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Women Who Won't Marry
- Thread starter Lewis
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Edward
2024 Supporter
Whoa, you might be right about that. That's interesting, and highly plausible. God bless your ministry brother.
Obadiah
Member
Thanks. The new one I'm in charge of now is just getting off the ground and we have some talented team members that don't believe in putting any limits on what God can do. I'm used to reaching groups of 10 to maybe 100 at a time. These guys are talking in the thousands! (And they've already shown it may be more than just talk!) I feel humbled and unworthy next to them! But, yes, not having kids of my own has allowed me to deal with other people's teenagers without having the negative attitude toward them that naturally comes from having to deal with your own every day and all day. Parents of teenagers rarely make the most effective youth pastors or leaders of teenagers. They are usually either sick and tired of their own teens shenanigans, or they have really "goody two shoes" type teens so they don't see through the shenanigans of the ones in their groups. It's tough for them.
Obadiah
Member
What an understatement!!!
Not a day goes by that there aren't specific ones I pray for!
Lewis
Member
There are times when God deliberately keeps someone from having children, no matter how desperately she wants them. Hannah longed for a child, but the Lord had “closed her womb” until such time as He saw fit to allow her to conceive Samuel, the Lord’s prophet (1 Samuel 1:1-2:21). Sarah, too, was forced to wait many years (she was 90!) before God blessed her with Isaac (Genesis 15:15-17; 21:1-7). From these and many other examples, we can see that God is in sovereign control of all circumstances of life, including the birth of children. Even though God has declared children to be a blessing from Him, there is nothing in the Bible that states every married couple must have children. Perhaps the best course of action for those who don’t want children, at least at the moment, is for the couple to examine their motives for their decision. Only the couple can say for sure whether their motives and attitudes are unacceptable in God’s sight. Selfish motives, for example, would certainly not be pleasing to Him. Neither would putting careers and the pursuit of worldly gain ahead of having a family be pleasing. The only way we can really displease God with our decision about children is by an ungodly attitude—not trusting Him to take care of our situation. We must place our faith in Him and rely on Him to guide us through all situations and decisions that arise in life.
thanks for the judgement. when I married my wife, I did CHOOSE not to have kids. I at times regretted that, but now I have kids as the dads of both Nathan and jaci are useless.i would say that from what I have heard. my wifes mother, shouldn't have kids. the things I have been told on what she did to my wife and her brother was sad. not all should have them. love for a child must be a desire first. not all want them.
I do, beside, the other partner must have uterus that is there or works to have a child. some woman marry that late and have had menopause and have a partial hysterectomy.
Jethro Bodine
Member
You're maintaining the connection between marriage and having kids. That's a good thing. There are many who want the pleasures of having a relationship without the responsibilities of 1) being married, and 2) having kids as the potentially natural result of being in a relationship.
I've noticed marriage is quickly becoming a christian thing. Only Christians will be getting married, while the world will not. That's strange to me who has been around long enough to remember when almost everybody got married in order to be with another person. Now only Christians will be doing that.
Jethro Bodine
Member
Honestly, I think it was meant as a picture and illustration for us to understand how God wants us to be fruitful (think fruit of the Spirit) and not have the shame of being unfruitful. It was shameful for a woman to not bear children. It signified the curse of God (the lack of his blessing). And so that is true in regard to the 'woman', the church, that does not bear the expected fruit of her relationship with God.
thanks in part to these:
1) sorry men and women
2) sexual revolution
3) abortion
4) birth control.
5) no fault divorce
6) cohabitation as its not a stigma as it was years ago. I remember back in my teens that it was looked down upon in my town.
I say birth control as it makes it easier to depart from a relationship when there isn't a kid. im also not saying that its a sin to use birth control. just how men use it.
welcome, to the days of rome, Greece, Egypt , Assyria and Babylon. all these cultures had all that we are disgusted by.
1) sons and daughters that were disposable
2) ladies and girls that were second class
3) women of ill repute, and men who also did that(though not as common today for now)
4) wealthy using the poor(see james 4)
5) corrupt government.
6)slavery
7) games for entertainment that appease the masses and act as drug to cover up the misery of life
1) sons and daughters that were disposable
2) ladies and girls that were second class
3) women of ill repute, and men who also did that(though not as common today for now)
4) wealthy using the poor(see james 4)
5) corrupt government.
6)slavery
7) games for entertainment that appease the masses and act as drug to cover up the misery of life
Gary
Member
What if the motivation for their choice is that they simply don't want children?
Is that acceptable?
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Lewis
Member
I have not a clue, I mean I just don't know. What do you think ?
Gary
Member
It would be acceptable to me. There's really nothing in the scriptures that commands a husband and wife to have children. There's nothing that states we have to get married if we don't want to.
I don't believe it's acceptable to look upon someone as being selfish simply because they don't want something.
Even the writer of Proverbs acknowledges:
Proverbs 21
9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
<snip>
19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
I think it's safe to assume that we have a choice when it comes to being married or having children.
But that's me.
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Edward
2024 Supporter
Some people have children just to have mini-mes. Some people have children (sons) just to pass on the family name.
Some insecure people have children so that they will have someone they believe will always love them.
These are selfish reason to have children.
I agree with this. It's like people think of children as property or something. I know one guy who has 23 children. Most of them are adopted. Most people would think that the man must love children, but I don't think this is the case. He's a millionaire and they're just tax deductions to him.
I wasn't planning on having kids when my GF got pregnant. It was the farthest thing from my mind. It just happened. I noticed she was pregnant before she knew. She mentioned having an abortion and I never even gave it serious thought. This was my child! Even though I wasn't expecting it or even ready for children, I just figured well it must be my time. Let's get married and get a place together and roll with it. So we did. I think that the only reason that she mentioned having an abortion is that she was scared that I would leave her and she wasn't ready either. That passed quickly because I stepped up to the plate fast, and hovered over her while she was pregnant. I saw both of my kids born.