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Why do people get angry at me being single?

I rather be stressed out and single than to be with a person and stressed out.
I just don't see what the hoopla is about being with a person. I dated and it was an un easy time filled with going out and being flaked on and cheated on and lied too. If I asked for pain I should have played football instead lol. I can watch sports whenever. Pro wrestling. MMA etc.... I can shoot for a profession with out being hounded about it does not make money to put food on the table for multiple people like kids etc.....

I just can't see myself married and happy at the same time. I always see myself as getting cheated on always. When you treat people nice that is what tends to happen.

The bible also hints about marriage being trouble and jesus's disciple also it may be better to remain unmarried. I think the saying is in matthew. I have to read it again.
 
I think this is pretty simple. If God wants you to be with someone, you'll know and feel it deep down; if not, then I suppose you won't.

As for people being angry with you; I see it as following this trend: Sometimes people tend to criticize others in areas of life where they themselves are unhappy. They may be secretly unhappy with their own relationships, so they decide to critique those who are publicly "having trouble" with relationship.
 
Also Marriage is for guys who have money and can provide for multiple people lol. I can barely provide for myself. People will say God has a plan for people's lives but in my case, I learned that "plans" just do not happen and it is a lot of times based on luck or skill to make plans happen. My plans never came true no matter how hard I tried to work towards them.I know they say the single person will worry about things of the lord but I think that I would worry more about how am I going to eat lol or which wall to talk to. Plus my experiences dating women were like bleh no thanks. I have yet to meet a woman that liked me for me and or would not lie to me or wanted to cheat on me. The last one took me for granted so I walked. Best choice ever made for my sanity. I need to be more like Tony Stark or Bruce Wayne. Rich and carefree while being able to help people. Plus I am always too tired due to trying to do what I due while other needing me to help them then looking after younger relatives from time to time along with working out. I would not have the energy to have a family lol. I barely get 5 hours of sleep being single. I know somewhere a woman want a decent guy but I pulled out of the market years ago. Doing that, some of the females I know got mad at me for wanting to be single. I think they wanted to see me thrive or they wanted to get with me but who knows lol. One day I will have to invest in getting a dog when I become rich (that will never happen)
I refer you to 1 Corinthians 7:1-17. I'm using the ESV:

1Co 7:1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman."
1Co 7:2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
1Co 7:3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
1Co 7:4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
1Co 7:5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1Co 7:6 Now as a concession, not a command, I say this.
1Co 7:7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.
1Co 7:8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.
1Co 7:9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1Co 7:10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband
1Co 7:11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.
1Co 7:12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her.
1Co 7:13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him.
1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
1Co 7:15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
1Co 7:16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
1Co 7:17 Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.
 
I never understood it either my friend.

I think it comes from these secular concept of "dude you need to get laid" and because of this I just ignore any such comment.

Although my mother also mentions it from time to time and it bugs me to no end. I obviously don't share the same view on dating as she does. I simply see no point in dating someone "recreationally". She obviously doesn't see a problem with this. Then again she likes to waste time and is never on time for anything and I would rather be efficient and show up ten minutes early.
 
I never understood it either my friend.

I think it comes from these secular concept of "dude you need to get laid" and because of this I just ignore any such comment.

Although my mother also mentions it from time to time and it bugs me to no end. I obviously don't share the same view on dating as she does. I simply see no point in dating someone "recreationally". She obviously doesn't see a problem with this. Then again she likes to waste time and is never on time for anything and I would rather be efficient and show up ten minutes early.

And have you ever noticed that most of the so-called "singles ministries" are led by married couples and are seemingly all about trying to get people married off?
 
And have you ever noticed that most of the so-called "singles ministries" are led by married couples and are seemingly all about trying to get people married off?
Can't say I have of course I also can't say I've ever been to a single's ministry so... :D

I wouldn't be surprised though. It's easier to just make all the singles into couples than to create an entirely new curriculum just for those who are single!
 
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