[__ Prayer __] Prayer for Family Member

[Luminous_Rose]

My husband's brother/nephew is in a bit of a jam. It is painful to see. He is special needs and gets SSI and help with his housing. He is a legal adult, but his mom/grandma never put anything in place to help him if she passed away (no appointed guardian, no financial power of attorney, no medical power of attorney). He is on his own and he has a hard time managing and understanding finances (sales people talk him into debt often). He has a hard time understanding healthy relationships (jumps quickly from one girlfriend to the next). Supposedly he got engaged and invited his fiancee to live with him and maybe her guy friend? They are no longer engaged, but he doesn't have it all there to tell them to move out. My husband told him needs to tell them to move out. It is obvious they are taking advantage of him and his cheap housing with his didability check and food assistance. We have thought about reporting it and are still thinking, but he would probably lose his housing and there isn't anywhere else in town that he would be able to go and no one to move in with. Such a complicated situation. He reaches out to my husband for help, but if he doesn't like the solution(s) he doesn't do it. He never learned about living on his own since my husband's mother claimed he was a medical miracle so he didn't need to be pressured to learn anymore. It has been a lot of trial by fire for him since he lacks life skills.

Keep him in your prayers, please.

 

[JohnDB]

My husband's brother/nephew is in a bit of a jam. It is painful to see. He is special needs and gets SSI and help with his housing. He is a legal adult, but his mom/grandma never put anything in place to help him if she passed away (no appointed guardian, no financial power of attorney, no medical power of attorney). He is on his own and he has a hard time managing and understanding finances (sales people talk him into debt often). He has a hard time understanding healthy relationships (jumps quickly from one girlfriend to the next). Supposedly he got engaged and invited his fiancee to live with him and maybe her guy friend? They are no longer engaged, but he doesn't have it all there to tell them to move out. My husband told him needs to tell them to move out. It is obvious they are taking advantage of him and his cheap housing with his didability check and food assistance. We have thought about reporting it and are still thinking, but he would probably lose his housing and there isn't anywhere else in town that he would be able to go and no one to move in with. Such a complicated situation. He reaches out to my husband for help, but if he doesn't like the solution(s) he doesn't do it. He never learned about living on his own since my husband's mother claimed he was a medical miracle so he didn't need to be pressured to learn anymore. It has been a lot of trial by fire for him since he lacks life skills.

Keep him in your prayers, please.

An attorney can help...but it's going to be expensive. And those mooching off of him can be sued for back rent. (Money used to finance the legal fees)

Not a pleasant affair but one you just have to do for family.

 

[Truthfrees]

praying

 

[daninthelionsden]

My husband's brother/nephew is in a bit of a jam. It is painful to see. He is special needs and gets SSI and help with his housing. He is a legal adult, but his mom/grandma never put anything in place to help him if she passed away (no appointed guardian, no financial power of attorney, no medical power of attorney). He is on his own and he has a hard time managing and understanding finances (sales people talk him into debt often). He has a hard time understanding healthy relationships (jumps quickly from one girlfriend to the next). Supposedly he got engaged and invited his fiancee to live with him and maybe her guy friend? They are no longer engaged, but he doesn't have it all there to tell them to move out. My husband told him needs to tell them to move out. It is obvious they are taking advantage of him and his cheap housing with his didability check and food assistance. We have thought about reporting it and are still thinking, but he would probably lose his housing and there isn't anywhere else in town that he would be able to go and no one to move in with. Such a complicated situation. He reaches out to my husband for help, but if he doesn't like the solution(s) he doesn't do it. He never learned about living on his own since my husband's mother claimed he was a medical miracle so he didn't need to be pressured to learn anymore. It has been a lot of trial by fire for him since he lacks life skills.

Keep him in your prayers, please.

Often times, for cases like these, you can get a Pro Bono attorney(works for free for the common good). Find a legal helpline to get a referral for such. Prayers for you and yours.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Prayers lifted.

 

[Luminous_Rose]

An attorney can help...but it's going to be expensive. And those mooching off of him can be sued for back rent. (Money used to finance the legal fees)

Not a pleasant affair but one you just have to do for family.

That does sound like more than we can reasonably afford. I know my husband pressured his mom to have more set for him so that he doesn't go out as an adult in the world having no idea what to do and getting himself in all sorts of compromising situations. Lo and behold, she passed away and our fears for him are happening. We figured my husband's mom would pass away and then his dad would drive him out of the house because he can't stand him. It is just what happened.

The thing we are concerned about is in turn, him getting sued by his housing benefits that provide him with with low cost rent that is affordable with his SSI. He has not reported these people to his housing benefits, and this is of course, illegal. If his housing benefits get revoked, he has no where to go.

The hardest thing is he asks for help and my husband tells him he needs to tell them to move out or he could lose his housing benefits and he says, "Well, it's my apartment. I make those decisions."

He doesn't know what is best for himself all the time yet no one has papers to legally make certain decisions for him.

 

[Luminous_Rose]

Often times, for cases like these, you can get a Pro Bono attorney(works for free for the common good). Find a legal helpline to get a referral for such. Prayers for you and yours.

Might look into this later. Will definitely be thinking about it and discussing it with my husband.

 

[Tessa]

Very hard situation
Will be praying.

 

[daninthelionsden]

Might look into this later. Will definitely be thinking about it and discussing it with my husband.

I have a feeling any attorney will want you or someone trusted to get power of attorney over this individual to dissuade others from taking undue advantage of him. Praying for you and yours.

 

[Luminous_Rose]

I have a feeling any attorney will want you or someone trusted to get power of attorney over this individual to dissuade others from taking undue advantage of him. Praying for you and yours.

That would be the smartest thing for him. His adoptive mother/his grandma was supposed to set up all that stuff before she passed away, but she assumed he would be fine and she never finished the papers. He won't agree to a power of attorney, either...not sure what to do there.

 

[daninthelionsden]

That would be the smartest thing for him. His adoptive mother/his grandma was supposed to set up all that stuff before she passed away, but she assumed he would be fine and she never finished the papers. He won't agree to a power of attorney, either...not sure what to do there.

They can conduct a competency hearing/test and place him under guardianship whether he likes it or not.

 

[JohnDB]

They can conduct a competency hearing/test and place him under guardianship whether he likes it or not.

Not likely to happen...very difficult to prove. And likely won't happen in time. The standards vary legally from state to state. And right now they are preoccupied with this virus and quarantine. The only good part is that he won't be investigated any time soon.

 

[daninthelionsden]

Not likely to happen...very difficult to prove. And likely won't happen in time. The standards vary legally from state to state. And right now they are preoccupied with this virus and quarantine. The only good part is that he won't be investigated any time soon.

If presented by a savvy atty. as a emergency situation to prevent exposure, it could indeed prioritize his case.

 

[JohnDB]

If presented by a savvy atty. as a emergency situation to prevent exposure, it could indeed prioritize his case.

Savvy and Pro Bono?

Ok...now you are dreaming. I know too many lawyers. They wouldn't risk the loss or fund the investigation.

 

[daninthelionsden]

Savvy and Pro Bono?

Ok...now you are dreaming. I know too many lawyers. They wouldn't risk the loss or fund the investigation.

My point is, this looks to be a legal matter and legal matters are best left to legal experts. There are free legal services and legal referral services available.