Thinking about wedding vows

[Sparkey]

What is the basis of the promise that is spoken through a man and unto his woman?
What is the basis of the promise that is spoken through a woman and unto her man?

This is one of my favorite things to contemplate recently and it is becoming a "resting place" for my sometimes tired and addled mind. I've "test drove a couple" version of personal wedding vows and thought I'd open a thread to seek the thoughts of others on this subject. Courtship <as it is being explained to me> is more about "consideration of possibility" than going out to play a round of Putt-putt golf.

I'd like to invite ShesHisOwn specifically into this thread to contemplate this sacred subject with us.

Readers and Christian Forum members, please feel free to reply howsoever the Spirit leads you. If you're married? The question becomes, "What was the essence of your vow and pledge?" If single, the question is "What do you personally desire as part of your wedding vow should the day come? What promise would you consider?"

For all Christians the answer will include aspects of Christ's Love for the Body of Jesus - that is, the Church -because we know God designed it that way. So even if you never thought about entering "marital bliss" (not martial <fighting> arts but marital <wedded> art) those things that the Spirit speaks to you are also very welcome in response. I have a couple of my own ideas too - but would like to hear from others before I speak.

Cordially,
~Sparrowhawke

 

[Sparkey]

Re: Will she accept my cat?

Will "she" accept my cat? <reserved>
[attachment=0:16stbk41]Goosey Tongue.jpg[/attachment:16stbk41]

I thought I'd <reserve> a place to type stuff in case there was a delay in getting response. This is a very intimate subject and although it is my choice to wait for others to respond it is also okay for me to type away as I wait, yes? With your blessing and graciousness assumed, I ask an almost "silly" question to consider. "Will "she" accept my cat?" No, it isn't part of a "wedding vow" per se -- but it is along the subject lines, having more to do with "qualities looked for". So, here goes:

To the one who might consider me, allow me to ask a question of thee.
Will you accept my cat?

"Goosey," the cat:
She was found under my house by my children when my youngest (now 22 years old) was either in kindergarten or first grade. And today my "kitten" is 18 years old? Now, I'm not one of those who are good with years so I can't say exactly. Yes, we could figure it out maybe but just like a woman may be considered to be 39 years old through out her 4th decade of life - so also might this feline be considered 15 years old for as long as she please.

I used to think of myself as a "dog person" until I met her. She was the runt of the litter of 6 and one of her siblings died. Of the kittens that we accepted she was the one with the most personality as well as the smallest. From the best I can tell this kitten is 1/2 purebred (Russian blue sire) and 1/2 feral (mother cat was wild but I don't know for how long). My boys found the litter under the house and brought them to me as the momma cat was trying to relocate them into a wooded area near my house. They had not yet been weaned and we went to the veterinary to get special formula and kitten bottles for this purpose.

Naming of the Goose:
After weaning and waiting the appropriate amount of time we sought to give the kittens (all but 2) away. Goosey and Maverick (her brother, pure black and the largest of the litter) we to become "ours". But they weren't "Goose and Mav" yet. Formally their names were: Romeow and Mewliette.

Tom Cruise was staring in a movie back then that many might know, "Top Gun" and the names of the kittens (informal names) were taken from the names that were given to the fighter planes in that show: Goose and Maverick. Her name changes again as she herself became a mommy kitty -- and because we noticed her appetites she became "Gossey girl," and has remained named this since.

Now to the question: Will "she" accept my cat?
You see Mewliette found a way into my heart when she was only a very young kitten, not yet weaned. She had a habit of going to sleep on my forehead (yes, I took her and Mav with me everywhere and when we went to sleep - we slept together). So she will be Jealous and Possessive. She is Jealous and Possessive.

Uniquely Tailored to me
Goose is a very special kitty (as many will immediately recognize) and has over the years been fitted to me. Like I've said earlier she has been raised by a "dog person" and not a cat lover. She's the one who has taught me to love feline - but I'm the one who has taught her to be canine (at lease in part). She does come whenever I call, she does (reluctantly) accept my position as pack leader, although that is constantly a "negotiation" between us and changes day to day. She knows my "hot buttons" and our relationship is very close and intimate.

My question, "Will she accept my Goosey?" can be translated, "Will Wife #1 (Human) be able to understand Wife #2 (Feline) and our needs? Now, I'm just speaking hypothetically here but the question is important to me. The point of the question should become clear very shortly.

If there were to be a "woman" introduced into "our home - <Goosey and mine>" we would have a "struggle" it is certain. Miss Mewliette Goosey the Cat/Kitten will immediately see two sides of the "struggle" that comes upon her and her home. Her full "cat and feline" heart will know know that she is being given another <slave> to serve her whim. Her Jealous and Possessive (and yes, protective) nature will bring turmoil.

The question becomes (and here is the point): Can the woman I'd like to court resist her (Goosey's) "Royal Feline Command" and not spoil the things that are precious to me (before it is time?). The spoiling can come later - after vows are spoken if they are spoken but until then? Can my goose remain a dog to me? Will the one I see as my answer to prayer be able to accept me as I am? I know that my relationship with my kitty is "un-natural" and would not seek this in any other feline - but really? I simply didn't know any better and very much love the way we are.

[*small voice]: Will the one whom I am considering as the one I'd like to court be capable of loving me as I intend to love her?

http://www.christianforums.net/viewtopic.php?f=18&t=39573&p=478950#p478950

signed as yours always,
~Sparrow

 

[sheshisown]

Lo Sparrow~ nice invite... :D

Before the SERIOUS business of vows begins...
Take a gander at my concept of the JOY within this glorious BOND in Christ Jesus


It is a celebration! YES?

[youtube:qcb2m7t1]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0[/youtube:qcb2m7t1]

Meow? meow?oh.... M E O W~

me~

 

[Sparkey]

Tears here. Thank you for this.

Yours,
~Sparrowhawke


Oh, and I heard your pun because I spoke of my cat named Goose and you asked me to "take a gander".

 

[God's_gift]

If single, the question is "What do you personally desire as part of your wedding vow should the day come? What promise would you consider?"

Cordially,
~Sparrowhawke

now, one of my officemate he is getting married this saturday and i am so sure i am gonna cry at the wedding especially during the reading of the vows. :bigcry:bigcry:bigcry:bigcry:bigcry

i don't know why, but wedding vows for me is something so sacred and precious that will always get me emotional. The most important part of the wedding i think.

If God's will that I'm gonna marry, i will make sure my wedding vow would be something personal not traditional, romantic and poetic, short and uniquely quotable.;) but of course expect some of the verse in first Corinthians 13 will be there.;););)
oh i'm excited to get married( day dreaming)