relationship advice needed

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this is my 1st real question i've asked on here :D

there's this girl in the church who's one of the nicest people you will ever meet, devote christian etc etc....
over the last few weeks she been showing an interest in me which is great as i've been waiting fo someone like her to come along (use to be one for 'moving around a bit'!!)
the complication is, she was going out with one of my best friends, also a christian, and it only ended 10 weeks ago. they were going out about 2 months. he was heart broken.
i've asked him would he mind if something did happen between myself and this girl and he's said go ahead but i dont think he's being fully truthful.
i'm afraid of being caught in the middle!!
need advice on the matter so please help!!
cheers

 

[heather]

You should pray about it and ask God to make it clear to you what He wants for your life.

 

[Blazin Bones]

What are you looking for in a relationship? Is this just because she is interested and you like her as well, or is there some actual substance to this other than the mutual attraction.

I dated before I met my fiance and I wish I hadn't. Not because I did anything I should not have done, but because of small things like a first kiss that I did not have with her. Keep in mind I am a Guy, and I'm a very big fan of dating with the intent of marraige. I even remained single for almost 8 years because I wanted what was best for my life and not for the latest chapter.

 

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i have been praying about it alot.

What are you looking for in a relationship? Is this just because she is interested and you like her as well, or is there some actual substance to this other than the mutual attraction.

I dated before I met my fiance and I wish I hadn't. Not because I did anything I should not have done, but because of small things like a first kiss that I did not have with her. Keep in mind I am a Guy, and I'm a very big fan of dating with the intent of marraige. I even remained single for almost 8 years because I wanted what was best for my life and not for the latest chapter.

up until last year i would be been in the same boat as you were 8 years before you met you fiance and i've been single for the same reason you were, i got sick of it.
i'm looking for something alot more than that in a relationship, i've known her for good while so its more than just mutual attraction, its way stronger than that. she the type of girl i want to end up marrying if its right between us, but you dont know that without dating for a while with them!!
i know it sounds bad on her part that she was with someone for 2 months and is now ' moving on' but she's not like that, before she was single for 2 years. if it wasnt for the complication of it being a good friend of mine i'd ask her out.

 

[Blazin Bones]

I understand the oddness of likely someone who just broke up with a friend.

I also disagree about the need to date for a while to know. Caroline and I knew more or less to start with. We had our doubts but the knowledge was there.

 

[sesantek]

I read ur story and i want to advise you to be careful. The girl may not be sincere. Your friend will not like it and as agood friend you are not to go into a relationship with the girl.

Pleasew depend more Gd and His instruction before you go into any relationship.

You can check out this resources for great education for singles

www.rocktech.biz/singleandsure.html

this is my 1st real question i've asked on here :D

there's this girl in the church who's one of the nicest people you will ever meet, devote christian etc etc....
over the last few weeks she been showing an interest in me which is great as i've been waiting fo someone like her to come along (use to be one for 'moving around a bit'!!)
the complication is, she was going out with one of my best friends, also a christian, and it only ended 10 weeks ago. they were going out about 2 months. he was heart broken.
i've asked him would he mind if something did happen between myself and this girl and he's said go ahead but i dont think he's being fully truthful.
i'm afraid of being caught in the middle!!
need advice on the matter so please help!!
cheers

 

[sesantek]

I read ur story and i want to advise you to be careful. The girl may not be sincere. Your friend will not like it and as agood friend you are not to go into a relationship with the girl.

Pleasew depend more Gd and His instruction before you go into any relationship.

You can check out this resources for great education for singles

www.rocktech.biz/singleandsure.html

this is my 1st real question i've asked on here :D

there's this girl in the church who's one of the nicest people you will ever meet, devote christian etc etc....
over the last few weeks she been showing an interest in me which is great as i've been waiting fo someone like her to come along (use to be one for 'moving around a bit'!!)
the complication is, she was going out with one of my best friends, also a christian, and it only ended 10 weeks ago. they were going out about 2 months. he was heart broken.
i've asked him would he mind if something did happen between myself and this girl and he's said go ahead but i dont think he's being fully truthful.
i'm afraid of being caught in the middle!!
need advice on the matter so please help!!
cheers

 

[heather]

I understand the oddness of likely someone who just broke up with a friend.

I also disagree about the need to date for a while to know. Caroline and I knew more or less to start with. We had our doubts but the knowledge was there.

I would have to agree with Tim here. My husband and I were friends for 5 years before we started dating, and I was simply biding time until he understood it too. I knew from the moment I met him that he would be my husband. He knew from simply 2 weeks of a relationship beyond a friendship. And sex was not involved.

I only ever dated with the intention of marrying, and that's why I have only dated 2 people.

 

[Adullam]

A Christian bases everything on Christ. Are you ready to marry this lady? Let God reveal the purpose of said attraction over some time. Go slow, don't panic, and trust the Lord.

 

[Blazin Bones]

I understand the oddness of likely someone who just broke up with a friend.

I also disagree about the need to date for a while to know. Caroline and I knew more or less to start with. We had our doubts but the knowledge was there.

I would have to agree with Tim here. My husband and I were friends for 5 years before we started dating, and I was simply biding time until he understood it too. I knew from the moment I met him that he would be my husband. He knew from simply 2 weeks of a relationship beyond a friendship. And sex was not involved.

I only ever dated with the intention of marrying, and that's why I have only dated 2 people.

I dated with the same intentions and I only had three girl friends. However, only Caroline shared the desire for such a relationship. No wonder it worked out. Even more important is the desire to date God's way. This is not a push for courtship but a reminded that Christians should date quite differently then those who are not Christians.