Q. Why wait for a man?

[Relic]

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This arrived in my email. thought I'd share it here.
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Q. Why wait for a man?
A. because.

Quite a few of my sisters are hurting because they are lonely and are not in a relationship. They feel stings of rejection because so many men are "picky" about my Sisters' height or weight or hair color...length of hair, etc.

I'm here to encourage you, my sisters
in this message for today.

You are not with the right man yet simply because it isn't as yet God's perfect will.

His timing is perfect.

Let me encourage you to NOT EVER SETTLE simply because you want to go out, or you feel lonely, or you want attention. Don't WASTE YOUR TIME, my sisters.

WAIT!

It will be worth it, my loves, I tell you true:
It is not that there is ANYTHING wrong with you

NEVER GO OUT WITH A "CRITICAL" MAN. NEVER EVER EVER go out with a man that criticizes you for ANYTHING. I don't care WHAT it is, never ever ever do it! NEVER!

The man God wants for you will be gracious and loving. It is not loving to be critical of your hair, or weight or make up. If you go out with a brother and he says something critical of you, end the date and do not ever go out with him again.

Come on, save our hearts for men who will love us, truly love US for who God made us to be .

Only God has the right to change us...and He does. He is molding you. It's His job and you know He's diligent and perfect in every way. All He needs from us is obedience!

Think about it, if you marry a man who tries to change you, or who is critical of you (ie. weight), you will be STUCK!!!!!!! For if you marry him, you have to submit to him. Do you want to be stuck in that kind of relationship until one of you die?

*shudder*

I was lamenting to God today all the men I have dated in my life and wishing I had only ever dated the man I married. I know it ended VERY badly, but the other relationships ended also, yet bear no positive fruit.

Take it a step farther, I wish (truly) that I had never ever had intimate relations with ANYONE other than my ex husband. I can't regret being with him (ultimately) because of my children, who are my heartbeat. As much as on one side, I wish I had never met him, on the other side of the coin are my blessed children. Yet even in that blessing of them, I am tied to a man who has abused me past what I could endure and my scars are literally all over my body.

The Bible says to FLEE from unrighteousness, to stay away from fornication and to stay away from an angry man, lest you become like him.

I believe it!

I too long for the man who will love me
love me as God's blessing
God's creation
a priceless treasure
someone to sing softly in my ear while holding me close to him in a cocoon of love like a sable blanket...the husband of my heart. Yet, I will nt settle again. I will not "go out" just to go out. I will no longer be gracious when a "Christian Brother" want to make out or paw me. I have decided that chaperone's really are a good idea...even if the chaperon is simply a public place. I am TIRED of "Christian Brothers" wanting to fornicate with me, saying sweet words of love to me to try to get something that DOES NOT BELONG TO HIM. I'm SICK TO DEATH of trying to politely tell a "Brother" that I am a lady and do not do "those kinds of things." MY GOSH!!!!!!!!!! WHY SHOULD I HAVE TO?????? WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED TO RESPECT????????

Well, I PUT MY FOOT DOWN

HARD

It is NOT acceptable behavior of any "Christian" man to devalue the sacredness of intimacy!

I WANT TO SPIT, I AM SO ANGRY!!!!!!!!!!

Sisters, I IMPLORE YOU TO WAIT
WAIT FOR THE MAN WHO GOD HAS SET ASIDE
I BELIEVE IT
I BELIEVE IT WHOLEHEARTEDLY

HE'S THERE

PROBABLY PRAYING TO GOD, BEGGING HIM TO BRING YOU INTO HIS LIFE...probably wondering if you exist

probably wondering if there are any "good girls" left

probably as lonely and despondent as you are...ready to give up, ready to give in.

PRAY FOR GOD'S "PERFECT WILL" IN YOUR LIFE
then my sisters, PRAY FOR YOUR MAN!
Pray for him every day
that God will protect him from harm
that God will protect him from fornication
that God will sculpt him into who God needs him to be
the God will prepare him to be the man you need
the husband you long for
the friend you desire
the lover you deserve

the one who will see you and his heart will quicken at the sight of you
the thought of you will bring him RACING home
you will stir his loins...hopefully into his 90's
he will pray with you
read God's word with you
protect you...as is his Godly role
love you.................cherish you.

Why wait?
because.

Now start praying girl
lets be specific with our Creator and Lord.
Lay it ALLLLLLLL out before Him
and get ready to LISTEN TO HIM!

expect our God to speak to you
He has much to say.

Let's not waste another MINUTE bemoaning the fact that "he" isn't in our life yet

Let's not waist another minute on ungodly men (even if they wear the badge of "Christian" )

We have much to prepare for.

put on that armor, my Sisters

We are Women of God.

 

[Relic]

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Please excuse the all caps in some sections. That's how the original email was passed along.



Part 2.

From a (non-christian) mans' perspective:

I don't understand why some women find it offensive when men try to make out with them. What is so hard about just saying no or that's enough most of us men understand NO very well. Just because I occasionally burn with passion doesn't make me an evil person or a non believer only human. So why is that offensive to some Christian women? Why not be flattered instead of offended?




A Christian woman replies:

Because of the spiritual role of the man, my Brother

The man is the spiritual head over his household
In essence, he is the leader

OF COURSE YOU WILL FEEL PASSION !!!!!
WE ALL DO (at least I THINK we all do, some have denied feeling anything)

The question is what do you do with it?

How honorable are you , after all (that's a general question and not accusatory at all ) ?

YES, THE WOMAN CAN SAY NO
BUT WHY SHOULD SHE HAVE TO?

THE MAN OF GOD SHOULD RESPECT HIS SISTER-IN-CHRIST SO MUCH
LOVE HER SO MUCH!
THAT SHE WOULD NEVER BE IN THE POSITION TO HAVE TO SAY NO !!!!

DO YOU UNDERSTAND MY POINT?
FOR IT'S BIBLICAL, my Brother

RESPECT
&
LOVE

It's all about how much do you in fact respect the women you date
Are you thinking of them as a potential wife for your home?
or are you just wanting to go out and have a good time?

Ergo, our stand against JUNK DATING!!!!!!!

Now, I AM NOT SAYING JUST GOING OUT FOR KICKS IS BAD, BROTHER
I'M SAYING THAT THERE ARE THOSE OF US WHO ARE SAYING WE DON'T WANT THAT ANYMORE!!!!!

AND WE ARE TAKING A STAND AGAINST IT
"It" being "Junk Dating"
I personally have an opinion
AND I ONLY SPEAK FOR ME
that I consider "junk dating" a waist of my time

----> I am speaking for no one else but me <-----

I DESERVE THE RESPECT OF THE MAN I BELONG TO
FOR I HAVE TO SUBMIT TO HIM WHEN HE'S MY HUSBAND
IF THE MAN I AM WITH DOESN'T HAVE THE RESPECT FOR ME TO PREVENT A POSITION WHERE WE CAN BE UNCHASTE, THEN HE IS NOT THE MAN I WANT TO SUBMIT UNDER HIS AUTHORITY

HE IS NOT THE MAN I WANT HEAD OF MY HOUSEHOLD

HE IS UNWORTHY TO LEAD MY HOUSE.........

Brother, as women, we have to submit to our husbands
The husband leads us...we are commanded to obey them
We have to answer to God by obeying our husband

THIS IS THE WISEST THING WE CAN DO IS SELECT WELL
SELECT OUR HUSBAND WISELY
...it's our choice

We have so much to prepare for
so many responsibilities as wives and mothers

"Why not be flattered instead of offended?"
because I can have \bsexo?\b with a different man a night
I get propositioned repeatedly in my Valley
I have a plethora of men who want to have \bsexo?\b with me
ASK TO HAVE \bsexo?\b WITH ME
flattered?
Why should I be flattered because a man wants to have \bsexo?\b with me
\bsexo?\b is not love!!!!

I should be flattered because a man wants me in a sexual manner?
If that is the case, every whore should be very flattered...and I am NOT a whore!

I am a Woman of God
of God
of the Most High God
My standards are HIGH
for I am held to an incredibly high standard by my God
who is ALWAYS WITH ME

Know what makes my heart melt?
someone who loves me so much that he makes sure we are never in a position to grieve the Holy Spirit
so my blessing isn't lifted
and we are in God's PERFECT WILL
HOLY WILL
Where He not only CAN but WILL BLESS US
because that man CARES FOR ME AND MY WELFARE
HE CARES ABOUT MY HEART
MY LIFE
MY THOUGHTS
HE CARES ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS TO ME
HE LOVES ME
AND LOVE IS A VERB, BROTHER!

WE ARE WOMEN OF GOD,
WE ARE NOT whoreS!

 

[squirrelz_15]

You guys are getting way to excited. Seriously, the responsibility of purity does not fall on one person or the other. It's both people's responsibility. Set boundaries, stick to them. If one is having a week moment, hopefully the other won't be. Also, I agree it's important to not just date. Be patient on God because it will bring much less heartache in the end. You both have good points.

 

[CrimsonRose]

Thank you for sharing your post it was helpful i get so tired of encountering the same thing and its hard to constantly be asked out by men who even though they know of your spiritual beliefs they think that they can talk you out of it. Im currently in college and a music major it is difficult to always ward off men who are just interested in one thing. The contradiction is that christian girls are "sexy" and so is a virgin however dating one that wont give in is not.

 

[animal]

Sorry we're so horny and shallow..

 

[Relic]

Sorry we're so horny and shallow..

There are two sides to every coin... There are good men, and men who are of dishonorable character. It all depends upon which side of the coin you want to take a stand for. If you agree that a man should honor Holy Spirit Christ-like character and invite Christ into their life to live in and through them, then you would have no problem with the reason a woman should wait for the right man. Same should apply to the man in not just taking on any woman, but they too should wait for the right woman.

 

[Caroline H]

Sorry we're so horny and shallow..

Animal, don't take it personally. Until you have lived as a young woman you will have no idea what it feels like sometimes to be treated like a sex object by men. Not all men are like that obviously, but sometimes a woman finds herself in circles where it seems like every single man in her surroundings is only interested in one thing from her. This is not a "man bashing" thread, so don't take it as such.

 

[Lizz]

Relic, I love the post. It's very encouraging.

Animal, everybody has times of weakness; the most important thing is respect. There's a difference between moments of weakness and straight-up bad intentions. I believe most women can discern the difference.

 

[Relic]

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Here is my plea to all the ladies, young and old...


Instructions

1. - Copy and paste the letter into your database. Then, place these words at the top of the
letter: Read this every day, memorize it.

2. - Then, highlight it, create a two column format. an 8pt font for the body of the letter and an 12 point font for the first two sentences at the top of the letter. That should make it fit onto one piece of paper for a double sided print out.

3. - Fold in half veritcally, (right side folded to the back of the page) and then tri-fold horizontally (bottom folded under and top folded toward the backside) So the title is the first thing you see as you hold it in your hand.

4. - Carry it with you wherever you go, and read it every day.

5. - Print out several extra copies and pass them out everywhere you go and ask others if htey would help you to share the message also.

6. - And when you run out, print some more and keep on giving them away to anyone you would hope to make good use of the message. ( I leave them wherever you go. with a clerk, with a waitress, with a stranger as you are shopping. Just pass them out like they were free candy! And Pray that we see a more and more women start to make a change in their behavior, and also join in on passing the message onward to others themselves. )



God bless you.

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