I've always heard "You're either going in a storm, you are in a storm, or coming out of one." I am in two storms. My daughter has been estranged from my husband and I for six years. That's a long time. She has four beautiful children that we adore. It has gotten some better and we see them once a month, but she doesn't come to our house, call or check or on us, and let us babysit. She is a Christian too and is active in church, but this church seems to draw her further from us instead of encouraging her to get closer, and we are Christians too. The other storm is my husband retired and it has depleted the nice inheritance my mom left us. He refuses to get a job now, and we are going deeper in debt. I have been job hunting myself for a year, I just now found a transcription job which I am thrilled about, but the pay is not much and I am finding the audio is horrible and if they don't like the job I do they won't keep me. I have a small Ebay business and a Tiktok account that I make little money from as well. Why does God keep taking everything away from me. I am to the point I feel He doesn't want to bless me anymore.
Not knowing you personally makes it difficult to fully understand what is happening in your life. I will share my thoughts, but please keep in mind that I could be wrong, as every situation has its unique details, which in this case, I am unaware of.
The fact that you are going through difficulties suggests that God is trying to teach you something. If God is trying to teach you something, it means you are on the right path, even if that path is filled with challenges. Didn’t Jesus face difficulties? Is there any prophet who wasn’t persecuted or killed? Difficulties are a mark of a believer. Therefore, you are on the right path, exactly where you should be. The day everything goes perfectly—that’s the day you should be concerned.
Now, regarding your situation: difficulties are lessons we need to learn. Once we learn the lesson, the difficulty passes, and we move on to the next one. This is how we grow. God doesn’t solve our problems for us but gives us the strength to learn new lessons. Believe me, you can overcome this situation—but you need to apply all your abilities.
We must identify the root causes of our problems and take action only if required. Not knowing the exact reasons why your daughter has become estranged or why your husband refuses to get a new job, the best advice I can offer is to carefully listen to what your daughter and husband say to justify their actions. Pay attention to everything happening around you, as the answers are there.
Does what they say make sense?
Are they making reasonable demands?
Are they giving you the same consideration they expect from you?
Is there an unresolved past offense? Why is this really happening?
Is there envy or resentment?
Are you taking responsibility for things outside your control?
Are you avoiding your own responsibilities?
Are you tolerating something wrong in yourself or others?
Are you refusing to admit something everyone else sees?
And so on.
Once you learn the lesson—whether it’s a problem in your attitude, a failure to recognize an issue in someone else’s behavior, a wrong perspective, or an unwillingness to accept something, or perhaps tolerating too much from others—you will begin the process of resolving the real problem. Then, you will notice that everything starts falling into place as if by magic.
This is what I do: I try to understand what I need to learn. Once you grasp it, everything falls into place, and you move on to the next challenge, and so on.
Often, our problems arise because we are not paying attention or refuse to acknowledge something. This is why I urge you to pay attention—because I am 100% certain there is a way out of these problems.
I hope this helps you.