Sister, tho I agree with much of what you said, I must object to your comments about fear.
Sister, please understand, that the gospel is only relevant to those who already fear God--even if they are ignorant of God, for the report of salvation is only good news to those who fear destruction, and the granting of grace through Christ is only meaningful to those who fear judgment, etc.:
"Come and hear, all ye that fear God, and I will declare what he hath done for my soul." --Psalms 66:16
"Then Paul stood up, and beckoning with his hand said, Men of Israel, and ye that fear God, give audience." --Acts 13:16
"And I saw another angel fly in the midst of heaven, having the everlasting gospel to preach unto them that dwell on the earth, and to every nation, and kindred, and tongue, and people, saying with a loud voice, Fear God, and give glory to him; for the hour of his judgment is come: and worship him that made heaven, and earth, and the sea, and the fountains of waters." --Revelation 14:6-7
Without the fear of God no one can know their origin, nor their ending, nor what is right, nor what is wrong--to fear God is required for a sound mind:
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever." --Psalms 111:10
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction." --Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate." --Proverbs 8:13
Man is required to always be in the fear of the Lord:
"And now, Israel, what doth the Lord thy God require of thee, but to fear the Lord thy God, to walk in all his ways, and to love him, and to serve the Lord thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul," --Deuteronomy 10:12
"Let not thine heart envy sinners: but be thou in the fear of the Lord all the day long." --Proverbs 23:17
"Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man." --Ecclesiastes 12:13
The Lord commands us to fear God, and so do His disciples, as did the prophets:
"And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell." --Matthew 10:28
"Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king." --2 Peter 2:17
"My son, fear thou the Lord and the king: and meddle not with them that are given to change:" --Proverbs 24:21
Only fools do not fear God, and the Gospel is not for fools:
"The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God." --Psalms 14:1
"The wicked, through the pride of his countenance, will not seek after God: God is not in all his thoughts." --Psalms 10:4
"Speak not in the ears of a fool: for he will despise the wisdom of thy words." --Proverbs 23:9
"As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly." --Proverbs 26:11
"Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you." --Matthew 7:6
Fear is required, sister, for all of us, but especially for Christians.
Godspeed.