:D I agree with you Brutus,and it shouldn't be the first thing you
do just over an argument,or things not so serious.
I just recently found out that my husband had other women in his
work truck with him all through out the years he was working for
this oil company. He's an industrial mechanic,and most of the women
were secretary's or clerks. The last one broke up a marriage including
her own to cheat with a married man at work,and he told his wife it was
part of his job just like my husband is telling me now.
I never knew this was happening at all,the whole time we have been
married. He left me alone most of the time,and hardly ever gave me
any attention during our marriage. he just always said he was never
that affectionate. I don't know for a fact that he cheated on me,but years
back,he did make some passes at my sister before he was saved.
After he was saved he still did unkind things,but I didn't really think he
would take it too far.
Right now I just went back to College,and I am asking God to reveal the
truth to me. Thats how I found out that he was keeping things about his
job from me. He was on the commity where he works and never told me
that. when I found out,he had already been on it for a year. I thought
it shouldn't be that big of a deal to tell me something as little as that.
He said he didn't think it was important. The fact is,he has always told me
very little about his job,and I never questioned it before until recently
when his behavior turned even worse. The signs that he was straying away
from God should have been a big clue,but as christians we try not to judge
after all,some of us need more time,and some of us grow faster than
others. I just feel that divorce should be allowed when things are so
painful as in cheating,ect.... that it hurts to bad to stay in the marriage.