My wife bought me a Rolex.

It is a gift of exstravagent love, accept it as such. Share your worries about wearing it with her and be very grateful that she loves you so much.

Tough one. How do you tell someone that their gift is vanity, maybe even embarrassing in your eyes. You know her, we don't. She probably already realizes the mistake. Let her see that your admiration for her is focused on her and not the gift.

It's an expensive gift, but given out of love for you. Jesus never said we could not have nice things, but to not make them an idol before Him. Accept her gift and wear it as a sign of her love for you.

BTW, welcome to CF

william8585 You might consider buying her a 24k golden thong. You could even have date night out. You wearing her gift to you and her wearing your gift to her.

Of course I'm only kidding. You're not obligated to wear the rolex nor to wear it as a token of your feelings for her. If she doesn't understand that, then she should. I bet she understands that though. Let the focus of your admiration be on her. If she doesn't already understand then she'll figure it out don't you think?

Hi William,
Like yourself, I grew up poor. I recall praying that I just wanted to have enough money to pay rent and utilities and enough left over to fix the car when it broke down.

Congratulations to the two of you for succeeding in financial wealth. Be proud of where you’ve come from. Don’t be ashamed and don’t live in fear. Use the watch as a testimony to Gods goodness and living responsibly as his word instructs us. In short, learn to be thankful, but more importantly, be thankful God has brought you a loving wife.

God knows the humble in heart.
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william8585 said:

Recently my wife bought me a Rolex.

We both came from humble beginnings. She grew up in social care and I am the son of an abusive alcoholic who made me homeless.

Early in our relationship we struggled but over time we both found work. Got degrees and now have careers. God has been with us though all our struggles and blessed us.

However, my wife got a bonus at work and wanted to surprise me. She did this by purchasing a Rolex watch as a gift for me. It’s lovely looking and the fact she bought this for me made her pleased with herself as it was a symbol of how far we have come and I am grateful as it is a token of her love.

But I am not used to having something so expensive. I feel guilt for possessing something so extravagant. I am yet to even wear it out as I can’t imagine anything other than selling it if life get tough again and we need the money.

Brothers and sisters, what does the bible teach about having expensive things? Should I feel guilty? Should I keep it?

Thank you & God bless.

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A very warm welcome to our Forum, William.

The watch was given in love....wear it in love.

Blessings.

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Status symbols make some people uncomfortable. Others must have them. Many predictably are between those extremes.

I’d advise you to wear it for your wife’s sake. Long struggle to where you two are now and she thinks this is a good way of announcing both her devotion to you and her hard earned status.

A married man has a duty to his wife.

It is good to come from humble beginnings while seeking God. Given a man is married, he has duties to his wife. One of those duties may be providing, and making her happy. Rejecting a gift may be rough.

william8585 said:

Recently my wife bought me a Rolex.

We both came from humble beginnings. She grew up in social care and I am the son of an abusive alcoholic who made me homeless.

Early in our relationship we struggled but over time we both found work. Got degrees and now have careers. God has been with us though all our struggles and blessed us.

However, my wife got a bonus at work and wanted to surprise me. She did this by purchasing a Rolex watch as a gift for me. It’s lovely looking and the fact she bought this for me made her pleased with herself as it was a symbol of how far we have come and I am grateful as it is a token of her love.

But I am not used to having something so expensive. I feel guilt for possessing something so extravagant. I am yet to even wear it out as I can’t imagine anything other than selling it if life get tough again and we need the money.

Brothers and sisters, what does the bible teach about having expensive things? Should I feel guilty? Should I keep it?

Thank you & God bless.

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Just tell that story to whoever notices or comments on your wife's gift.

(If you aren't going to wear it, will you send it to me for a week so I can wear it ?
It will be a big hit at the McDonalds I frequent.)

william8585 said:

Recently my wife bought me a Rolex.

We both came from humble beginnings. She grew up in social care and I am the son of an abusive alcoholic who made me homeless.

Early in our relationship we struggled but over time we both found work. Got degrees and now have careers. God has been with us though all our struggles and blessed us.

However, my wife got a bonus at work and wanted to surprise me. She did this by purchasing a Rolex watch as a gift for me. It’s lovely looking and the fact she bought this for me made her pleased with herself as it was a symbol of how far we have come and I am grateful as it is a token of her love.

But I am not used to having something so expensive. I feel guilt for possessing something so extravagant. I am yet to even wear it out as I can’t imagine anything other than selling it if life get tough again and we need the money.

Brothers and sisters, what does the bible teach about having expensive things? Should I feel guilty? Should I keep it?

Thank you & God bless.

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It was a selfless gift from your wife. Nothing you need to feel guilty about. Enjoy your new watch.

william8585 said:

Recently my wife bought me a Rolex.

We both came from humble beginnings. She grew up in social care and I am the son of an abusive alcoholic who made me homeless.

Early in our relationship we struggled but over time we both found work. Got degrees and now have careers. God has been with us though all our struggles and blessed us.

However, my wife got a bonus at work and wanted to surprise me. She did this by purchasing a Rolex watch as a gift for me. It’s lovely looking and the fact she bought this for me made her pleased with herself as it was a symbol of how far we have come and I am grateful as it is a token of her love.

But I am not used to having something so expensive. I feel guilt for possessing something so extravagant. I am yet to even wear it out as I can’t imagine anything other than selling it if life get tough again and we need the money.

Brothers and sisters, what does the bible teach about having expensive things? Should I feel guilty? Should I keep it?

Thank you & God bless.

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Hey All,
Do we have a right to tell someone, your wife in this case, how much they can love us?

It's a gift.
Accept it graciously.
Wear it proudly.

And whatever you do, do not get her a toaster oven when its your turn to buy her something nice.

Keep walking everybody.
May God bless,
Taz

If you were both raised broke and in struggles and together got on your feet and are doing well for yourselves and out of self-less your wife gets you a nice gift, that's good. I'm really happy for you both. Don't feel guilty about nothing. Enjoy.

You can have nice things and be content and humble.

If by chance we won the Powerball,I would immediatley place an order for a Mercedes-Maybach 680.When I would recieve the car,I would drive around humming Nazi Marching Tunes,enjoy your Rolex.

william8585 said:

Recently my wife bought me a Rolex.

We both came from humble beginnings. She grew up in social care and I am the son of an abusive alcoholic who made me homeless.

Early in our relationship we struggled but over time we both found work. Got degrees and now have careers. God has been with us though all our struggles and blessed us.

However, my wife got a bonus at work and wanted to surprise me. She did this by purchasing a Rolex watch as a gift for me. It’s lovely looking and the fact she bought this for me made her pleased with herself as it was a symbol of how far we have come and I am grateful as it is a token of her love.

But I am not used to having something so expensive. I feel guilt for possessing something so extravagant. I am yet to even wear it out as I can’t imagine anything other than selling it if life get tough again and we need the money.

Brothers and sisters, what does the bible teach about having expensive things? Should I feel guilty? Should I keep it?

Thank you & God bless.

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I hope that your watch is expensive and that you wife is Dear. Imagine if you had both grown up super rich, and then switched to ultra poor. You see to some extent it’s unfamiliarity which can be the issue, rather than cutting according to cloth, whether the cloth be rich or poor. In writing about depressive illness (Masks of Melancholy) John White mentioned one type of suicide being anomic, where circumstances are simply outside one’s familiar range, and some simply can’t take it. For instance, some used to poverty win a mega-jackpot and can’t cope—get me out of here.

I came from working class background, where from every penny (or cent) counting, we did edge into comparative ease—we could buy a cassette recorder (big treat). I have edged a little higher, so now an o/sea’s week away is the big treat. I know what it is like to jib at presents because they are expensive, and the thought that such wealth should rather go to those poorer than us.

The Bible has never had a down on material riches, nor advocated poverty. Here’s not the place for an indepth study for a simple answer to your difficulty of mindset. But on a broad level, Yahweh did not jib at his anointed kings having grand palaces, but he did jib when they put their palaces before his temple. He did not need his temple; his people did; some kings were depriving the people, and also depriving themselves by wrong attitude towards the spiritual. As an anointed one, Paul knew how it was to toggle between dire poverty and times of luxury: his mission remained difficult in both phases.

My advice would be to honour your wife by honouring her gift in the wearing. Pride and greed are separate issues, and not germane to this situation. As both good workers, you well earn your deserts. Just remain aware of the grace of giving in godly life (1 Cor.8). That does not preclude remaining rich and enjoying material wellbeing and delight, but it does preclude selfishness.

You should sell it and use the money to help the poor.

william8585 said:

Recently my wife bought me a Rolex.

We both came from humble beginnings. She grew up in social care and I am the son of an abusive alcoholic who made me homeless.

Early in our relationship we struggled but over time we both found work. Got degrees and now have careers. God has been with us though all our struggles and blessed us.

However, my wife got a bonus at work and wanted to surprise me. She did this by purchasing a Rolex watch as a gift for me. It’s lovely looking and the fact she bought this for me made her pleased with herself as it was a symbol of how far we have come and I am grateful as it is a token of her love.

But I am not used to having something so expensive. I feel guilt for possessing something so extravagant. I am yet to even wear it out as I can’t imagine anything other than selling it if life get tough again and we need the money.

Brothers and sisters, what does the bible teach about having expensive things? Should I feel guilty? Should I keep it?

Thank you & God bless.

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Many years ago, a preacher told his congregation, while preaching on 1 Corinthians 10:31 (So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God), that if a luxury doesn't cut into your generous giving and you can honestly before God use it for his honor, you can buy and use it. I would agree with him.