[__ Prayer __] A new season for our family

[Wrg1405]

In 2 weeks time my son goes of to university. My wife and I have 4 kids. My son is the eldest then we have 3 daughters.

Whilst the university is only an hour away we feel it's right he stays in halls. He is almost 19.

When he was born the first thing I did was lift him up to God and gave him back to him.
Now we find ourselves in the position that we really have to let him go and to be honest my wife and I are dreading it. He is a Christian.

Can I ask that as when you remember you will lift Jack up. That he finds a good church. Pray for his sisters that they will be ok now that big brother is gone.

Please pray that I truly let him go and let God step in. Pray for my wife Tori. She gave up work when he was born and has invested more time in Jack than I have in terms of time.

We take him and leave him 16th September. Pray as we leave him that he will feel secure and that as we leave him and return home that our tears will not fall and that we truly trust God.

 

[Christ_empowered]

I think y'all are doing the right thing, too. Praying.

 

[Wrg1405]

I think y'all are doing the right thing, too. Praying.

Thank you.

 

[Wrg1405]

Please note that I don't want to burden you all. I know what it is like to say "yes I will pray" and then forget.
So if you forget please don't feel bad.

 

[Mike S]

We will pray for Jack. He will need a strong faith, and will no doubt be tested at times.

Where is Jack attending university, if you don't mind sharing?

 

[Wrg1405]

We will pray for Jack. He will need a strong faith, and will no doubt be tested at times.

Where is Jack attending university, if you don't mind sharing?

He is off to Reading UK. He was accepted with certain grades achieved to do a computational degree of maths and computing science. His grades were higher so now he is unsure whether to do the computational degree or pure maths.

Thanks for praying. My concern and it may be selfish is that I know he will be tested. I look back over the years and I know that at times I wasn't the father I was meant to be. I pray that that God somehow erases that and installs and recalls the things of him that I have imparted to Jack. When I say I that actually means my wife and me, although I do think my beautiful wife has done a better job than me.

 

[Mike S]

He is off to Reading UK. He was accepted with certain grades achieved to do a computational degree of maths and computing science. His grades were higher so now he is unsure whether to do the computational degree or pure maths.

Do you think Jack prefers the abstract nature of pure mathematics to the practical applications? Not that it really matters, he sounds like a very bright boy, he'll find his way.

You can't beat yourself up over not being the perfect father. None of us is the man we wish we were, but we're not alone. The Bible is filled with imperfect men God has used for His greater purposes.

 

[Wrg1405]

Do you think Jack prefers the abstract nature of pure mathematics to the practical applications? Not that it really matters, he sounds like a very bright boy, he'll find his way.

You can't beat yourself up over not being the perfect father. None of us is the man we wish we were, but we're not alone. The Bible is filled with imperfect men God has used for His greater purposes.

I'm not sure. He has talked about software engineering and cyber fraud (not engaging in cyber fraud but combating it) as the next big thing. I tried to encourage him to get a job at IBM who guarantee a job if you get in, pay a basic salary for 3 years whilst training you. If after 3 years you choose to leave you are free to do so, (they don't release you) if not they up your salary to $80,000 without even thinking about it.

Thing that worries me is that over here you have to pay to go to uni. So after 3 years his debt will be $54,000 and we will have to contribute $10,000 a year (don't mind that as I am sure we will be able to do it albeit cutting back our own expenditure)

The money that we pay out is irrelevant to me. The debt he builds up and has to pay back lays heavy on my heart.

My prayer and hope as said is that what we have shown him and taught him that is from God is greater than the time I got it wrong but also that he finds a good church, foucsed on Jesus.

 

[Eugene]

Please note that I don't want to burden you all. I know what it is like to say "yes I will pray" and then forget.
So if you forget please don't feel bad.

Dear Brother Wrg1405, I don't know your time before God, but it sounds as you have the bases covered in Christ. For me, I go before my Father's throne boldly with any burden and leave it there. He knows my going and coming, and when I cast your son Jack up for protection I know and trust that his protection is of utmost importance to Him Who cannot fail. I truly believe you're going to be amazed at the calm and insurance you, your wife, and daughters are going to have as Jack leaves the nest as it were. At first you'll share in his excitement of discovery of independence, new things learned, and becoming a man that must make decisions that determine the remainder of his life while using the values you have taught him.

You speak of his not being sure of his areas of study, and that is one thing schools of higher learning offer. Beginning classes offer an eye in the sky providing for Jack to become more aware of what is available that he might want to narrow in on. I would advise for your family to enjoy this new adventure with him and just encourage him as he grows into what you've done your best to prepare him for.

Dear Father, You know Jack, You care for him, and You hear our prayers for his safety and leading. Have Your perfect will for him while also comforting this family as You look over him for them. Thank You Father, and I thank You for it in Jesus' name. Amen.

 

[Wrg1405]

Dear Brother Wrg1405, I don't know your time before God, but it sounds as you have the bases covered in Christ. For me, I go before my Father's throne boldly with any burden and leave it there. He knows my going and coming, and when I cast your son Jack up for protection I know and trust that his protection is of utmost importance to Him Who cannot fail. I truly believe you're going to be amazed at the calm and insurance you, your wife, and daughters are going to have as Jack leaves the nest as it were. At first you'll share in his excitement of discovery of independence, new things learned, and becoming a man that must make decisions that determine the remainder of his life while using the values you have taught him.

You speak of his not being sure of his areas of study, and that is one thing schools of higher learning offer. Beginning classes offer an eye in the sky providing for Jack to become more aware of what is available that he might want to narrow in on. I would advise for your family to enjoy this new adventure with him and just encourage him as he grows into what you've done your best to prepare him for.

Dear Father, You know Jack, You care for him, and You hear our prayers for his safety and leading. Have Your perfect will for him while also comforting this family as You look over him for them. Thank You Father, and I thank You for it in Jesus' name. Amen.

Thank you so much. Tears in my eyes.

 

[Angel]

I will pray that he adjusts well and that you do too. You and your wife sound like good parents

 

[AirDancer]

In 2 weeks time my son goes of to university. My wife and I have 4 kids. My son is the eldest then we have 3 daughters.

Whilst the university is only an hour away we feel it's right he stays in halls. He is almost 19.

When he was born the first thing I did was lift him up to God and gave him back to him.
Now we find ourselves in the position that we really have to let him go and to be honest my wife and I are dreading it. He is a Christian.

Can I ask that as when you remember you will lift Jack up. That he finds a good church. Pray for his sisters that they will be ok now that big brother is gone.

Please pray that I truly let him go and let God step in. Pray for my wife Tori. She gave up work when he was born and has invested more time in Jack than I have in terms of time.

We take him and leave him 16th September. Pray as we leave him that he will feel secure and that as we leave him and return home that our tears will not fall and that we truly trust God.

Any tears shed will be tears of joy, seeing your son move further towards maturity. Yes, you'll miss him around the home...that's a given because you're a parent and he's your 'baby' (doesn't matter the age!).

But take comfort in the fact that he's a Christian. That alone will prevent him from taking some steps that many of his peers will take. Plus you & your wife have provided him a sound foundation with the knowledge of right from wrong, and the ability to stand on his own two feet.

Just stay encouraging, listen when he wants to talk, and every so often, drop him a note with Scripture that reminds you of something that the two of you shared.

You and your family are in my prayers, my friend. This transitional time does need prayer & support. But do know that our Lord won't abandon any of you, and that includes your son as well!

 

[Wrg1405]

Taking Jack to uni tomorrow. Really sorry but not coping well with it. Sorry

 

[Deborah13]

Taking Jack to uni tomorrow. Really sorry but not coping well with it. Sorry

Tears are not always a bad thing for our children to see, they know that they are loved and will be missed.
As AirDancer said, they are our babies no matter how old they are. It doesn't mean that you aren't trusting God just that you will miss Jack so much.

 

[Angel]

I'll pray

 

[AirDancer]

Taking Jack to uni tomorrow. Really sorry but not coping well with it. Sorry

It's a monumental, life-changing event for you and each of your family. Your 'baby' is off to university.

Just remember: you've provided him with a life of knowing our Lord. You've provided sound footing for him to set off on his own at university without the worries of taking many wrong steps.

You're a loving dad. You're going to miss your son. And when you see him next, you're going to be pleased with the way he is coping with much of university life. He'll have experienced challenges that he faced, and if you ask him about them, he'll share - probably even laugh at himself for the initial concerns he had.

Prayers continue for you & your family, my friend

 

[Wrg1405]

Back from dropping him off. Very emotional day. It's hard hugging him when he has tears in eyes when I have them as well. Seeing him walk off. My wife was very positive when settling in but was very tearful going home, I couldn't be as I was driving home.

When my boy was born I gave him back to God. I have to be honest over the years I've taken him back. Over the last 9 months when he decided to go to uni I tried to keep him. Then I had to give him back again, it's been a long 9 months that has culminated today.

All day today I have been asking God, begging God, imploring God praying in Jesus name "Look after my son, follow your promises in my sons life, he is not in my house anymore"

Sorry to burden you with my tears.

Can I ask that you pray for good friends for him, fellow beleivers for him and that he settles into a good church.

 

[dianegcook]

I kinda know what you mean, I stayed home with my children,
So I decided to take my son to preschool, to get use of me not being around all the time.
I had to literally peel him off my legs.
I left him crying, then I was crying!
Just Remember this, Prov.22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

You did your part!

I pray for you and your wife, during the "empty nest" syndrome, Lord, may you give them peace in knowing that Your eyes are on the righteous, they are like the Apple of Your eyes,
And to remember Your promises for those.
I ask for protection for their son, and that he may be prosperous in all Thine ways..
In Jesus's name..

Then tell your wife that grandchildren are grand!

 

[Angel]

Can I ask that you pray for good friends for him, fellow beleivers for him and that he settles into a good church.

I will pray this.

 

[Eugene]

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With your sweet testimony Brother Wrg1405, your son has become as my own. Let's trust God to keep him safe as the very one you entrusted to Him when he was born. This reminds me so much of Hannah giving Samuel to the Lord, and what great things came as the result of that. Your weeping will cease and what our Father has in store for him will increase your faith. How? I do not know but we can trust God as Judge of the entire world to do that which is right.
Be blessed in Jesus' name.