Starting a rough journey, prayers appreciated.

[Sauterine]

As we mature, we go through stages. Each new stage is a new challenge and while it could be considered rough, it's really just different and feels unsure because we haven't been there before. God has. God is with you both, and I hope He blesses your efforts in amazing ways =]

 

[Gazelle]

I commend both you and your GF for deciding to be celibate until after the wedding. I assure you that you will both appreciate this decision.

It's difficult to talk to anyone who has never had physical relations with someone how once you begin, it's like you can never stop the craving. For women, I liken it just a bit to shaving their legs... once you begin you can never stop (well, you can but it's really tough!)

But with the physical relations hormones are involved and yes indeed it is difficult.

If you both find that you are sensing you might not be able to wait... put blocks in your way to help you keep the promise you made to each other. Don't be alone, in a private place. Go to public places. Choose your friends well, and share with other Christians how you are (engaged?) but if the subject comes up, that you are both waiting till marriage. You don't need to elaborate about the front story.

There are many things you both can be working on now, before marriage, that can take your time and thoughts. Money is one of them... how you handle finances and how you will do that together once married. Becoming faithful in a church is important as well... because if children come along, you want a stable relationship within a church for the support, and of course for the care of children as well (nurturing in the Lord help ;) .

Discussing how each of you were raised, what you expect in work, time together, devotions, finances, discipline, expectations etc etc etc! So much. And some of those conversations, if truly discussed and not glossed over, will help prevent feeling physical towards the other!

I'm disappointed that you named this "Starting a rough journey..." because the mindset might work better for you if you change it. Starting an exciting journey... or something along those lines will help. If you think of it as rough or tough then that's the premise you will be building the relationship upon over time.

As we mature, we go through stages. Each new stage is a new challenge and while it could be considered rough, it's really just different and feels unsure because we haven't been there before. God has. God is with you both, and I hope He blesses your efforts in amazing ways! :heart