Well it angered me because it's true, but out of reach for me. Outlook/ attitude are a result of your past life experience, and it's hard to change them. Thus those wise phrases make me feel even more like a failure because I can't do what they suggest.
May I suggest that you think positive and praise the Lord for everything He has done for you? There are to be two praises and thanksgivings for victory!
"And on the fourth day they assembled themselves in the valley of Berachah; for there they blessed the Lord: therefore the name of the same place was called, The valley of Berachah, unto this day. Then they returned, every man of Judah and Jerusalem, and Jehoshaphat in the forefront of them, to go again to Jerusalem with joy; for the Lord had made them to rejoice over their enemies. And they came to Jerusalem with psalteries and harps and trumpets unto the house of the Lord" (vv. 26-28). There are two sections to our praises and thanksgiving. One section happens before the victory, and the other section happens after the victory. The great mistake that we make today is that we do not have the praise that is uttered before the victory; we hold back this praise and wait to see what happens. Many brothers and sisters have acknowledged that they cannot make it and that they will not try to make it. They have believed in God's facts and believed that Christ is their victory. But they dare not say, "Hallelujah, I have overcome." One brother said that he had to wait and see whether it would work. Another sister said that she had to wait and see whether it would produce the right result. They were saying that they would praise God the next day if they saw some results. But Jehoshaphat had two praises. Every overcomer should have two praises: praises before his eyes see the result and praises after his eyes see the result. This is the tone of victory. As soon as we stop our praise, we are defeated and we lose our victory.../
http://www.ministrysamples.org/excerpts/TWO-PRAISES-AND-THANKSGIVINGS.HTML
I proved this to myself just the other day. I was in a tight spot. A very tight spot. I knew it was coming and couldn't be avoided so I prayed about it and was given to praise the Lord as if I had already had a victory in it. (we do actually. The price is paid, the Words and promises are already spoken, we just have to really believe that and receive them) So I began praising the Lord for victory in this situation and glorifying God for what He does for me. Not only did I make it through it, the Lord turned it around in such a way that it became a mighty blessing upon me! The Word says He will do it. He will. I believe it more than ever now, and am beginning to really understand faith and how it works. Nothing wavering. Belief and Praise, and anything is possible. Speak the words, praise the victory and receive it with joy in your heart and praise to God on your lips. You will have healing.
I pray for you a lot Claudya, and will continue to. This healing and power will come to you. Stop telling yourself that you can not do this. In fact, you can not do this, but the Lord can...and will. He loves you, and will give you anything that you believe that He will. Praise the Lord for this, and watch the power of God manifest itself in your life!
The Lords power be upon you Claudya.