Christian dating a confused Christian

[Mathetes]

I use to be in a relationship where I acknowledged my dependency on God more then the girl I was dating. I felt surely I shouldn't date her and would only claim we were friends for a while. I prayed a lot about it though, and I felt at peace. She's now my wife, and she often challenges me in my spiritual growth these days. Just pray with an open heart, listen, and don't move faster in your relationship with her then her relationship with God is progressing.

Bruchko,

I think it's great that your relationship turned out well for you. God can direct our paths in spite of our plans and make things turn out well for us. But honestly I think the best advice to give someone in a questionable relationship should come straight from the Bible rather than from our own personal experiences.

 

[Mathetes]

How old are you ?

That's really an irrelevant question. This has nothing to do with my age; rather it has everything to do with revealed truth from Scripture. What does God have to say about this matter? That should be our chief question in all matters of our lives.

The reason why I asked is because if you were like my age 51, you would know that life is a growing process. Being a born again Christian is a growing process. Because you get stronger in the Lord as you move on, And you learn more about the Lord as you move on. Sometimes even a strong Christian will fall. But you are supposed to get back up, and get back with the Lord.

Yes, I agree with all that. But that is neither here nor there. As the Bible makes clear, a person who is born from above should show evidence of being a new person. Paul wrote:

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. (2 Cor. 5:17)

It is impossible for a person to be born again and not be radically changed. This has nothing to do with a Christian falling into sin and getting back up again or with a growth process (as true as these points are). Spiritually speaking, this girl is either a corpse or she is alive in Christ. If she is alive, she will show evidence of being alive, just as in the physical realm a person who is physically alive inevitably and unmistakably shows evidence of that physical life (by breathing, walking, eating, drinking, etc.). You see, the question is not how much growth she has achieved, but simply whether she is alive. It's not a question of the degree of her spirituality but of the quality of her spirituality.

 

[Bruchko]

I use to be in a relationship where I acknowledged my dependency on God more then the girl I was dating. I felt surely I shouldn't date her and would only claim we were friends for a while. I prayed a lot about it though, and I felt at peace. She's now my wife, and she often challenges me in my spiritual growth these days. Just pray with an open heart, listen, and don't move faster in your relationship with her then her relationship with God is progressing.

Bruchko,

I think it's great that your relationship turned out well for you. God can direct our paths in spite of our plans and make things turn out well for us. But honestly I think the best advice to give someone in a questionable relationship should come straight from the Bible rather than from our own personal experiences.

Oh I agree 100% with you there. What I was trying to say is if you both live in Christ, but she's much further behind then you in maturity don't count her out. I would never recomend a fallower of Jesus to date someone who claims the title christian and doesn't have the desire to live it out. My wife wanted a better relationship with Jesus and wanted to eliminate some bad patterns in her life.