What Does God Think Of Male Loneliness And Incels ?

God is aware of all that is. He has no limits.

But there is a simple solution to loneliness: go find some people, and befriend them. Of course, there are many people who know how to befriend no one. Such people do not have a simple solution to loneliness; they must learn to humble themselves and love people, or they will remain lonely. I will suggest that the Holy Spirit of God often delivers loneliness as a message, to help people know that we must learn to humble ourselves and love people.

There is not a simple solution to the "incel" situation though, because the "incel" demands sex as a right, not a privilege of a working marriage with a woman, and there are no such rights. If the "incel" does not repent, he continues his path of evil.
 
God is aware of all that is. He has no limits.

But there is a simple solution to loneliness: go find some people, and befriend them. Of course, there are many people who know how to befriend no one. Such people do not have a simple solution to loneliness; they must learn to humble themselves and love people, or they will remain lonely. I will suggest that the Holy Spirit of God often delivers loneliness as a message, to help people know that we must learn to humble ourselves and love people.

There is not a simple solution to the "incel" situation though, because the "incel" demands sex as a right, not a privilege of a working marriage with a woman, and there are no such rights. If the "incel" does not repent, he continues his path of evil.
That solution doesn't work for me.
 
That solution doesn't work for me.
What does that mean? Your favorite plans and desires are not affirmed so? You refuse to repent, you refuse to humble yourself and love people, you refuse to befriend people, and you demand sex from this world as a right? Or do you have another meaning in mind?

If you cannot repent, if you cannot humble yourself and love people, if you cannot befriend people, and if you cannot do other than demand sex from this world as a right, I'll suggest that you are in the most trouble that a human being can be in. There is only one way out of it: ask the Lord to deliver you. To change you. To save you. This is one way He is Savior.

And God thinks about all. He thinks about how to draw all to repentance, to be saved from the evil within them.
 
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Or does God think about us at all ?
" What Does God Think Of Male Loneliness And Incels ? "

The whole bible is about God reaching out to people, so yes God is aware of us, of our needs and he does think about us.

We are made for fellowship with others, genesis God said 'it is not good for man to be alone!'

How does one deal with loneliness, by getting involved with other people, attending church, joining clubs and talking to people.
Making friends is hard work.
 
Could you please explain what an incel is?
I've been gone a long time and I do NOT like to learn from the internet.
Thanks.
It's a shorthand for "involuntary celibate", it's angry men who hate women for not wanting to have sex with them. There are a very large number of such whose posts are available for study, if one wants (not recommended). Their gathering is one of the interesting and concerning consequences of the Internet: instead of taking up motivation to make themselves better and more satisfactory to women, they find people like themselves by whom they justify their self-destructive anger and behavior.

And I heartily agree with you, learning "from the Internet" in the general is not a healthy thing! Almost as unhealthy as "from AI" :-)
 
Or does God think about us at all ?
God thinks about all of humanity.
If He didn't want to be bothered by humanity...
He wouldn't have created us.

So, I hear that incel means being involuntarily celibate.

Actually, if a person is following GOD,,,,the very being that created that person....
then celibacy SHOULD BE voluntary.

But it's not good for man to be alone.

So man should find a suitable mate for himself,,,just like Adam found in Eve.

He should honor that mate and treat that mate like his very own body.
Notice I said HONOR,,,which is different than love....but a mate should be loved too.

This finding of a mate can happen at any time.
Until then...we live our lives and bring glory to God through our life.
 
there is the fact that most women that are not raised in a conservative view of family aren't marriage material.


it's hard to find an attractive women that has a male like drive In life .

life well the comparisons of it to others will make one bitter . it's not easy but the source of peace isn't a wife ,kids ,job .yes those are blessings but God gives them and can take them away .
 
Marriage is a trickier question biblically then may be obvious at first. God created men and women, and He created marriage, and from what I can see, from the first he intended marriage to be between one man and one woman. After the fall, things got complicated, and there seems to have been some acceptance of polygamy and things like concubinage. But in the New Testament, there are actually some warnings against marriage, not in saying that marriage is in itself wrong, but that it can be a distraction for some people in doing God's work, and it can cause pains that some people would be best to avoid.

There are times I've thought there was some wisdom in the monastic life. It was tainted by things like attempts to work for one's salvation and by ritualism, among other things, but there may be some validity to the idea of believing men, single or widowed, in a kind of community together, encouraging each other towards godly living and actions, and doing good to those outside their community. It would have to avoid things like superior attitudes and mindsets, not to mention predators who might try to worm their way in to cause problems, but I think I like the idea. at least in theory.

Because I'm not sure how we're doing things now is really helping much. I'm very strongly introverted, so being alone doesn't mean I'm lonely, but I do struggle with fellowship. When I was younger, many times I went along with others in order to "fit in", and I think I was not always smart to do that. On the other hand, church isn't always the best place to ask questions; the impression I get is that people in churches go along with what the preacher says, and that's that.

At any rate, those are a few of my thoughts, for what they may be worth.
 
Of course, there are many people who know how to befriend no one.
I am often instant friends with people. My mom often told us we are to be like a duck and let the water roll off our backs. We can not be offended by what people say. Her father was mayor for 10 years so they know how to be popular with people and she was very popular.
 
Or does God think about us at all ?
Let's start with the basics.

What do you think God thinks of loneliness? Is it good? Is it not good? Why?

What does God think of involuntary celibacy? Is it good? Is it not good? Why?

If we take the interwebs definition of "incel," (a member of an online community of young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually) then the same questions: What does God think of males who consider themselves unable to attract women? Is it good? Is it not good? Why?

The online definition is typically associated with a real or perceived lack of romantic success and/or a hostility toward those who are sexually active. Same questions. What does God think of the perception of romantic failure? What does God think of real romantic failure? To what degree are God's position(s) on romantic success dependent on the male's condition? Does God's position change if the man has a club foot, a face covered with moles, or a medical condition that complicates success in forming romantic relationships? What does God think of hostility toward others in general? What does God think of hostility toward sexually active women in particular? Are these women considered romantic prospects, thereby leading to a particular disappointment on the part of the incel? The op specifies male aloneness and implies male incels. If the question is not limited to heterosexual relationships, then what does God think of a male's hostility toward other males who are sexually active (perhaps being considered romantic interests or otherwise solutions to the aforementioned loneliness?

Break down the question asked in the op?
Or does God think about us at all ?
Hmmm... Is there a condition for which God has no thought whatsoever? If God is omniscient then I urge caution against anthropomorphizing God's "thinking." God does not think like a human. God already knows all things knowable, and He does so without having to resort to human-style thinking, especially not the thinking of sinful humanity. The question, therefore, might be more accurately worded to ask, "What does God know about male loneliness and incels?"

You use the word "us." That implies you consider yourself a lonely male and an incel. If that is true then how about defining the terms or describing yourself relevant to those terms so the discussion does not fall prey to generalities that do not apply to you (and are, therefore, unsatisfying)?
 

What Does God Think Of Male Loneliness And Incels ?​

Or does God think about us at all ?
From a natural point of view, God does not want a man to be lonely, because that is not good:

18The LORD God also said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him a suitable helper.” Genesis 2:18

But from a spiritual point of view, it is better to not marry:

26...I think it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27Are you committed to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you free of commitment? Do not look for a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned.

32I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. 33But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, 34and his interests are divided.

35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but in order to promote proper decorum and undivided devotion to the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:26-35
 

What Does God Think Of Male Loneliness And Incels ?​

I'm guessing you don't really mean to define yourself according to the negative definition of an incel, just that you are using the term to express the fact that women don't find you romantically/sexually desirable, for whatever the reason. Well, truthfully, that's going to happen after you get married, anyway. That's just the way women, in general, are glued together. There are exceptions, of course, and us men have ways about us that women have to deal with. And, honestly, I think that's an underlying reason why Paul counsels Christians to stay single, if they can do that without being immoral.

Marriage is a challenge. The question is how much of a challenge is it going to be for you. To minimize the enormity of the challenge only marry a person who shares a Biblical view of marriage and understands the responsibilities that each partner has in the relationship. Sex is one of those responsibilities. It's a right of way that each owes the other:

3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife.

5Do not deprive each other, except by mutual consent and for a time, so you may devote yourselves to prayer. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5


But, as we all learned in driving school, right of way is given, not taken. We are not to get angry and demanding when we don't get the right of way that our spouse owes us.

1What causes conflicts and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from the passions at war within you?a 2You crave what you do not have; you kill and covet, but are unable to obtain it. You quarrel and fight. James 4:1-2
 
Or does God think about us at all ?
Of course he does, but he is concerned with whether or not you believe the gospel and who you become, not so much whether or not you get married or ever have sex. As has been stated, marriage is difficult, sometimes unimaginably difficult, and does not always guarantee sex. It is likely the case that not having a spouse is God's doing, meant to drive you to him and to look to him alone to fulfil your needs. All that matters in the end is whether or not Jesus knows you (Matt. 7:23), not whether or not you knew a woman.
 
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