To vent or not to vent

[NeedHim]

Dorky subject title I know, but it's all I could think of :roll: :D

Now for my question...

Gossiping is sin right? Well venting when you think about it is gossiping in a way. So are we just suppose to keep all the frustrations in and not vent?

 

[lovely]

NeedHim,

Scripture tells us to do everything without arguing and complaining. I think if we have something to say about a situation, we need to ask ourselves why? Is it because we are having the heart of Christ in the matter? Is venting Christlike? I am praying that God give me a contented heart within His plan of providence. I want to endure my trials with a heart to patience, with a desire to be teachable, but that does not always happen. I fail so often. I think if we are overwhelmed, and unable to resist the desire to vent...then, we should vent to Him. To take it to others just sows the seeds of discord, which is one of the seven things God hates. Backbiting is hateful. When someone offends us, we should forgive and pray for them. It should bring us to compassion, not venting. The frustration and bitterness that accompanies such things only tares at us until we are in shreds because of our own sin, and venting is just a way we justify it. We are not better than others. We should be serving, as Christ did, not insisting upon our rights on top of a soapbox titled venting. I pray that God will help his church be the ambassadors we should for our King.

The Lord bless you.

 

[antitox]

The way I see it is the bible is tells us not to grumble. It's one thing to grumble and it's another to seek to confront or cope with a problem. The issue with grumbling or complaining to others is it corrupts the thinking of others and they take up the grumbler's offense. This is destructive.

Sometimes people have trouble coping with some things they see and need someone they can talk to. This is not wrong. It only becomes wrong if the person spoken to or the initiator spreads it around; hence the scripture that states repeating a matter alienates a friend. People need someone they can trust. Personally, I have seen some serious problems in churches and I had to be careful who I confided in.
One guy my wife and I confided in suddenly got a position in the church and abruptly decided to take what I had told him to the pastor (who was part of the problem), in spite of my objections, in an effort to corner me and discredit our story. We left the church. Any claim I made would be denied (a compulsive liar and abuser was on staff). Initially, we had hoped that if he was aware of this major problem that it could eventually get weeded out. What a mistake we made by trusting him; he turned on us. But that goes to show you how greedy and prideful people get when they get a position and think they are "in the big time.":-?

 

[Nikki]

By venting (in other words, talking about our problems or concerns outloud) it can prevent us from doing something worse. I am the type that feels MUCH better once I get things off my chest. Even if it's venting outloud to myself.

 

[antitox]

By venting (in other words, talking about our problems or concerns outloud) it can prevent us from doing something worse. I am the type that feels MUCH better once I get things off my chest. Even if it's venting outloud to myself.

That was the initial point I was making. Having someone you can talk to and trust really helps sometimes.(Unfortunately I didn't have that kind of reliability with the situation I described)