Suffering fools gladly

[humble soul]

Since I can be one, I suffer them quite gladly. Problem will be if they are too full of themselves. It does get tiring.
Ok one of my awesome theories. There are only 2 kinds of people in the world: kind and unkind.
The unkind type tend to be doers and high achievers. They generally succeed in the world. And wonder why others can't work as hard as them. Or achieve like them. They might have opinions like " if everyone had a hard working, positive attitude like me, the world would have few if any problems and be a better place".
The kind type type struggle. Success doesn't come easy. They realise that they are made of different stuff to the high achievers. They lack toughness. They lack drive. They get distracted easily and forget their goals. They might have ambition but it soon gets railroaded by mental fragility and emotional disturbance. They start to feel like victims but then realise that's a weak excuse. The victim narrative is a get out of jail free card. They don't want to use it but they feel drawn to it. They notice others like themselves. They feel empathy on a case by case basis. Part of them feels they belong to loser status but still they have some "unkind" propaganda in their soul. "I'm a wimp. I just don't have what it takes to succeed. I'm too soft" .
Then the ones drawn to the "kind" philosophy of life, feel they need to be kinder to themselves in order to be kind to everyone. Success is not their forte. Maybe kindness is. Let's give it a goo anyway.

 

[humble soul]

I've got a at least two siblings with the "unkind" philosophy of life. They are hard workers and high achievers. They have high status in our family. I respect them but have grown to dislike some of their character traits. They don't suffer fools gladly. They can be very dismissive of those they disagree with. ( Oops I do that sometimes)
Conversations with them can be like a test. A test of whether I measure up . Whether I tick their boxes of approval. They tend not to like "grey". Decisions have to be made. Is Humble up to scratch or not?
Ok I think I've betrayed some of my family issues here. Who me screwed up? Just a little. ?

 

[humble soul]

But then again , my self judgement comes from a mind that clings to a certain amount of the "unkind" philosophy.
When I am negatively judged by others it merely triggers my own self bully. The self bully is far more potent than others could be.
Self acceptance is a worthy goal.but one problem is we also aim for self improvement. So if we accept ourselves too easily, we might stop trying to improve.