I find it interesting how some Catholics believe Jesus had siblings and some Protestants believe He did not.
Many years ago I tried to study this a bit on my own.
It was too difficult due to language, culture, scripture, etc.
I couldn't take it! So I gave up.
I don't think about it too much...I'm not sure what difference it makes.
In a post up above I asked if Mary could not be chaste even if she had a "normal" marriage.
I think she could because of her nature.
Some Catholics believe Jesus had siblings? Once again, Mary's perpetual virginity is a dogma of the Catholic faith. It is a relatively modern Evangelical belief that Mary had subsequent maternities. Most of the progenitors of Protestantism held to her perpetual virginity.
Joseph and Mary's marriage was not ordinary in that its teleological end was not procreation, but rather to point to the Kingdom of God. Since they were in the presence of the Most High as the parents of the Incarnate Son of God, their life of continence, like that of their Jesus', points to the heavenly Kingdom, as opposed to an earthly and carnal one. Theirs was the most unique marriage in history.
“In normal marriages, unity in the flesh is the symbol of its consummation, and the ecstasy which accompanies a consummation is only a foretaste of the joy that comes to the soul when it attains union with God through grace. But in the case of Mary and Joseph, there was no need of the symbol of the unity of flesh. Why bother with the flickering candles of the flesh, when the Light of the World is their love? Love usually makes husband and wife one; in the case of Mary and Joseph, it was not their combined loves but Jesus Who made them one. No deeper love ever beat under the roof of the world since the beginning, nor will it ever beat, even unto the end.” - Fulton Sheen,
The World’s First Love
But we can't know too much about this and shouldn't wander too far from what those who knew her say about her.
I often remind myself the nativity narratives in St. Luke's Gospel (as well as St. Matthew's), were written after the actual occurrence of the event. Neither St. Luke nor St. Matthew were present when it occurred. Hence the only possible source for these narratives was Mary herself.
"But Mary kept all these things, and pondered them in her heart."
I believe St. Luke's account (with Mary as the source) sheds light on her perpetual virginity. Gabriel appears to Mary,
who is already betrothed to Joseph. (
Luke 1:27) Gabriel tells Mary that she will conceive and bear a son. Mary's question to Gabriel is, "How will this be"? (
future tense -
Luke 1:34) Why would Mary ask how will it be that she will become pregnant - in the future - if she is already betrothed to Joseph? If you called your mother to tell her you just got engaged, and your mother said to you in excitement, "Congratulations Wondering! I am so happy for you and now I will finally be a grandmother!" Would it be logical to reply to her statement with, "How will this be?"
Why did Mary, who was betrothed to Joseph, ask Gabriel how it will be (future tense) that she will have a child? The reason for Mary's puzzlement to Gabriel is because her life was ordered toward something greater.