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Should people be controlling in a dating relationship?

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Dave Slayer

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Should people be controlling in a dating relationship? My ex GF was very controlling. She pretty much wanted to know where I was at all times. She would also accuse me of looking at other women when were in public, but she would flirt with other guys and expected me not to get mad. She also wanted me to herself a lot. It's like because I was dating her, my friends and family no longer should be important to me. Should rarely gave me time to hang out with my other friends. She would get upset if I left her to go hang out with my family. Then should would pout so I would ask her to come with me. Then should would pout once we got to my families event. She always expected me to go to her family events and I did without pouting about it. Why couldn't she give me the same respect?

One time when we were in the car, I stopped at a traffic light to look both ways before proceeding though. There happened to be a girl in a car next to me and she accused me of looking at her. I did no such thing, she just happened to be within my eyesight. But should would look at other guys and even say they are cute. Then she would get mad at me if I told her I didn't like it. Talk about a double standard. Has anyone else ever gone though this?

I know all girls aren't like that, and I hope to find one that is not like this.
 
Honestly I once was one such girl. In most cases, though perhaps NOT all insecurity can play a big role in such relationships. A lot of the time when a single person is controlling within his/her relationship with another it is often due to insecurities harbored within. Perhaps even low feelings or lack of feeling of self worth.

Not that such behavior should be condoned. For those sort of relationships can and often do prove to be very unhealthy. A relationship cannot work after all without trust.
 
I don't like it when guys look at other women in a lustful way. If you weren't doing that, then I'd have to say that perhaps she'd been crossed at some point and needs to let go of those experiences?
 
Fembot said:
I don't like it when guys look at other women in a lustful way. If you weren't doing that, then I'd have to say that perhaps she'd been crossed at some point and needs to let go of those experience?
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It was not a lustful look. I was simply checking traffic. There just happen to be a girl in the car over.
 
You deserve a better girl than that Dave, and I hope you find one one day.

Was she Christian?
 
Dave Slayer said:
[quote="Nick_29":1gwn6h1g]Was she Christian?
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Nope. Which is why I won't date a non Christian again.[/quote:1gwn6h1g]
Good move.

But maybe she did have a bad experience in the past?
 
Nick_29 said:
[quote="Dave Slayer":18gciixf][quote="Nick_29":18gciixf]Was she Christian?
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Nope. Which is why I won't date a non Christian again.[/quote:18gciixf]
Good move.

But maybe she did have a bad experience in the past?[/quote:18gciixf]

Yes, I believe has had bad experiences in the past. But that doesn't mean I should have dated her. I knew better and did so anyways. I learned a good lesson though. :yes
 
why shouldn't you date someone who has had bad experiences? Do you honestly think there are people out there with NO BAD EXPERIENCES EVER?
 
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why shouldn't you date someone who has had bad experiences? Do you honestly think there are people out there with NO BAD EXPERIENCES EVER?
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As long as they have learned from their experiences. People tend to carry things over from their previous relationships. It's hard to do ,but we should be willing to start new and not punish someone for what someone else has done. I've been down that road.

We should be respectful, not controlling. :yes
 
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why shouldn't you date someone who has had bad experiences? Do you honestly think there are people out there with NO BAD EXPERIENCES EVER?
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Because she wasn't a Christian. I would date a Christian, even if she had bad experiences. But I wouldn't date or marry anyone unless they are a Christian.
 
Dave Slayer said:
Fembot said:
why shouldn't you date someone who has had bad experiences? Do you honestly think there are people out there with NO BAD EXPERIENCES EVER?
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Because she wasn't a Christian. I would date a Christian, even if she had bad experiences. But I wouldn't date or marry anyone unless they are a Christian.
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Good decision Dave. :thumb
 
anyone with me on thinking this could be better suited to the Singles, Dating & Courtship forum?
 
Nick_29 said:
anyone with me on thinking this could be better suited to the Singles, Dating & Courtship forum?
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I am fine with that. :yes
 
Dave Slayer said:
[quote="Nick_29":1361n0fe]anyone with me on thinking this could be better suited to the Singles, Dating & Courtship forum?
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I am fine with that. :yes[/quote:1361n0fe]
Yes, I'm thinking it would be better there.

*goes and moves topic*
 
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