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March 7, 2006
The Sixth Love Language
Dave Wyrtzen
In his book the Five Languages of Love, Gary Chapman asks the question "Are you and your spouse speaking the same language?"
He argues that love is a "many-splendored thing" but it often becomes a very confusing.
Gary goes on to describe five different languages that lovers respond to most of all: physical touch, giving gifts, gifts of service, words of affirmation, and quality time.
It's a great book on love and two of my children have learned a great deal
from it but I want to expose the most confusing language of love that
lovers use.
It is a sixth language of love and to help you learn it let me
give you a few romantic scenarios:
1. Two graduate students are studying at Starbucks-a guy and a girl. The
girl looks up from her books, stands, and grabs her coat, "I've got to go
home. It's getting late."
The guy stands, "Hey, I'll walk you to your car."
They pause at her car door and the girl says again, "I've really got to go
home!"
The guy gently touches her hand, "Come on, just a few more minutes
lets go for a walk!"
" I really need to study some more, I've got to go
home!"
What is the girl actually saying to the guy?
2. A wife has worked all day long at an estate sale from 8:00 in the
morning until late afternoon. Her husband decides to check on her. He walks
into the dining room where she is answering questions about the
merchandise. The people decide not to buy.
She looks up, smiles, and says, "Honey, come on back here."
She walks him into the bathroom and there on the shelf are a half dozen antique knick- knacks that she has set aside during the day.
He can't even figure out what half of them are for.
"I don't really need this bowl and all this stuff. What do you think?"
The husband faces an important marital situation and obviously, her words are straightforward stuff that he learned in first grade?..
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3. A salesman is working late into the February afternoon. Six months ago
he won a cruise to Cancun, but he has not figured out whether he can break
away from work for a week. His phone rings.
"Honey, this is the deadline for deciding on the cruise.
"If we don't decide, we are going to lose it.
"You've stressed that it is really going to be hard for you to break away.
Why don't I give my mother a call and see if she would like to go with me?"
The husbands second line rings, "Sure honey, go ahead!"
He quickly hits the button.
That night his wife is all excited about the mother-daughter trip they are
going to get to make to the warm Gulf and white beaches. Her husband is
furious
" You mean you already set the whole thing up with your mom?"
What is the real language of love?
It's still only English or Spanish or any other native tongue you speak, but when it comes to the deep passions of our lives we often mean just the opposite of our literal words.
It depends on more factors than a scientist could ever factor in
In the first scenario when the girl said, "No, I really need to go home and
study some more!" She was actually saying, "Be strong. Insist that I go on a walk with you and hold your hand."
In this real scenario this was the walk when these two graduate students decided to take their relationship the next level-past just being committed friends.
In the second scenario, what was the wife really saying?
If the husband thinks that a great response will be, "No Honey, let's put all these good deals that you have scouted out all day back on the shelf," he is an idiot.
She is really saying, "I like this stuff and I've already figured out where it will look great in my kitchen."
The loving response in this real life scenario needs to be...
"Here is my wallet!"
What about the third scenario? Why was the husband angry?
He mistranslated his wife's suggestion about her mom.
What wife who genuinely does love her husband, actually wants to go on a cruise with her mother instead of her husband?
He should have heard her saying, "It's time to decide. Be strong,
take a break from work, and invite your lover for second honeymoon in
quixotic Mexico!"
In the Garden of Gethsemane Jesus cried. "Let this cup pass from me!"
In the ultimate love story His heavenly Father knew exactly what He meant.
"Thy will be done"
And the Son gave His life on Calvary so that all of us could revel in His Father's love forever if we only learn to trust and understand His Love Language.
>> For more great resources to help you grow in your relationship
with God, please visit Crosswalk Faith: http://www.crosswalkmail.com/kkxlixb_shcbsh.html
God bless!
Ian
Today's best advice for practical Christian living
http://www.Crosswalk.com
March 7, 2006
The Sixth Love Language
Dave Wyrtzen
In his book the Five Languages of Love, Gary Chapman asks the question "Are you and your spouse speaking the same language?"
He argues that love is a "many-splendored thing" but it often becomes a very confusing.
Gary goes on to describe five different languages that lovers respond to most of all: physical touch, giving gifts, gifts of service, words of affirmation, and quality time.
It's a great book on love and two of my children have learned a great deal
from it but I want to expose the most confusing language of love that
lovers use.
It is a sixth language of love and to help you learn it let me
give you a few romantic scenarios:
1. Two graduate students are studying at Starbucks-a guy and a girl. The
girl looks up from her books, stands, and grabs her coat, "I've got to go
home. It's getting late."
The guy stands, "Hey, I'll walk you to your car."
They pause at her car door and the girl says again, "I've really got to go
home!"
The guy gently touches her hand, "Come on, just a few more minutes
lets go for a walk!"
" I really need to study some more, I've got to go
home!"
What is the girl actually saying to the guy?
2. A wife has worked all day long at an estate sale from 8:00 in the
morning until late afternoon. Her husband decides to check on her. He walks
into the dining room where she is answering questions about the
merchandise. The people decide not to buy.
She looks up, smiles, and says, "Honey, come on back here."
She walks him into the bathroom and there on the shelf are a half dozen antique knick- knacks that she has set aside during the day.
He can't even figure out what half of them are for.
"I don't really need this bowl and all this stuff. What do you think?"
The husband faces an important marital situation and obviously, her words are straightforward stuff that he learned in first grade?..
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Experience Personal & Ministry Growth
Through Bible-Focused Degree Programs
Associate and Bachelor of Arts
Master of Arts, M.Div., Doctor of Arts, Doctor of Ministry
http://www.crosswalkmail.com/oxatpan_shcbsh.html
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
3. A salesman is working late into the February afternoon. Six months ago
he won a cruise to Cancun, but he has not figured out whether he can break
away from work for a week. His phone rings.
"Honey, this is the deadline for deciding on the cruise.
"If we don't decide, we are going to lose it.
"You've stressed that it is really going to be hard for you to break away.
Why don't I give my mother a call and see if she would like to go with me?"
The husbands second line rings, "Sure honey, go ahead!"
He quickly hits the button.
That night his wife is all excited about the mother-daughter trip they are
going to get to make to the warm Gulf and white beaches. Her husband is
furious
" You mean you already set the whole thing up with your mom?"
What is the real language of love?
It's still only English or Spanish or any other native tongue you speak, but when it comes to the deep passions of our lives we often mean just the opposite of our literal words.
It depends on more factors than a scientist could ever factor in
In the first scenario when the girl said, "No, I really need to go home and
study some more!" She was actually saying, "Be strong. Insist that I go on a walk with you and hold your hand."
In this real scenario this was the walk when these two graduate students decided to take their relationship the next level-past just being committed friends.
In the second scenario, what was the wife really saying?
If the husband thinks that a great response will be, "No Honey, let's put all these good deals that you have scouted out all day back on the shelf," he is an idiot.
She is really saying, "I like this stuff and I've already figured out where it will look great in my kitchen."
The loving response in this real life scenario needs to be...
"Here is my wallet!"
What about the third scenario? Why was the husband angry?
He mistranslated his wife's suggestion about her mom.
What wife who genuinely does love her husband, actually wants to go on a cruise with her mother instead of her husband?
He should have heard her saying, "It's time to decide. Be strong,
take a break from work, and invite your lover for second honeymoon in
quixotic Mexico!"
In the Garden of Gethsemane Jesus cried. "Let this cup pass from me!"
In the ultimate love story His heavenly Father knew exactly what He meant.
"Thy will be done"
And the Son gave His life on Calvary so that all of us could revel in His Father's love forever if we only learn to trust and understand His Love Language.
>> For more great resources to help you grow in your relationship
with God, please visit Crosswalk Faith: http://www.crosswalkmail.com/kkxlixb_shcbsh.html
God bless!
Ian