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Thursday, November 3, 2005
What Is the Measure of a Man?
Carolyn McCulley
Author & Contributing Writer
I'm Safety Sister - the woman every single guy feels safe to talk to. It's
a development I didn't expect as a result of a book I wrote for single
women. Now I'm a repository of advice for single men everywhere who want to figure out what to do with a woman they are interested in.
My counsel always boils down to the same three words: Talk. To. Her.
Yes, it's a risk to communicate whatever level of interest you have and ask her if she's interested in exploring anything further.
Yes, you might get rejected.
Yes, you should have to answer for your behavior toward her to
her pastor, father, or friends.
But that's what masculinity is all about: risk and reward. And we ladies want to encourage the men around us to be men and take risks. That's how you express trust in God. We express trust in God by waiting on you.
So, gentlemen, that's the extent of my counsel to you. Now I turn my
attention to the ladies ... so that we can talk about you. Here's a
question I recently received from a young woman in her early 20s:
Last night my sister and I were jokingly talking about things guys do that
are so cute. And they were little things, like when their hair is messed
up, etc. But then we started talking about how attractive it is when a guy
actually pays attention to you when you're talking, when he asks you
questions, or actually works hard to get to know you. I had to stop at that
point because I was wondering if our expectations of men are too low.
Maybe it's because my sisters and I have been watching "Pride & Prejudice" that I have started thinking that these "amazing" guys who actually listen to a woman, open a door for her, or treat her with chivalry shouldn't be considered the cream of the crop -- but merely normal gentlemen.
Do you think I'm being idealistic?
(One more aside to the guys: Note the "Pride & Prejudice" reference. This is important. Seriously. If you want to understand most women, connect with Jane Austen.)
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Crosswalk Singles
a fresh perspective on being single
http://www.crosswalkmail.com/lddgzzf_geztje.html
Thursday, November 3, 2005
What Is the Measure of a Man?
Carolyn McCulley
Author & Contributing Writer
I'm Safety Sister - the woman every single guy feels safe to talk to. It's
a development I didn't expect as a result of a book I wrote for single
women. Now I'm a repository of advice for single men everywhere who want to figure out what to do with a woman they are interested in.
My counsel always boils down to the same three words: Talk. To. Her.
Yes, it's a risk to communicate whatever level of interest you have and ask her if she's interested in exploring anything further.
Yes, you might get rejected.
Yes, you should have to answer for your behavior toward her to
her pastor, father, or friends.
But that's what masculinity is all about: risk and reward. And we ladies want to encourage the men around us to be men and take risks. That's how you express trust in God. We express trust in God by waiting on you.
So, gentlemen, that's the extent of my counsel to you. Now I turn my
attention to the ladies ... so that we can talk about you. Here's a
question I recently received from a young woman in her early 20s:
Last night my sister and I were jokingly talking about things guys do that
are so cute. And they were little things, like when their hair is messed
up, etc. But then we started talking about how attractive it is when a guy
actually pays attention to you when you're talking, when he asks you
questions, or actually works hard to get to know you. I had to stop at that
point because I was wondering if our expectations of men are too low.
Maybe it's because my sisters and I have been watching "Pride & Prejudice" that I have started thinking that these "amazing" guys who actually listen to a woman, open a door for her, or treat her with chivalry shouldn't be considered the cream of the crop -- but merely normal gentlemen.
Do you think I'm being idealistic?
(One more aside to the guys: Note the "Pride & Prejudice" reference. This is important. Seriously. If you want to understand most women, connect with Jane Austen.)
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See our Movie Review Forum...
http://www.christianforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=18689
