shows that addicts of such are the most likely to be the real violent sickos, yes?

Anyway, have a laff @ this ad of mine:-
http://www.matchdoctor.com/profile10782032.aspx

Unfortunately, I only just saw that the revamped site has cut all 'essays' - which reveal the most @ someone

I'd used the 'Bridge Strategy' recommended by http://www.gospelcom.net - where you'll find links to their monthly Web Evangelism Bulletin - inc past archives

W=E=L=L... 8-)

as the essays have gone from that ad, I'll go cancel it on Fri, DV :oops:

Back with link to FUN TRIP @ CHESTER ZOO ON THURS... :-D

http://www.christianforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=18755

Enjoy! :multi:

Ian :D
 
Been hi-jinks on da way so far..

..tell ya da full story when I see ya...

should be there @ 12.30-ish, DV

I have 4 worship tapes with me

For those heading to other, similar picnic areas, my tip to optimise the acoustics is to point speakers up at the centre of da table..

Ciao 4 now!!!

Ian
 
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