question on marriage

[jaizen]

Hello,

I had a question on marriage. A few years ago I had sex with a woman who was not a christian. I had hit a very low point in my life and ended up sinning. But God forgave me and restored me. Now I find out that she is a christian. I am wondering if I should marry her or marry someone else. Would I be sinning if I marry someone else? I don't think I love her anymore but I know that she still has feelings for me. I dont want to commit a sin against my soul if I were to marry someone else and consummate the marriage considering that I sinned before?

Please advise!!

 

[Grazer]

If you dont love her anymore, I think you've answered the question.

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[Claudya]

You said God forgave you and restored you. That means the sin you committed a few years back are irrelevant considering your present and future life (including marriage, of course).
Ask yourself: would you consider marrying that woman if the sex with her had never happened?

 

[Igloo]

I wouldn't. If you do, and you don't love her, you would end up sinning a whole lot more the rest of your life because of the lack of love in the relationship. And frankly- if you don't love her, do you really think she would want you to marry her if she knew that? Who would want to marry someone that they have to push all the time just to get a smile or love out of them? What a horrible relationship that would be. Spare her.

 

[Matthew G]

You said God forgave you and restored you. That means the sin you committed a few years back are irrelevant considering your present and future life (including marriage, of course).

Exactly. When God forgave and restored you, your past sins were washed away. He doesn't see them when he looks at you anymore. They are irrelevant to the life you live now. You should put them aside, as well, and just continue to move forward.

 

[doubleheman]

Whats to stop us from going around sining all the time then praying for forgiveness and then getting them washed away?

 

[Claudya]

Whats to stop us from going around sining all the time then praying for forgiveness and then getting them washed away?

That actually happens a lot. Some sinfull behaviour is like a habit or an addiction. Imagine an alcoholic that wants to quit, he or she repents and asks God for forgiveness, stops drinking, relapses, repents and asks for forgiveness again, relapses again, and so on, until she or he finally manages to quit drinking, maybe months or years after his/ her first attempt. Drinking may be an extreme example, but many sins that seem more "harmless" and normal are actually hard to overcome habits, too.
God will forgive you as many times as necessary, as long as you are honest and keep trying.

If there is a sin you could avoid, but still commit it, because you take God's fogiveness for granted and plan on asking for forgiveness afterwards, He may wonder how serious you are about your request for forgiveness. I hope you know what I wanted to say, it's not my first language and that sentence was kinda a challenge.

 

[Sparkey]

Grace without change is false grace. Denying the purpose of grace frustrates what God intends.
Can we really repent without change? Only if we lie to ourselves, right?

 

[Matthew G]

"Now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, so that, as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

"What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?" - Romans 5:20 - 6:2 (ESV)