handy
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My daughter started a new school this year and is settling into a new Junior High. I drive her the town down the road to pick up the bus.
There's a boy, of course, (I think with my daughter there will ALWAYS be a boy) who makes a point to sit by her. He is one grade ahead of her, but that grade is the difference between High School and Junior High at this school. However, it's a small school and the HS and JrH kids have "Muffin Break" and lunch at the same time. He also has been seeking her out during the break times as well.
So, I asked her if she thought he liked her and how she felt about him.
I was both surprised and pleased by her answer. She said that she thinks he's a cool guy and that he does like her, but that she wasn't "going there" with him because he is Wiccan.
Up until now, she has pretty much been around either Christian kids, or at least kids who really don't have much of any kind of religious outlook, but are amiable enough when it comes to things like church. This is the first time either of my kids are dealing with someone who openly rejects the Christian faith.
And, it sounds as if she is handling things OK. Just the fact that he is a cute boy (I've seen him, he is a very cute boy) and she's not "going there" with him because of it, leads me to believe that she's already convicted about the necessity of not being unequally yoked when it comes to boy/girl relationships.
All this came out last night right before bed, so although we talked abit about the whole boy/girl aspect of this, we really didn't get into the "just plain friends" aspect. My gut instinct is to not worry about her being friends with him. But.....I'm having second thoughts about whether or not I should try to encourage her to distance herself from him.
She's 13, and has a pretty good head on her shoulders, and she tends not to get all that serious with boys anyway, because she seems pretty content to wait until she's 18 and can date the one whom she's convinced is *the one*. (We'll see about that, but that's a different thread.)
I guess I'm just second guessing if, at this age, when peers become much more influencial, if she should be too friendly with someone who isn't just indifferent about our faith, he outright has rejected it for something that we cannot compromise about.
I've never, once ever, have tried to discourage her from being friendly. Normally, I try to encourage my kids to be open and friendly to all, especially those who are outside of the norm, since they tend to need good friends even more than most. But....I guess I'm not so comfortable about this one.
Thoughts?
There's a boy, of course, (I think with my daughter there will ALWAYS be a boy) who makes a point to sit by her. He is one grade ahead of her, but that grade is the difference between High School and Junior High at this school. However, it's a small school and the HS and JrH kids have "Muffin Break" and lunch at the same time. He also has been seeking her out during the break times as well.
So, I asked her if she thought he liked her and how she felt about him.
I was both surprised and pleased by her answer. She said that she thinks he's a cool guy and that he does like her, but that she wasn't "going there" with him because he is Wiccan.
Up until now, she has pretty much been around either Christian kids, or at least kids who really don't have much of any kind of religious outlook, but are amiable enough when it comes to things like church. This is the first time either of my kids are dealing with someone who openly rejects the Christian faith.
And, it sounds as if she is handling things OK. Just the fact that he is a cute boy (I've seen him, he is a very cute boy) and she's not "going there" with him because of it, leads me to believe that she's already convicted about the necessity of not being unequally yoked when it comes to boy/girl relationships.
All this came out last night right before bed, so although we talked abit about the whole boy/girl aspect of this, we really didn't get into the "just plain friends" aspect. My gut instinct is to not worry about her being friends with him. But.....I'm having second thoughts about whether or not I should try to encourage her to distance herself from him.
She's 13, and has a pretty good head on her shoulders, and she tends not to get all that serious with boys anyway, because she seems pretty content to wait until she's 18 and can date the one whom she's convinced is *the one*. (We'll see about that, but that's a different thread.)
I guess I'm just second guessing if, at this age, when peers become much more influencial, if she should be too friendly with someone who isn't just indifferent about our faith, he outright has rejected it for something that we cannot compromise about.
I've never, once ever, have tried to discourage her from being friendly. Normally, I try to encourage my kids to be open and friendly to all, especially those who are outside of the norm, since they tend to need good friends even more than most. But....I guess I'm not so comfortable about this one.
Thoughts?
Not a bad idea!