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'Worthless women and the men who make them.'

A decade ago I would have thought he was sweet, but not necessarily right.

Now I have a beautiful 14 year old girl who looks like she's going on 18. Whenever we go places with Viola's equally beautiful, but overweight friend, I see what he's getting at... Guys, of all ages, looking at Viola with that tell-tale widening of the eyes... and her friend notices it and does indeed get hurt. It's hurtful to Viola in a way too, because she won't always be this pretty... Age, babies, life... it will slip away this fresh face beauty of hers. I believe that it will be wholly replaced by real beauty. And, hopefully by then she will have the love of a man who will appreciate her real beauty.

I do think a lot of it is driven more by magazines and media... I know, it's men who buy the magazines and tune into the media, but then, so do women. The "standard" of what is now considered beautiful has been consolidated by media...both female and male standards of beauty. 100 or so years ago, what was considered physically "beautiful" ranged across a wide variety of different physical features.

Now... it's been shown that there is a certain physical structure that has become the "standard" of what is beautiful. Doesn't matter which race, hair type, eye color, any thing that causes differences... the physical make up of the body of "beautiful" people all share a certain set of criteria. There was a rather good show that explained the science of this... and I can't remember it's name. If I think of it, I'll share.

But, it's not so much that there is now a standard, but why there's a standard now. I believe it is most likely the movie and television industry. Starting out, we had a wide variety of "beautiful" girls... some short, some tall, many quite plump.... Now tall, slim and a face that fits the so called "golden ratio"... and one is beautiful...short, stout and an "off" face and one might be considered cute, or a "beautiful character"... but not necessarily beautiful.

Should Christian men be caught up in this? Well, no. Are they?


Yep.
 
Beauty is subjective to everyone individually. Everyone has their own standard and barometer over what is beautiful.

If I am blind, and know nothing of physical appearances, I will only be attracted to those I find kind and caring and share my interests.

Attraction is a biological thing, you cannot fool yourself into liking things you find unattractive. There is a universal set of traits that most men find attractive in women, and these are the standards by which society finds women beautiful.

And that is all there is to it.
 
Did you read the article linked? I have a hard time thinking you even read part of it because your response doesn't address it. I will help you cheat an answer. The article targets women's self-image based on the actions men do. She wants to be your standard and all you can do is put your googly-eyed glasses on. The one you are with should be the standard of beauty for you.
 
The article targets women's self-image based on the actions men do.
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Men do no more in this equation than be attracted to what is considered pretty.

She wants to be your standard
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Well, self image is important to avoid depression but that won't change the possibility that you don't meet the standards of physical attraction of your peers.

That's not to say that only one particular collection of traits is considered beautiful. Someone (mathematically), will find you attractive.
 
It doesn't look like you read the article, but just responded to a comment someone was making without understanding the context... ugh. Thanks for your contribution.
 
Handy, my experience is that the television industry follows the magazine industry's lead. It is very costly to experiment with social norms at a feature film or television show's level, but for a photoshoot to try something 'edgy' is relatively cheap.

Do you think that your niece welcomes the attention she receives? Does she look 18 naturally or because of style and makeup? I believe men do have a large role in this, I sometimes wonder which came first.
 
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