Apologising to our children

[Classik]

Why do most parents (including some christian parents) find it hard to apologise to their children when they offend them? At times we are at fault. Why can't we kick our pride aside and humbly apologise to them? Are we always infallible?

No matter the age difference we ought to always show remorse and apologise to them When we are at fault. Even When they are at fault...it is not a crime to remorsefully say: Forgive me

 

[JDM]

Yes, OK, Yes.

I think the parents are definitely to blame for the very poor manners of their children.

My example for this is, having driven over 120 miles on Christmas Eve to visit my daughter, her husband and my two grand children aged 10 and 13 years I expected my usual welcome.

Meaning, I did not expect much of a welcome from the two boys, even though I only see them only thrice a year. As usual they were stuck into the latest computerized game, and I received a smile but nothing more, until their father prompted a better welcome for their grand father.

The next day, my son arrived and his son hardly noticed me as he rushed into the house to be with his cousins.

Its about time, the pastor's taught good manners to their congregation, speaking directly at the parents, for most parents, Christian of otherwise, need to have, and teach proper English manners.

Mmm,,,

JDM

PS
Other cultures are seemingly no better

 

[Aardverk]

What a good question! I wholeheartedly agree with the implication that parents should apologize to their children, as should teachers etc every time they do something unfair or inconsiderate. That would be teaching by example.

Psychologists tend to blame the parents for most problems with children. I do hope someone with psychological qualifications makes a comment.

 

[Classik]

One of the good qualities of my dad is his ability and willingness to remorsefully apologise to us whenever he is at fault or whenever he offends us. It makes our bond and understanding of each other stronger.

I wish all fathers are like mine

 

[WIP]

I don't know if it is necessary to apologize when a parent offends a child. It's quite obvious Jesus offended some otherwise they wouldn't have hung him on a cross. I also don't recall Him ever apologizing for offending them.

If my child does something that may harm them and I reprimand them for it, I will offend them will I not? Should I apologize for offending them?

I think it is more appropriate to admit wrong and apologize when a parent makes a mistake. There have been times when I have lost my temper with our children and scolded them. When I later realized that I was out of line I went to them and used the opportunity not only to apologize for my error but to also use the situation as a learning tool to teach them that we are not infallible and when we make mistakes we need to own up to them and take responsibility.