Your views on Quarterlife Crisis please ....

[God's_gift]

Hi I would like to ask your opinion about this so called quarterlife crisis. I am 24 and i wake up one day in the morning and i become so worried about this becoming an adulthood idea. Well, it doesn't mean that I am still an immature person, and i haven't feelin this way before like being doubtful and stressful about almost every aspect in my life from career, lovelife, to spirituallity. I read the bible and God always remind me to take one day at time , but when i dress up and go to work again I experience this kind of pressure where people in the office are always talking about getting married, having children, getting another jobs and all...the idea of the need to always change ....i tried my hardest to be flexible and to adopt to changes like adjusting in every places i go, beacuse i sort of travel often...and work far from home . There are times that i get dizzy and have headache coz there are so many things i want to do and there are lot's of options out there. And sometimes i feel so tired and want to just stay where i am and rest...:-(

 

[handy]

Two thoughts....

I found the 20's to be the decade of the most pressure. You're right...there is so much pressure about marriage, career, getting a house or living situation of one's own, major purchases...

You'll find the 30's to ease up quite a bit...at least I did.

2nd...if you are finding yourself wholly overwhelmed, to the point of not being able to cope with things and just feeling like you don't even want to get out of bed... you might want to get evaluated for depression. Not saying that you have depression... the concerns you have are legitimate and it's not uncommon for young adults your age to be gobsmacked by it all... but if you think you're way more overwhelmed that what might seem "normal"... often depression can be the culprit.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

I don't see my quarter-life as having been a crisis in the way the mid-life crisis has the desperation of a crisis (it's hard to see the glory of youth perish), but it was a difficult time.

I guess it was better for me because I got saved when I was 23 and a new focus on living for the kingdom took some of the worry out of the necessary pursuit of life's concerns. The pursuit didn't change much. What changed was the perceived importance of the pursuit. That in itself is a load off a person's mind.

 

[Fedusenko]

Just passing my quarter life milestone I would say that what you describe is something completely artificial, not to say that it isn't tangible and happening, but created by social norms. I have a saying, "have a piece of I Don't Care Pie". It doesn't mean that nothing matters, but to recognize what is truly important to YOU (as a Christian I am assuming), and to direct your life accordingly. Go to the best college and become a world famous 'somethingoranother' or go to community college and do what you want cheaply. Work a 9-5 or start your own business. Put down a mortgage and have your house and yard and car or live cheaply like people have done throughout history.

The point is that you are finding paralysis through analysis. Stop worrying about what you SHOULD do until you figure out what is important to you. Only then will you make a satisfying path that leads to success and fulfillment.