[__ Prayer __] Problems

[Jman96]

Lately I've been having some issues with family, mostly my mom. I come home after school and I don't have much to do, I do my daily chores (dog, dishes, any homework) that is to be expected. Then usually I will go in my room and usually get on my iPod and watch a Netflix and check out Facebook. I have been coming home and sleeping recently because school is just tiring.

Yesterday my mom is at home and she is just pissed. She is saying how she did the dishes for me and there was like nothing! She was telling me to make sure I wake at 6:10 instead of 6:15 when I always wake at 6:15 and make it work in the morning. Just seems to be grumpy. Then later that night she send me a text saying she made a mistake and she is the one that should wake at 6:10.

So today I get home, do chores, and take a nap. Then she calls and says she is almost home and the things she called about better be done. She left a message asking to help start cooking. I know I need to help so I started. She gets home and she Is just complaining. She is making a big deal and sends me to my room!? Saying don't ask me for anything and bam, were here.

Any reason why this is happening you think? She is normally nice and loving and just recently she is hurtful. Feel free to post advice as well as pray please!

 

[Classik]

We are
Did you tune the music loud? lol

I think she's just being a mom - nothing hurtful comes from moms. Maybe you are the one thinking something hurtful is coming from her when likely there isn't.

Honestly moms seem to behave strangely at times. But taking a closer look at situations really proves to you nothing is going on - just the mom thing about moms - in mom ways

She sure cares. If you want to prove this, just do all required of you as a son. Then lock yourself up in your room. The nect day do your usual whatever, greet her respectfully, go back to your room. She will come for you. She will get worried.

"Now what?" she would ask.
"Your attitude for some time now towards me..."
:dunno "Me?"
"You!"
"I wonder..."
"You really scared me."
"No harm, son."
:D"Wow!"
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Just do the normal things you are supposed to do, and AT THE RIGHT TIME. In fact, you should not be reminded of such things.

 

[Jman96]

Haha thanks bud! Gave me a smile. Lolz for days.

 

[Classik]

;););)
Moms, wonderful gift from God. (Although there are stinging ones). There are persnickety, servile, this and that moms etc And they are unpredictable at times.

 

[Jman96]

Yeah, I just don't get where she's coming from sometimes... I know she does a lot...I guess I just don't know what she's going through too..

 

[Classik]

She's your mom and you care, too. Try asking her questions. I try getting more and more closer to my mom. She tells me things. (At times it's just transfered agrression - nothing else). If this continues then there is something really wrong.

 

[God's_gift]

Hi J, yes sure we'll pray for you. I can relate with your feeling of tiredness. When i was in college 4 years ago i have to support my self financially , so i worked as a student assistant in a univerity cafe at the same time i work really hard to get good grades to maintain my academic scholarship. Have to wake up 5am in the morning and sleep 11pm in the evening. Yeah , it was very tiring , there were times that i wanted to give up. In addition to that , I have to help the young believers in our ministry plus the church activities and all were overwhelming to my schedules. I became very exhausted. As a woman, it was too much! I was very exhausted! Now , as a woman, i can relate with your mom. Maybe she’s just exhausted. Like you’ve said she is normally nice and loving. Being a mother is a very hard role, expecially if she is a working mom. The verse in Songs of Solomon 1:5-6 is very appropriate for every exhausted women out there, Dark am I, yet lovely, daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon. Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun. My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect. The woman in the passage is obviously overwhelmed by the chores and responsibilities in her family so she became exhausted. She forgets to take good care of her own self. So now, I think your mom needs a refresh. Refresh in godly way not in worldly way.

 

[Jman96]

Yeah, thanks so much. This is true...I just think you are right about the godly refresh. I see her struggling in her faith, I don't known If its a struggle, more of a really small flame. I know she believes but sometimes I wonder if she loves our amazing Father.

 

[Classik]

I know she believes but sometimes I wonder if she loves our amazing Father.

Nope Nope Nope Nope! You are not gonna relax. You have a greater task beyond chores. Please and please do try to know. She has been your mom for ages. There is no I WONDER. Just speak to her about the Father and know if she loves HIM. Having lived with her all these years one would expect you could always predict her stand in the Lord.

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[Tina]

She was telling me to make sure I wake at 6:10 instead of 6:15 when I always wake at 6:15 and make it work in the morning.

What's with the 6.10 and 6:15 .... just a 5 minutes difference !

You seem like a fine, responsible and respectful young man and your mom should be proud of you ....


But you know, sometimes women don't really say what's on our minds. She may be having some hard times at work or some other issues that she's not telling you.

Or maybe she's going through menopause .... Oops, did I just say that out loud ?

That "M" phase in a woman's life may send moods swinging and tempers flaring ....

Or maybe she is just having one of those other "m" days .... :help


It's normal for women to nag :nag ...

.. don't let her get you down, but just keep doing what you already seem to be doing well.

I will pray for you and your mom ...

 

[phantom309]

Sounds to me like shes just got the parent syndrome for the most part.There are likely things on her mind that she is reluctant to talk to you about.It could be job hassles,co-worker drama,etc.You never know until you ask.Until then it just never occurs to a parent to come to their child and talk about their issues,no matter how old or mature you may be.I think by default they always view us as the kid they raised and that well never understand where theyre coming from.

Surprise her one day by doing all the chores,not just your own.Try to wrap everything up that you know she would have to do when she gets home,so that the only thing she has left to do is relax.Give her some time to herself,and then go ask her is she has time to talk.Bring up whats been going on and ask why things have gone the way they have.Fish a little bit and figure out whats up.This may also be a good time to share your concerns on her faith.

It might also help immensely if you take it upon yourself to help with more than the dog and dishes.Put some clothes on to wash while youre studying,devote some extra time to general housekeeping.Any little help will be appreciated,and most likely will improve your relationship by showing that youre willing to do more than the minimum.