Am I a failure?

[david_rf911]

Question: Am I a failure in the eyes of our lord if I don't get married and have children?

No, for those of you who's first thought is, (This guy must be gay) That would be the farthest thing from the truth! It just dosent seem at this point that the family thing is in the stars for me, and that makes me feel like a failure.. Thats what we are suppose to do right?

 

[xounstaer]

i am in with you probably, though all is still possible since am 26.

but i choose a path like jesus, like handing out an inheritage to the next and the previous, trough proclamation and prayer and writing. it's real to me.

i often wasd in tears and just cried take this i have from me and run away, to the furure genaration. go wonder....

what do you consider as the values of life as belier.?
i cried to much allready for not being the 'regular mote'...

but i found before and know after still there's other ways of being usefull
certainly in jesus and gods eyes.
have you ever noticed how the greatest after abraham, isaak' and jakob. have not got children according to scripture? but even without that knowldge
think about how u can (as in dutch) ad your stone to this world, and the world coming perhaps even.

close to my heart this was.
greets, stein x

 

[grovenored]

No, we're not all called to be married and have kids, though a lot are.
Paul often extols the virtues of being single, being single himself, and even seems to have a "get married if you have to" sort of vibe on occasion.
1Corinthians 7:7-9 -
"But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another.
So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust."
Read through the whole of the chapter, it's a great read as Paul goes through singleness and marriage.
So no, God doesn't think you're a failure, dude.
Wasn't Jesus single? Was he a failure because of it?
I hope this helps

 

[Jake]

Question: Am I a failure in the eyes of our lord if I don't get married and have children?

No, for those of you who's first thought is, (This guy must be gay) That would be the farthest thing from the truth! It just dosent seem at this point that the family thing is in the stars for me, and that makes me feel like a failure.. Thats what we are suppose to do right?

Isn't God more concerned about your character and conforming to Christ? Maybe we put too much emphasis on getting married and having kids and we're missing out on what God wants to do through us.
Just a thought.

 

[reba]

Hi Rockie, very often you are wise beyond your years!


Marriage is not for everyone. Even in marriage children are not for everyone...

Gods kids are not formed via a cookie cutter. Praise His name we are different!

 

[Christ_empowered]

Paul and the early Christian church were big on the celibacy option--it gave the individual more time to focus on church and being godly. I think over the years we've lost the distinction between conventional (wife, kids, a dog in the backyard) and godly. Godly people often are married, often have kids (and pets), but not always. Just because you're outside the norm doesn't mean you're a "failure;" like Rockie said, the Christian walk is all about becoming more like Jesus and the ongoing "renewal of your mind."

 

[Jake]

Hi Rockie, very often you are wise beyond your years!


Marriage is not for everyone. Even in marriage children are not for everyone...

Gods kids are not formed via a cookie cutter. Praise His name we are different!

Reba - everytime I come back here, your name is a different color. ;)

If the OP is to get married, then God will send him a wife!

 

[Webers_Home]

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Isaac didn't get married till he was 40, and Jacob was almost twice that when he got married; but then people were a lot more robust in their day.

Older daddies run a higher risk of birth defects in our day. Personally, I think it should be against the law for a man to father children over the age of 50 because as a man ages, the cells in his body are gradually replaced by cells inferior to their parent cells, and those inferior cells are replaced by cells even more inferior yet; in other words; the aging process never produces youth, no, it only produces debilitation : and I think everybody probably knows which cells I'm talking about without me having to say so.

So I wouldn't say that a 26 year-old man who's never married is a failure (not yet anyway). But what I would say is that he's pushing his luck because the aging process kicks in right around age 32 and only goes downhill from there.

Homo sapiens enjoys a very brief period of freshness before he begins to fall apart; and from then on his remaining time on this globe can be defined as the throes of a living death for which there is no treatment. The aging process is slow, but it's also persistent. Debilitation is like Arnold Swarzenegger's relentless movie character; the Terminator : it feels neither pain nor pity, nor remorse nor fear; it cannot be reasoned with nor can it be bargained with, and it absolutely will not stop— ever —until you are dead.

C.L.I.F.F.
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[Jake]

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Isaac didn't get married till he was 40, and Jacob was almost twice that when he got married; but then people were a lot more robust in their day.

Older daddies run a higher risk of birth defects in our day. Personally, I think it should be against the law for a man to father children over the age of 50 because as a man ages, the cells in his body are gradually replaced by cells inferior to their parent cells, and those inferior cells are replaced by cells even more inferior yet; in other words; the aging process never produces youth, no, it only produces debilitation : and I think everybody probably knows which cells I'm talking about without me having to say so.

So I wouldn't say that a 26 year-old man who's never married is a failure (not yet anyway). But what I would say is that he's pushing his luck because the aging process kicks in right around age 32 and only goes downhill from there.

Homo sapiens enjoys a very brief period of freshness before he begins to fall apart; and from then on his remaining time on this globe can be defined as the throes of a living death for which there is no treatment. The aging process is slow, but it's also persistent. Debilitation is like Arnold Swarzenegger's relentless movie character; the Terminator : it feels neither pain nor pity, nor remorse nor fear; it cannot be reasoned with nor can it be bargained with, and it absolutely will not stop— ever —until you are dead.

C.L.I.F.F.
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I hear what you are saying about the scientific part of the aging process, but my dad was over 50 when he had me - with God, all things are possible.

And you said, at 26 you're not a failure yet? So that means if he doesn't get married then he is a failure? That's pretty ridiculous to say, imo.
peace.

 

[xounstaer]

Reba - everytime I come back here, your name is a different color. ;)

If the OP is to get married, then God will send him a wife!

so and uhh if ty he/the OP is about to get something else then the goodies for that will be sent too, right?:D like uhhhh
imo i better be finished then with what i said/say and want to do... before 32 and get a wife and kids at 33 or so. making sense.

i'll pray for you. i hope you find truth webers home.
btw do you know how to relate Ezra right and care for him's vieuw?
but i bewt the terminator is olso that pure then to give lots of offspring not?
;)

 

[xounstaer]

btw where on earth does fishes mind come from huh and where does it get tought/brought up?

 

[xounstaer]

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Isaac didn't get married till he was 40, and Jacob was almost twice that when he got married; but then people were a lot more robust in their day.

Older daddies run a higher risk of birth defects in our day. Personally, I think it should be against the law for a man to father children over the age of 50 because as a man ages, the cells in his body are gradually replaced by cells inferior to their parent cells, and those inferior cells are replaced by cells even more inferior yet; in other words; the aging process never produces youth, no, it only produces debilitation : and I think everybody probably knows which cells I'm talking about without me having to say so.

So I wouldn't say that a 26 year-old man who's never married is a failure (not yet anyway). But what I would say is that he's pushing his luck because the aging process kicks in right around age 32 and only goes downhill from there.

Homo sapiens enjoys a very brief period of freshness before he begins to fall apart; and from then on his remaining time on this globe can be defined as the throes of a living death for which there is no treatment. The aging process is slow, but it's also persistent. Debilitation is like Arnold Swarzenegger's relentless movie character; the Terminator : it feels neither pain nor pity, nor remorse nor fear; it cannot be reasoned with nor can it be bargained with, and it absolutely will not stop— ever —until you are dead.

C.L.I.F.F.
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i just gotten 26 to say i am adult. now u saying 32 i also hear 28 to sart with love food. tell me some. are you beyond 32 or so? far beyond? or exactly?

ow never mind. i just want you to know it's never too late to see all and get to become wise(r), u know;)

 

[Webers_Home]

my dad was over 50 when he had me

In chaos theory, the butterfly effect refers to the sensitive dependence on initial conditions; where a small change at one place in a nonlinear system can result in large differences to a later state. For example, the presence or absence of a butterfly flapping its wings could lead to creation or absence of a hurricane. In other words; in any dynamic system, small initial differences may over time lead to large unforeseen consequences.

In 2004, Ashton Kutcher was in a movie based somewhat on chaos theory. It was an antithesis of the popular Jimmy Stewart movie titled: It's a Wonderful Life.

In Ashton's movie, the world was worse off for his existence. I can't remember the exact ending but I think Ashton's character finds a way back to his mother's womb and causes her to miscarry so he's never born and subsequently prevents all the ills that his existence brought about in the lives of others; especially his mom.

My point is; have you ever thought of the possibility that your dad made a huge mistake and that the world would be much better off had you not been born? It's a crazy question of course, and one that most of us never entertain because we mostly prefer to think of ourselves as blessings rather than a curse.

There are times when people ought not to reproduce. There's one mentioned in the 16th chapter of Jeremiah; and another in the 24th chapter of Matthew. Personally, if I were 26 in this day and age, I would forget about bringing children into the world because the current generation of kiddies is facing two very big problems. Number one : on average they are not going to live as long as their parents due to the poor quality of the foods and beverages they're being fed. Number 2 : they are going to see the end of oil and the catastrophic collapse resulting from it. If somebody thought the 2008 Wall Street collapse was serious; that was just a hiccup compared to the collapse looming on the horizon that is going to result from the end of oil.

I had to chuckle the other day when the news announced the discovery of a new oil reserve of 750 million barrels. Haw! America consumes an average of 19 million barrels of oil every 24 hours on the clock. Plastic manufactures alone use something like 714 million barrels a year just to make containers for the bottled water industry; enough to fuel 100,000 cars; and all for the sake of something you can get for pennies right out of your own tap. In other words; that 750 million barrel discovery is good for about 39 days worth of consumption— roughly 5½ weeks; and that's to cheer about? I don't think so. Maybe for Nestle's, Coca-Cola, and Pepsi; but certainly not for the rest of us.

C.L.I.F.F.
<O:p</O:p|

 

[SkyKing 51]

What the heck you mean your a failure!
who told you this? that idoit satan.?
Look your no failure in god's eyes.
I'm single my self been that for 51 years and still going.
you consider yourself lucky, at least you don't have to pay child support
most marriages are failing these days. I think at times reason why I single
is I'm not meant to have a mate but I consider a blessing.
Look there are some people walking with AIDS and HIV ,VD SIDS etc
don't you think that God is preventing you from getting the germs?
your still alive and still have good health , thank god for it...

 

[INHISHANDS55]

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Isaac didn't get married till he was 40, and Jacob was almost twice that when he got married; but then people were a lot more robust in their day.

Older daddies run a higher risk of birth defects in our day. Personally, I think it should be against the law for a man to father children over the age of 50 because as a man ages, the cells in his body are gradually replaced by cells inferior to their parent cells, and those inferior cells are replaced by cells even more inferior yet; in other words; the aging process never produces youth, no, it only produces debilitation : and I think everybody probably knows which cells I'm talking about without me having to say so.

So I wouldn't say that a 26 year-old man who's never married is a failure (not yet anyway). But what I would say is that he's pushing his luck because the aging process kicks in right around age 32 and only goes downhill from there.

Homo sapiens enjoys a very brief period of freshness before he begins to fall apart; and from then on his remaining time on this globe can be defined as the throes of a living death for which there is no treatment. The aging process is slow, but it's also persistent. Debilitation is like Arnold Swarzenegger's relentless movie character; the Terminator : it feels neither pain nor pity, nor remorse nor fear; it cannot be reasoned with nor can it be bargained with, and it absolutely will not stop— ever —until you are dead.

C.L.I.F.F.
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Huh? I wa s35 and my husband 29 when we married. We have a very healthy normal son.:o

 

[SkyKing 51]

Don't worry about a mate, you just focus on jesus.
love and romance is not what it seems to be these days.
I got rejected over 890 times in my life and I said heck with this ,
welcome to the last of the good ones club,

 

[Bob Carabbio]

"Am I a failure in the eyes of our lord if I don't get married and have children?"

Nope. You're listening to LYING VOICES from the enemy. I suggest that you simply turn on him and tell him to shut up, and GO AWAY!!!!! IF you resist Him, he'll flee.

Father Doesn't tell his kids that they're failures - only the enemy does.

What you're SUPPOSED TO DO is "take His Yoke upon you, and LEARN OF HIM". Reading your Bible would be a really good start.

 

[Webers_Home]

I wa s35 and my husband 29 when we married. We have a very healthy normal son.

<O:p</O:pI got married at 36. Our son was born with two birth defects. One was repairable with surgery and we never told him about it because the defect was located in an embarrassing place. The other was irreparable. It's located in his left eye and prevented him from joining the Marines; which was really heart-breaking for our son since he has loved military stuff ever since he was a little boy; but at least we didn't get him back from the Mideast in a casket or with pieces of his body torn off by an IED.

C.L.I.F.F.
<O:p</O:p|<O:p</O:p

 

[Jake]

In chaos theory, the butterfly effect refers to the sensitive dependence on initial conditions; where a small change at one place in a nonlinear system can result in large differences to a later state. For example, the presence or absence of a butterfly flapping its wings could lead to creation or absence of a hurricane. In other words; in any dynamic system, small initial differences may over time lead to large unforeseen consequences.

In 2004, Ashton Kutcher was in a movie based somewhat on chaos theory. It was an antithesis of the popular Jimmy Stewart movie titled: It's a Wonderful Life.

In Ashton's movie, the world was worse off for his existence. I can't remember the exact ending but I think Ashton's character finds a way back to his mother's womb and causes her to miscarry so he's never born and subsequently prevents all the ills that his existence brought about in the lives of others; especially his mom.

My point is; have you ever thought of the possibility that your dad made a huge mistake and that the world would be much better off had you not been born? It's a crazy question of course, and one that most of us never entertain because we mostly prefer to think of ourselves as blessings rather than a curse.

There are times when people ought not to reproduce. There's one mentioned in the 16th chapter of Jeremiah; and another in the 24th chapter of Matthew. Personally, if I were 26 in this day and age, I would forget about bringing children into the world because the current generation of kiddies is facing two very big problems. Number one : on average they are not going to live as long as their parents due to the poor quality of the foods and beverages they're being fed. Number 2 : they are going to see the end of oil and the catastrophic collapse resulting from it. If somebody thought the 2008 Wall Street collapse was serious; that was just a hiccup compared to the collapse looming on the horizon that is going to result from the end of oil.

I had to chuckle the other day when the news announced the discovery of a new oil reserve of 750 million barrels. Haw! America consumes an average of 19 million barrels of oil every 24 hours on the clock. Plastic manufactures alone use something like 714 million barrels a year just to make containers for the bottled water industry; enough to fuel 100,000 cars; and all for the sake of something you can get for pennies right out of your own tap. In other words; that 750 million barrel discovery is good for about 39 days worth of consumption— roughly 5½ weeks; and that's to cheer about? I don't think so. Maybe for Nestle's, Coca-Cola, and Pepsi; but certainly not for the rest of us.

C.L.I.F.F.
<O:p</O:p|

The chaos theory sounds the same as cause and effect, one thing happens and it sets off a domino effect. Yet in God's perfect plan, He has it all under control and nothing escapes Him nor does anything surprise Him, at least that's how I see it. Maybe you see it differently.

I have never questioned my existance because it seems it would be fruitless to do so, we didn't have a choice regardless, do you know what I mean?

Maybe alot of people think they shouldn't bring children into the world for the reasons you have provided, and I agree about the state of the world, but a person never knows what God will do through the life of that child.
Of course, children are one way God gives gifts, but not all people get the same gifts, right? So by God's Will, some people will remain childless no matter what their wants are.

In regards to the oil, it seems to be the same with nat'l debt, huh? They say they are lowering it, but when you look at the numbers, it sounds like alot, but it ends up being only 1% of the total. Big numbers are not always impressive.

 

[SkyKing 51]

Phooey on love and marriage.
In my veaw there is no woman that is worthy.
love and marriage is worthless and trash.
being single is the best thing .