Am I the One?

[Homeskillet]

I've been reading a book called "Am I the One" by James Lucas. It's such a wonderful concept because it focuses not just on finding "the one" but also BECOMING "the one".

Well, there are questions in the back of each chapter and I thought it might be kind of nice to answer them here. I know ya'll may not have the book, but I still believe that answering the questions will help change your perspective.

I'll post Chapter one questions in my next post.

 

[Homeskillet]

Chapter 1: "All I wanna do is have some fun"


Excerpts:

The least boring person in existence is God. He knows how to have a good time. He knows how, which mean we have to learn how. So here's the biggest news: The only way to really have fun, and to continue to have fun, is to do it God's way. You can't even start to have real fun unless you've got God in the middle of it all. Anything else is just an illusion.

Instead of beginning with questions of dating and courtship, compatibility and relationship "tools", we're going to start with you.

Who have you become? Who are you becoming? Are you about to fall victim to one of the twelve lousy reasons to get married? Are you taking steps toward becoming a person worth marrying? In order to find the right person, you first have to be the right person. Then, and only then, can you make sound decisions about the rest of your life.

End of chapter questions

What do I think fun is? Why?

I think fun could be described as any activity that makes you happy, makes you smile, makes you laugh, a positive experience, something that bears repeating, the things we enjoy the most.

Why are relationships important?

There is no escaping relationships. They hold so much bearing in our life...whether it's a relationship with God, a family member, friend, co-worker, or significant other---so much in our lives depend on our relationships, ESPECIALLY our relationship with God. I'm learning a lot about relationships from the book "The dna of relationships". I am so blessed to be reading these two books simultaneously.


Please feel free to add your thoughts, questions, etc. and post your own answers to the questions as I go along. I would love to see other's perspective. :D

 

[Blazin Bones]

What do I think Fun Is? Why?

For me, Fun would be an activity that makes me forget about struggles for a while and just shoot the breeze. It doesn't have to be expensive or well planned, just relaxing and enjoyable.

Why are relationships so important?

Relationships are very Important because as much as we should rely on God for all we seek, we still need those who help us to keep up with God when our batteries are drained. Loneliness to me is when I'm most vulneable in my walk. Whether it's a romantic relationship or not, we all need those we can count on to help us along in the rough spots.

 

[Homeskillet]

Loneliness to me is when I'm most vulneable in my walk.

I am the same way, bro. Thank you for sharing :angel:

 

[Homeskillet]

Here are a couple excerpts from chapter THREE:

But much better than that, being a friend can mean becoming a person who changes the other person for the better just by being her friend. You spend your time developing your character (Ephesians 4:2 , Philippians 2:14 ), your relationship with God (Mark 12:30), your relationship with yourself (Mark 12:31), your ability to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), and your genuine love for other human beings (Romans 12:9-10). When you've done this, when you are really being a friend in the full sense of what it means, you are now offering something irresistibly juicy to every decent person who comes along.

I feel this really lays out what it entails to become "the one". (not find "the one" ;) ) I just love that whole concept...It helped me to change my perspective a lot. Instead of focusing on the kind of man I would like to marry, I realized I first need to focus on ME. Who I am. I also realized I am far from being a person worth marrying...I have a lot of growth left to do.

Here's another excerpt along the same lines:

If you spend your time trying to find the right person or people and live your life out there you'll end up an empty shell. No one of quality will want to spend time with you.

On the other hand, if you spend your time discovering your God-given gifts and developing your strengths, you can end up with a rich character that will--almost as a by-product--draw some outstanding, genuine people to you.

Wow! Imagine that...no longer needing to "seek" but to just "be"...and having people drawn TO me...

When you focus on your own character, on doing something with the raw material that is you, you can get away from the need to get another person to puff you up and make you feel whole. You come to realize that a marriage partner is not a destination. He or she is a fellow pilgrim, heading with you to the destination.

I love that!!! I was having a conversation with a friend about the line from Jerry Maguire "You complete me"...that is SO not Biblical. I don't want or need a man to complete me. Only God can do that.

Who I am needs to be and remain "who I am" whether I ever marry or not. If it takes a man to complete me, then what happens if something happens and he is no longer here? What happens to me then? And I certainly don't want the responsibility of completing someone else. :shock:


Here are the questions from the end of chapter discussion:
1. What three things am I doing right now that are helping me become a person worth knowing?

2. How will the world be different in three years because of me?

3. What am I doing to grow in "step #5" (become passionate about your responsibilities)

My answers will be the next post :angel:

 

[Homeskillet]

1. What three things am I doing right now that are helping me become a person worth knowing?

1. I'm growing closer to God through prayer, Scripture reading, and daily worship.
2. I'm trying to really grasp the concept of Matthew 22:37-39...to really learn how to apply it to all facets of my life.
2. I'm trying to overcome my struggles with sin and release the chains that bind me.

2. How will the world be different in three years because of me?

Prayerfully, "The Refuge" will be off the ground by then and lives will be touched. Maybe there will be more than one Refuge so even more lives can be touched. This is my calling.

(The Refuge will be a Christian night club/concert hall)

3. What am I doing to grow in "step #5" (become passionate about your responsibilities)

I've been working on being the best I can be in all areas of my life. Not just being a good employee, but being a good mother as well. And not even just those, but also being a good daughter, a good administrator, a good friend, a good sister, a good aunt, a good renter, a good cat owner, a good driver, etc. etc. I'm learning how to be a good steward of my time, money, AND emotions. It's hard because I often feel like I have so much on my plate, but I love every single thing that's on my plate, if that makes sense.

Actually, now that I think about it, I don't want to just be "good" at any of those...I want to excel.