A question on remarriage

[skylene]

i am struggling to understand if the bible allows remarriage... can anyone explain this passage in Mark to me... Mark 10:11-12.
so He said to them, "whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husbnad and married another, she commits adultery."
Does this mean that we are not to remary?

luke 16:18 says the same thing

Romans 7:2-3 "For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. BUt if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husvnad lices, she married another man, she will be called an adulteress: but if her husvand dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, shough she has married another man."

there are other scriptures i have found that say this same thing... Can anyone help me understand?

 

[samuel]

There is a lot of controversy over the subject of remarriage, but not to get into all of that. Yes these verses mean just exactly what they say. There was a time long ago all the church leaders agreed with these verses, and taught remarriage was not pleasing to God, and is a sin.

But that sadly does not agree with the itching ears of today, so its no longer popular to preach or teach this.

 

[LostSoul]

I do believe this has been a topic touched down on before here at Christian Forums in the past. Nonetheless, there really has been no contradiction from what I have seen in scriptures. For if we read a little more you will find that remarriage is not discouraged.....this though being only if the man or woman has been widowed. In other words, should one's spouse have passed on and one seek to unify themselves with another, according to scripture there is nothing sinful about this. However, in terms of divorce and remarriage....it is strongly discouraged for a man or woman to marry another after leaving his/her spouse.

If desired, I can find the passages supporting this.

My apologies for any offense caused. None was meant.

May God Bless You

Danielle

 

[Adullam]

I have studied this issue extensively since this was a major issue for eldership many years ago. I agree that people today can no longer hear the difficulty of God's judgment on the matter. I personally don't judge anyone for remarriage after divorce. But I will try to warn them beforehand if possible and if appropriate.

God hates divorce

Couples should reconcile if possible

(now here's the hard one) A woman is married to her husband as long as he lives.

A man must not send his wife away

A woman who marries again while her spouse yet lives, commits adultery (no exceptions)

A man who divorces his wife is responsible for her subsequent adultery

A man can only remarry if the wife has been unfaithful. (No biblical mandate for the woman to do the same)

Now before anyone calls any of the above into question, please check out the bible on this THOROUGHLY before negative comment. Men had multiple wives in the old days....but wives never had multiple husbands. So the biblical teaching seems to have a bent towards the husband at first glance. If one looks deeper, then you see God's order on things.

Peace and unity through Christ

John

 

[lovely]

I have studied this issue extensively since this was a major issue for eldership many years ago. I agree that people today can no longer hear the difficulty of God's judgment on the matter. I personally don't judge anyone for remarriage after divorce. But I will try to warn them beforehand if possible and if appropriate.

God hates divorce

Couples should reconcile if possible

(now here's the hard one) A woman is married to her husband as long as he lives.

A man must not send his wife away

A woman who marries again while her spouse yet lives, commits adultery (no exceptions)

A man who divorces his wife is responsible for her subsequent adultery

A man can only remarry if the wife has been unfaithful. (No biblical mandate for the woman to do the same)

Now before anyone calls any of the above into question, please check out the bible on this THOROUGHLY before negative comment. Men had multiple wives in the old days....but wives never had multiple husbands. So the biblical teaching seems to have a bent towards the husband at first glance. If one looks deeper, then you see God's order on things.

Peace and unity through Christ

John

John, this is accurate according to the Word.

 

[samuel]

I do believe this has been a topic touched down on before here at Christian Forums in the past. Nonetheless, there really has been no contradiction from what I have seen in scriptures. For if we read a little more you will find that remarriage is not discouraged.....this though being only if the man or woman has been widowed.

I did not touch on this, because it didn't seem to me to be in view of the OP question. Yes remarriage is acceptable in the case of the death of ones spouse, but only to one in the Lord.

 

[skylene]

I have studied this issue extensively since this was a major issue for eldership many years ago. I agree that people today can no longer hear the difficulty of God's judgment on the matter. I personally don't judge anyone for remarriage after divorce. But I will try to warn them beforehand if possible and if appropriate.

God hates divorce

Couples should reconcile if possible

(now here's the hard one) A woman is married to her husband as long as he lives.

A man must not send his wife away

A woman who marries again while her spouse yet lives, commits adultery (no exceptions)

A man who divorces his wife is responsible for her subsequent adultery

A man can only remarry if the wife has been unfaithful. (No biblical mandate for the woman to do the same)

Now before anyone calls any of the above into question, please check out the bible on this THOROUGHLY before negative comment. Men had multiple wives in the old days....but wives never had multiple husbands. So the biblical teaching seems to have a bent towards the husband at first glance. If one looks deeper, then you see God's order on things.

Peace and unity through Christ

John

You said they can remarry if there is adultery... what about gomer and hosea? GOd continually broght them back together despite her adultery. Can you show me where it says you can remarry if there is adultery? What i have read does not agree with that.

May i post a site i have been looking into about this subject??

www.cadz.net

 

[Adullam]

I have studied this issue extensively since this was a major issue for eldership many years ago. I agree that people today can no longer hear the difficulty of God's judgment on the matter. I personally don't judge anyone for remarriage after divorce. But I will try to warn them beforehand if possible and if appropriate.

God hates divorce

Couples should reconcile if possible

(now here's the hard one) A woman is married to her husband as long as he lives.

A man must not send his wife away

A woman who marries again while her spouse yet lives, commits adultery (no exceptions)

A man who divorces his wife is responsible for her subsequent adultery

A man can only remarry if the wife has been unfaithful. (No biblical mandate for the woman to do the same)

Now before anyone calls any of the above into question, please check out the bible on this THOROUGHLY before negative comment. Men had multiple wives in the old days....but wives never had multiple husbands. So the biblical teaching seems to have a bent towards the husband at first glance. If one looks deeper, then you see God's order on things.

Peace and unity through Christ

John

You said they can remarry if there is adultery... what about gomer and hosea? GOd continually broght them back together despite her adultery. Can you show me where it says you can remarry if there is adultery? What i have read does not agree with that.

May i post a site i have been looking into about this subject??

http://www.cadz.net

Good point! You then revert to the first directive, God hates divorce. Also Hosea was told what to do by God, he being a prophet and all. We must always obey the Lord. But the Lord says in Mat 19:9 ...save for fornication. It is however God's will that couples reconcile.

 

[skylene]

I can't help but wonder why only Matt has the fornication clause and not the other passages, it is a bit confusing. Could it be because matt was talking to the jewish people and the other gospels were not? I am not jewish so I guess that would not apply to me... Hummm???

 

[shad]

You said they can remarry if there is adultery... what about gomer and hosea? GOd continually broght them back together despite her adultery. Can you show me where it says you can remarry if there is adultery? What i have read does not agree with that.

No you cannot remarry, even though you can divorce, in case of adultery. Remarriage is acceptable if you are widow or widower.

 

[skylene]

No you cannot remarry, even though you can divorce, in case of adultery. Remarriage is acceptable if you are widow or widower.[/quote]


Why is it then that many churches today hav epastors that are remarried and many are remmarying people? The word is clear isn't it?

 

[shad]

No you cannot remarry, even though you can divorce, in case of adultery. Remarriage is acceptable if you are widow or widower.

Why is it then that many churches today hav epastors that are remarried and many are remmarying people? The word is clear isn't it?[/quote]

Yes, it is simple and clear: They just don't honor and respect Bible(God's) teachings.

 

[samuel]

Why is it then that many churches today hav epastors that are remarried and many are remmarying people? The word is clear isn't it?

Because men search for loopholes in the Scriptures, just like they do in Tax laws. And Ministers bow to their itchy eared congregates. So as not to drive them away, OH!, that would reduce the Churches income :naughty .

Here is a verse used as a loophole. In the first place unbeliever is the case, not a supposed Christian. In the second place, what is the bondage the scripture states, the marriage contract. They are no longer under the bondage to support, or see to the needs of the departed. But can we really stretch this out, to mean you can remarry. There is really no support for such in the text.

1Co:7:15: But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

 

[conchoreb]

Interesting that this question can generate so much talk when, as has been pointed out, the Word is so clear on it.

 

[skylene]

I think the reason this topic causes so much contriversy is because there are so many "christians" who have married and divorced and then remarried. How can we be a light to others if we do not even follow a cut and dry teaching like this one?

 

[shad]

I think the reason this topic causes so much contriversy is because there are so many "christians" who have married and divorced and then remarried. How can we be a light to others if we do not even follow a cut and dry teaching like this one?

The churches are accommodating the majority, and if they tried to go along with the Bible they will lose many of the members. How can they pay their pastors and priests salaries if they lose their members? That's why paid pastors' churches do not work for God's churches. They even make up doctrine to accommodate the majority.

 

[skylene]

I agee shad. i agree.

 

[Caroline H]

I think the reason this topic causes so much contriversy is because there are so many "christians" who have married and divorced and then remarried. How can we be a light to others if we do not even follow a cut and dry teaching like this one?

Because it is not a cut and dry issue. There are many things in the Bible that are not cut and dry, but many people pull out certain scriptural instances to support their views when really there are just some things that the Bible leaves open. I have read all the verses that have been pointed out here and in other threads dealing with this and I still am not convinced that there is a simple black and white answer. Sure, there is a grave epidemic among Christians with our divorce rate and unhappy marriages and it needs to be dealt with very seriously in our churches. But to take such a hard stand against people in certain situations where they have honestly prayed and the Lord has dealt in their lives towards remarriage would be wrong, in my opinion. We should strongly discourage divorce and encourage reconcilliation, and leave the rest up to God to judge what is right or wrong. If He leads a person into remarriage for His glory, then who are we to place a yoke of burden upon them?

 

[shad]

Because it is not a cut and dry issue.

I disagree. It is cut and dry. Many people just don't respect and honor God's teachings.

 

[lastblast7]

Wow, I am surely encouraged to see so many here who DO adhere to God's Word on divorce and remarriage. That is a rare thing in this day/age on Christian forums.

As to the comment on remarriages bringing Glory to God, that could only happen if a remarriage is ordained by Him, not if a remarriage is adulterous. Only when 2 people are biblically free to enter into another covenant (because there are no living spouses) can this new couple/family bring Glory to God. If there are living spouses (some call them "ex'es"), there is only chaos and "blending", that for the most part, is not God glorifying, no matter how hard the parties involved try. Much heartache attributed to the breakup of a covenant family will follow the children for the rest of their lives.

Like I said though, how comforting to read that many here DO believe in covenant marriage as presented in God's Word. It is my great hope that more and more people will get into God's Word and find that not only does God hate divorce (of covenant couples), but He does not permit remarriage where separation/divorce has occurred in covenant marriage. He has commanded that such, "remain unmarried OR be reconciled". ( ICor. 7:10-12). Blessings..........