The X is playing mind games...

[Blazin Bones]

Okay, part of my ministry is talking with gals who are just hittin a bumpy part of life. Lately, it seems most of the m have been the victim of their X's mind games. Frankly, nothing sickens me more than a creep who plays them. I've been helpin them, but I figured it be a good discussion. How do you feel about gamers? What are some tips you can pass along to those who may need them? Let's get started. 8-)

 

[Amity]

Maybe I'm just too old, but can you please define "gamers" ? : Then I might have some insight. :smt023

By the way, do these young ladies have an older or more "mature in the faith", woman to talk to about issues with their "X's" ?

Titus 2:3-5

Just a suggestion.

I'm not quite sure what your ministry is, since I'm new here. Could you maybe elaborate or direct me to a thread about you. :bday: Thanks!!

Love in Him,

 

[Blazin Bones]

Okay, the gamers would be any person who likes playing with the emotions of thier X for what ever reason.

As for the older woman, I direct them to her. However, I do not let that hinder me from being the big brother.

 

[Amity]

However, I do not let that hinder me from being the big brother.

Oh, no, absolutely not. I totally understand that. I have a 16 year old brother in Christ who comes to me by AIM to talk quite often.

 

[Scott]

It goes both ways. Usually its best to hear both sides of a story. Woman are just as guilty as doing it as men. I would think that young women who are having relationship problems should go and talk with older and more mature women preferably ones that are married. That way they can talk with someone who's gone through those points in life and matured and has wisdom on the best approach to take.

 

[Judy]

I totally agree with Scott and Amity.
You have to be very careful when counselling a person of the opposite sex. Because, people have a way of misunderstanding your sympathetic ear, and the next thing you know you are involved in an affair. Trust me it has happen to the best of pastors. That is why most will not counsel with the door of their office closed or will have another person in the room with them. And some will not counsel them at all and will send them to the women of the church.

Like Scott said there are always two sides of the story... so before you start blaming the guys hear their side. That is wisdom....

 

[Blazin Bones]

I agree. I do everything I can to get someone else with me when I counsel anyone. The doors will be open if I'm inside and the place will be out in the open if I'm outside. Both sides are important, and sadly enough, in my two most recent cases the fella's are to blaim.

 

[Scott]

To me it sounds like a 'she said he said' thing and usually the only thing that spells is g-o-s-s-i-p. More often then not if you take a step back and observe, you find both sides taking part in the games being played. Otherwise if she is that shaken up about a past relationship, it is best to have her talk with an older married woman of good character. It feels good to be able to help people ourselves, but its also important we recognize those situations that are best handled by someone better suited. Judy is right, taking on situations like that on your own can really complicate things and even confuse the situation for her or even potentially lead to compromising situations.