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Questioning God's Plan. . .

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aimee_747

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I know God has a plan for each and everyone one of us way before we were even born. And I know their is a reason and purpose to everyone's life. But tragedy has struck and I can't help but question why?

A friend of mine, Buddy McCoy, only 23 years old, was killed in a car wreck last night. Why, God? Why so young? Why in a tragedy of a wreck? Why such a painful death to such a good person? Why must his parents suffer by burying their child? Children aren't supposed to go first. Parents shouldn't have to deal with that kind of unthinkable pain.

He is way too young. I don't understand and I know I'm in no place to question God but it just doesn't seem fair to me. I never got to say bye.

I know he's in a better place right now looking down on all of us and I should be celebrating for that reason instead of grieving. But I'd rather he be here. On earth. With us. With his family. I just don't understand.

Please, someone help me answer these questions. And please keep the McCoy family of Ponca City, OK in your prayers.

Thank you.
 
aimee_747

I am so sorry to hear about your friend and yes, it's hard to understand why this or that happens and why there is so much suffering and pain at times.

For now, greive and try not to understand. Now is the time to go to God's loving arms in prayer and just be the person you are in Christ.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you that you find patience to allow God's plan to work itself out in your life.

God Bless you.

Jeff
 
Aimee,

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend, I know how hard it is to lose a good friend. I will pray for your friend and for his family and friends.

That said, God is not the cause of evil, but he permits its existence so that a greater good can come about. We can't, and often don't understand, but I think that will be part of the joy of Heaven--seeing how everything worked to serve the good... even the most horrible pains of tragedy and suffering find their meaning in Divine Providence.

Grieving is okay-- in fact, grief is good. You loved your friend, and your grief over his death is an illustration of that love of friendship and concern for his person. And so I echo the sentiments of the post above mine and take your grief and hurt to prayer.
 
Aimee, I am so very sorry for your loss, and their family has my prayers today. The Lord bless, and comfort, you and them during this time of sorrow.
 
Thank you all so very much for your kind thoughts and prayers.

And Lewis, to answer your question, I honestly don't know if he was saved. But I truly want to believe in my mind and heart that he is in Heaven right now.

I met him while attending a Christian University, but anyone one who's been to a private school knows that there are more 'unholy' people there verses a public school. Or at least in my experience.

I know he believed in God and His Word but I don't know if his lifestyle proved that. Over the last year, we grew apart being that we lived two hours apart. It truly breaks my heart to not have a solid answer to that question since I hold Buddy so dear to my heart.
 
All that matters is that he accepted Christ as the only way to make amends for his lifestyle and accepted Christ's Lordship over his soul. Remember that even Peter fell away, but in the end, Christ defeats all of our sin if we only believe.

You know, Job asked God why He let bad things overrun his life. If you read the whole book, you find all the answers that we mistakingly give trying to understand it. But when God Himself spoke, he really didn't answer the question, but he did get to the point of the matter. And that is this: the Lord, who has created life and has prepared for death, who makes the strong and the weak, the land and its teeming life, is in control. These tragedies are exctly what you say, they are tragedies. And no one ever said it was fair. Even Jesus said that the good people who would follow him would have to go through the same things he did. But our hope is this: In the end, the tragedies will stop.

And still more hopre remains. For after you have grieved now, later, you will see him again, alive and well, in no pain, just eagerly waiting for you too.
And he is truly still with us. A believer is in Christ, and Christ lives in us today. Yes, it is sad that all of us must leave for a while, but when we remember those who have gone ahead, and live in such a way that their memory honors Christ, well then, our families are never separated.

May the God of peace that rules in grieve and joy watch over and comfort you in all situations. And feel free to vent, because we love you too. Send our love to the family please.
 
aimee-I believe all of us have questioned why God allows the various tragedies in life that we see almost daily. I do believe he's in control of everything and that means the good and the bad and bad things do happen to good people. It rains on the just and the unjust. All of us will meet the end of this life someday in various ways...we won't know how or when. Sometimes we bring an untimely death upon ourselves like my Mom, for instance, who knew she was suppose to take blood pressure medication and only did it sporadically. Her refusal to follow her doctor's advice caused her to have multiple strokes as her blood pressure shot up over 225. She lapsed into a coma and never recovered. That's just one of hundreds of examples how we bring many times, problems on oureselves.

I don't know the circumstances surrounded the death of your friend. Perhaps he attempted to take a curve too fast or was hit by a drunk driver. Know this, however, whatever age you are, you will see many things in life that don't make a lot of sense. I don't understand how a parent can torture or shake to death a beautiful little 2 year old girl and cause such trauma, she either is affected mentally for the rest of her life, or is killed in the process.

I have seen a lot of death in these 60 years God has allowed me to tread this earth and a lot of it didn't make sense to me either and, I questioned myself as to what could possibly have been God's motives for letting it happen. I think it's only natural to do so. But, I didn't hold it against him for taking my Mom as he did because she brought it upon herself. I've had classmates who died in the bush in Viet Nam at the age of 20-22 years old while I was at the same time in Germany with a cushy job.

Life is but a vapor, a fleeting moment in time that will soon end for us all. For everyone that's on this board, someone may have gotten up today and laced their shoes for the last time.

Look at the unjust losses of Job. The man was considered by God to be upright in everyway and that there was no one like him. However, he lost everything and everyone he loved but his wife. I've seen young girls go full term in their pregnancy only to deliver a still born child. Others have only a year or two to spend with their child before death comes to that child. I've had friends, when in high school, to die while still in school. I've seen cancer come to those much to young to even begin to think about such a malignacy. Moreover, as recent as today, I read of a friend who was playing the piano for a Southern Gospel music concert and fell over dead at the age of 44 leaving behind a wife, two sons, and a daughter. Why did this happen? Only God knows. Why couldn't he have lived to 75 or 88? Not for us to decide or question.

Job 14:1-2 (KJV) Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble. He cometh forth like a flower, and is cut down: he fleeth also as a shadow, and continueth not.

There's a brand new home awaiting for God's faithful regardless of the age he chooses to take us. And, as Lewis said...just be ready. Life is much to fragile to do otherwise.
 
Aimee,

I hope you are doing well. I stumbled across some verses that help me in my times of sorrow. I hope that you can find the same comforts.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-10 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace. What profit has he that works in that in which he labors? I have seen the task, which God has given to the sons of men to be occupied in it.

Ecclesiastes 3:11 He has made every thing beautiful in its time: also he has put eternity in men's hearts, so that no man can find out the work that God does from the beginning to the end.

I am reminded of the purpose of Christ's sufferings in Hebrews 2:9-10
But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels for the suffering of death, crowned with glory and honor; that he by the grace of God should taste death for every man. For it befitted him, for whom are all things, and by whom are all things, in bringing many sons unto glory, to make the captain of their salvation perfect through sufferings.

And so too, my Sister in Christ, are we being made perfect through Christ's sufferings. amen
 
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