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jeans67
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I think I just need emotional support. I have been married to my husband for 8 years. We have 2 children, one daughter (14) from my previous marriage, and one son (7) from our marriage together. We have both been married before -- me once, and him twice. When we were married 8 years ago, I was not living a Christian life. We went to bars together, and drank alot. Pretty much I had no regard for what it meant to be a Christian, even though I had professed Christ as my savior when I was 12.
About 5 years ago, I started going to church, rededicated my life to Christ, and became active in Bible studies, church, etc. I do not drink anymore, except for an occasional glass of wine. We don't go out to bars anymore. My husband is a heavy beer drinker, and also drinks whiskey occasionally. He drinks beer every single day of his life. If we do go out, he drinks even more, and he can become visibly drunk -- although he wouldn't admit it. He has a very high alcohol tolerance.
About 2 years ago, after much prayer, Bible Study, and a lot of discussion with Christian friends, I decided to finally make my husband the "head of our home", leaving most of the decision making, and all the financial decisions to him. I have worked hard to do this, as I was always the one "running the home". I have changed dramatically in these last couple of years, working hard to submit to his decision-making. I must also say that I had quit work 3 years ago to stay at home with my children.
Once I had really made a commitment to submit to my husband as head of our home, he decided that I should go back to work for financial reasons. Well, we really would be fine financially, except my husband has the earthly desire for many material things, such as a huge 14' X 90' shed, and various forms of equipment, etc. for our country life. Although these are "nice to have", they are not necessary, and will increase our cost of living (taxes, insurance, maintenance, electric, etc.). So, in submission to my husband, I am now working at our local school district, and going to school to get my Master's degree in teaching Special Education.
I am seeking other spouses in my situation for support and encouragement. My husband is not abusive, and he loves me very much. My emotional pain comes from an unequally yoked marriage. In addition, I ache for him to become a true Christian so he will have eternity in heaven. I am scared that he is lost. In addition, it is difficult to submit and have a gentle and quiet spirit when his agenda is so different from mine. He has not asked me to do unbiblical things, so from my understanding of the Bible -- I am to submit to my husband unless it goes against Christ and God's Word. He has not asked me to drink with him, although I sometimes feel that he misses having the wife that would "party" with him. It has created somewhat of a chasm, although not a huge one.
I pray for him, and I have hope that he will come to Christ someday, and quit his drinking, become the true spiritual leader of our home, and thirst for God's Word. However, I have known people who have prayed for years for their loved ones, and their loved ones still died without Christ. They lived their entire marriage unequally yoked.
Anyone who could post words of encouragement, empathy, or just share their own stories would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much!
jeans67
About 5 years ago, I started going to church, rededicated my life to Christ, and became active in Bible studies, church, etc. I do not drink anymore, except for an occasional glass of wine. We don't go out to bars anymore. My husband is a heavy beer drinker, and also drinks whiskey occasionally. He drinks beer every single day of his life. If we do go out, he drinks even more, and he can become visibly drunk -- although he wouldn't admit it. He has a very high alcohol tolerance.
About 2 years ago, after much prayer, Bible Study, and a lot of discussion with Christian friends, I decided to finally make my husband the "head of our home", leaving most of the decision making, and all the financial decisions to him. I have worked hard to do this, as I was always the one "running the home". I have changed dramatically in these last couple of years, working hard to submit to his decision-making. I must also say that I had quit work 3 years ago to stay at home with my children.
Once I had really made a commitment to submit to my husband as head of our home, he decided that I should go back to work for financial reasons. Well, we really would be fine financially, except my husband has the earthly desire for many material things, such as a huge 14' X 90' shed, and various forms of equipment, etc. for our country life. Although these are "nice to have", they are not necessary, and will increase our cost of living (taxes, insurance, maintenance, electric, etc.). So, in submission to my husband, I am now working at our local school district, and going to school to get my Master's degree in teaching Special Education.
I am seeking other spouses in my situation for support and encouragement. My husband is not abusive, and he loves me very much. My emotional pain comes from an unequally yoked marriage. In addition, I ache for him to become a true Christian so he will have eternity in heaven. I am scared that he is lost. In addition, it is difficult to submit and have a gentle and quiet spirit when his agenda is so different from mine. He has not asked me to do unbiblical things, so from my understanding of the Bible -- I am to submit to my husband unless it goes against Christ and God's Word. He has not asked me to drink with him, although I sometimes feel that he misses having the wife that would "party" with him. It has created somewhat of a chasm, although not a huge one.
I pray for him, and I have hope that he will come to Christ someday, and quit his drinking, become the true spiritual leader of our home, and thirst for God's Word. However, I have known people who have prayed for years for their loved ones, and their loved ones still died without Christ. They lived their entire marriage unequally yoked.
Anyone who could post words of encouragement, empathy, or just share their own stories would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much!
jeans67