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A job from hell

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My daughter recently left a nice job to be closer to her home.Her commute was 1 1/2 hours.This job sounded like a nice opportunity.The people the first day seemed nice.The job turned into a job from hell.The people who surround her are extremely unkind.The person who trained her did not really train her at all.When she would ask the person how they know this information they would just say "I just know".Well,that left her with no knowledge of how to do the job because she was not properly trained.She is processing checks and cash for this company.The people just come by and drop hundreds of checks on her desk and I mean drop.She is so stressed out by this horrible job that she is not able to eat breakfast or lunch.No one talks to her and she rarely gets breaks.Well,she is looking for another job.She has only been at this one of 3 weeks.Have you ever had this happen to you?
 
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I hear a lot of this type of work environment between teachers in public schools. My wife is kind of in this situation, where teachers within a department disagree with how things should be done. Maybe it would be good for your daughter to show her co-workers an un-breakable type of patience and tolerance. That would be a good witness opportunity.
 
jeff77 said:
I hear a lot of this type of work environment between teachers in public schools. My wife is kind of in this situation, where teachers within a department disagree with how things should be done. Maybe it would be good for your daughter to show her co-workers an un-breakable type of patience and tolerance. That would be a good witness opportunity.
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We talked about that but she was so miserable and stressed out to the point of being sick we agreed she should leave.
 
Kathi said:
We talked about that but she was so miserable and stressed out to the point of being sick we agreed she should leave.
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I did have that happen when I first moved into the accounting department at the property management company where I worked for several years.
Sometimes the person who is training you does not know why they are doing what they are doing, so they really can't explain it to you. Some people just memorize entering data where it needs to go and other than that, they ask no questions and make very poor trainers.
I had began first working the front desk and reservations for short and long stays in privately owned properties. So when I was moved to accounting I had some background in how the software worked.
I was trained to do a report for a large travel agency of what reservations we were paying them for, the girl who trained me had been doing it for three years and the controller had trained her. That report was ridiculous and most of it had to be done by hand pulling information from the software. It took at least 2 hrs. sometimes more. I only did it twice that way. The third time I did it my way. Took 15 mins. to run an accounts payable report for their agency, nothing had to be done by hand, and walk it across the hall and put it in their girl's hand. Boy, boy did I hear about it. "You can't do that! They can't have their AP report!" My answer was "Why not? It's the same information." She did not know why not, all she knew was that was not the way it had always been done. :shrug
Praying that your daughter receives a job she absolutely loves.
 
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Morale speaks a lot for a company. If she was told to do what she did or asked how things are done and the answers are always to the effect, that's how we always did it, or because we know, then I'd hate to have dealings with that company as a customer.

The thing that gripes me is I was laid off ten years ago when I was middle-aged already. Then I had to show someone 10-20 years my junior a song and dance and convince then I knew what I was doing for the last 25 years while they were in diapers yet. But while they want good workers, it works both ways. We want good bosses and businesses too. No sense in wanting the sun, moon and stars from an employee but then they don't return something back and one has to feel dread every time they go in to work. Sometimes we do have to leave and fire the employer so-to-speak.

If I were your daughter, I'd go on that glass door site and really dig into them. It may not sound Christian, but as long as it's true, it will prevent others from making the same mistake, and it may have the benefit of the employer shaping up.
 
Deborah13 said:
I did have that happen when I first moved into the accounting department at the property management company where I worked for several years.
Sometimes the person who is training you does not know why they are doing what they are doing, so they really can't explain it to you. Some people just memorize entering data where it needs to go and other than that, they ask no questions and make very poor trainers.
I had began first working the front desk and reservations for short and long stays in privately owned properties. So when I was moved to accounting I had some background in how the software worked.
I was trained to do a report for a large travel agency of what reservations we were paying them for, the girl who trained me had been doing it for three years and the controller had trained her. That report was ridiculous and most of it had to be done by hand pulling information from the software. It took at least 2 hrs. sometimes more. I only did it twice that way. The third time I did it my way. Took 15 mins. to run an accounts payable report for their agency, nothing had to be done by hand, and walk it across the hall and put it in their girl's hand. Boy, boy did I hear about it. "You can't do that! They can't have their AP report!" My answer was "Why not? It's the same information." She did not know why not, all she knew was that was not the way it had always been done. :shrug
Praying that your daughter receives a job she absolutely loves.
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You know what Deb?My daughter said the same thing.She did not think the girl training her really knew what she was doing.My daughter is detailed she asks many questions and the girl training her did not know.The women surrounding her were mean.My daughter has an interview today to step into a similar job like she left closer to her home.She just called her previous supervisor and she told her that she could get her transferred.My daughter loves animals.She should have been a vet.Her future goals are to go to school and become a Vet Tech.
 
Kathi said:
You know what Deb?My daughter said the same thing.She did not think the girl training her really knew what she was doing.My daughter is detailed she asks many questions and the girl training her did not know.The women surrounding her were mean.My daughter has an interview today to step into a similar job like she left closer to her home.She just called her previous supervisor and she told her that she could get her transferred.My daughter loves animals.She should have been a vet.Her future goals are to go to school and become a Vet Tech.
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Well I will pray for her to do that if that is really what she wants. It may be that a job would come up in a vet clinic where she could get started working there even in another position.
This just happened with Lexy over the last 4 wks. She had applied for a position as a receptionist/billing/helper at our vet clinic. She did not get the position but the next week they called her and asked if she would be interested in cleaning the clinic after hours, $15.00 an hour is nothing to scoff at and she was already cleaning three other government building offices so she said yes. Within one month the woman who had been hired there for the job she had applied for had given her two wks. notice, she said it was too stressful for her. When Lexy went in to clean the vet asked her if she was still interested in that position. She gave her two weeks notice at the other offices. Then the vet called her in a week early so she started Monday there during the day and still doing the others at night this week. That position includes office work, helping with the animals at times, and filling prescriptions. They told her that it is hard for them to find people they can trust because of the drugs kept there and can handle the stress of the hurt animals, as well as the need to just put some of them down. Often this includes comforting the hurting owners.
She is so happy to have this opportunity. We had prayed for her to get the position to start with and when she didn't we just said OK God whatever you have for her, your will.
The best part is that the vet/owner and her husband are born again Christians and attend the Baptist church and the other vet and his wife attend the non-denominational church! God is SO good!
 
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Well I will pray for her to do that if that is really what she wants. It may be that a job would come up in a vet clinic where she could get started working there even in another position.
This just happened with Lexy over the last 4 wks. She had applied for a position as a receptionist/billing/helper at our vet clinic. She did not get the position but the next week they called her and asked if she would be interested in cleaning the clinic after hours, $15.00 an hour is nothing to scoff at and she was already cleaning three other government building offices so she said yes. Within one month the woman who had been hired there for the job she had applied for had given her two wks. notice, she said it was too stressful for her. When Lexy went in to clean the vet asked her if she was still interested in that position. She gave her two weeks notice at the other offices. Then the vet called her in a week early so she started Monday there during the day and still doing the others at night this week. That position includes office work, helping with the animals at times, and filling prescriptions. They told her that it is hard for them to find people they can trust because of the drugs kept there and can handle the stress of the hurt animals, as well as the need to just put some of them down. Often this includes comforting the hurting owners.
She is so happy to have this opportunity. We had prayed for her to get the position to start with and when she didn't we just said OK God whatever you have for her, your will.
The best part is that the vet/owner and her husband are born again Christians and attend the Baptist church and the other vet and his wife attend the non-denominational church! God is SO good!
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$15.00 and hour is good pay.Their are professionals in hospitals who are dipping into the drugs.That is so nice that Lexy has this position.My daughter had her interview this morning and everything went really well.But when she got done with the interview she saw that their was an opening right by where she lives.We have been praying for God to open the doors for her.God is good.God is faithful.
 
Kathi said:
$15.00 and hour is good pay.Their are professionals in hospitals who are dipping into the drugs.That is so nice that Lexy has this position.My daughter had her interview this morning and everything went really well.But when she got done with the interview she saw that their was an opening right by where she lives.We have been praying for God to open the doors for her.God is good.God is faithful.
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She only makes 15.00 an hour for cleaning. The office part pays 10.50 an hour. Isn't that interesting, unskilled labor paying much more than skilled. If she had not been working for someone else at the government offices she would have made around 20.00 an hour for cleaning.
 
And my daughter and I made a date for next week to go out to lunch.We both love Pad Thai...
She is already feeling better after leaving that place.
 
Kathi said:
And my daughter and I made a date for next week to go out to lunch.We both love Pad Thai...
She is already feeling better after leaving that place.
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Glad to hear she is better. Have a great time, it's nice to get together with our children.
 
Kathi said:
You know what Deb?My daughter said the same thing.She did not think the girl training her really knew what she was doing.My daughter is detailed she asks many questions and the girl training her did not know.The women surrounding her were mean.My daughter has an interview today to step into a similar job like she left closer to her home.She just called her previous supervisor and she told her that she could get her transferred.My daughter loves animals.She should have been a vet.Her future goals are to go to school and become a Vet Tech.
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I hope she doesn't mind the blood and guts of that job literally. I don't mind seeing if I must, but I cant work in that. when Cheyenne was bledding as she did. I thought she was stabbed or shot. I have a pic of that on my phone. we toss a carpet and her bed out from the blood being on it.
 
A friend of mine was in a somewhat similar situation where she really wasn't properly trained at her job. This went on for a while, and things started falling through the cracks because she was not aware it was part of her job, nor knew how to handle it. She came to me for some advice. This, obviously was a sticky situation, as she really didn't want tell her boss because she would have looked incompetent, on the other hand she was still getting further and further behind on some things.

She did eventually end up quitting, after which God opened up to her another opportunity.

In situations like these we really don't want to become confrontational, but if you are not being taught what you need to do your job and your boss is not doing anything to help the situation, then you have to take it upon yourself to go over their head, either in person or anonymously to make the situation known.
 
My daughter has worked with cadavers.I am sure she can handle some of the issues in a vet clinic.
 
Kathi said:
My daughter recently left a nice job to be closer to her home.Her commute was 1 1/2 hours.This job sounded like a nice opportunity.The people the first day seemed nice.The job turned into a job from hell.The people who surround her are extremely unkind.The person who trained her did not really train her at all.When she would ask the person how they know this information they would just say "I just know".Well,that left her with no knowledge of how to do the job because she was not properly trained.She is processing checks and cash for this company.The people just come by and drop hundreds of checks on her desk and I mean drop.She is so stressed out by this horrible job that she is not able to eat breakfast or lunch.No one talks to her and she rarely gets breaks.Well,she is looking for another job.She has only been at this one of 3 weeks.Have you ever had this happen to you?
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Yes, somewhat. Every day. LOL

reading down the post it looks like she got out. Good deal, I guess. I would not want my daughter stressed out and unhappy, but such environments can be strengthening.

I am very alone as a Christian in my work, and often taken advantage of, or attempted by higher ups and colleagues. I work in a competitive cut throat environment. It's all about who can control customer accounts and generate the most revenue for the biggest bonuses. No one is your friend, but they will pretend to be. All the relationships in my job are quid pro quo. I work under constant threat of termination, everything I say and do in the office is a game of chess. People snoop and dig; try to get an advantage or steal information to gain an advantage. I pray a lot and you know God has seen me through. So in this way I have become stronger.

I build business relationships and broker account deals for my company. It's hard sales, very competitive. It requires some long term relationships and contacts over time, a hard knowledge of the market.We work on slim margins, and at anytime someone can link failure to you. I don't really like what I do for a living but I'm good at it.

My biggest problem is newer young folks. We get "hot shots" all the time who come in and see me as the old lion and they are going to take me out I guess. I always try to foster them in the beginning, and they always seem to be grateful and eager to learn from me, although I never tell them everything. Then at some point they turn on me, or they convince the heads they can do a better job on something they can't handle, and I watch them crash and burn. Watching one do that right now, as a matter of fact, and it's painful.

The part that really kills me is that often the heads know what they are up to, and they let it happen because they believe it might be possible to garner more business, and often we do for a while. Just that little bit to help get us over the next quarter. Then when it fails because we can't handle the volume the blame goes to the hot shot, who quits or gets fired.

One of these days my number will come up, in some way. I'll be too old. My contacts will be old, or retire and I'll be less effective then I am and they will let me go, probably at the behest of some new hot shot wanting my pride. Few people reach retirement age in my business. Some days I wish it sooner than later. There are only a few people who help protect me and they only do it because I have information and contacts built over years. I don't make rash decisions and I know the market. I keep the numbers stable.
 
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