Dating or Waiting

[little_tigress]

I believe in waiting on the Lord's timing.

Personally I see dating just for the sake of dating as a dangerous thing. first of all its basically just playing with a persons heart if you aren't interested in something serious, and the person you're dating is. It can also be a distraction I believe, I can't see how that sort of lifestyle is going to glorify God, or how it can help me grow loser in my walk with Him.

bottom line, if I'm supposed to be with someone, then I trust God will bring him into my life when the time is right.

 

[Blazin Bones]

I believe in waiting on the Lord's timing.

Personally I see dating just for the sake of dating as a dangerous thing. first of all its basically just playing with a persons heart if you aren't interested in something serious, and the person you're dating is. It can also be a distraction I believe, I can't see how that sort of lifestyle is going to glorify God, or how it can help me grow loser in my walk with Him.

bottom line, if I'm supposed to be with someone, then I trust God will bring him into my life when the time is right.

Great Words. It's nice to meet you tigress. 8-)

 

[EbenezerSunshine]

Ok so I am in the wait category right now. But I just got out of a relationship at the beginning of this semester. This is how I feel about dating. Personally, I am not going to date someone unless I believe there is a possibility of marriage. Many people date just to have a significant other but I don't agree with this. My last relationship began because we we attracted to each other, but we also had many of the same life goals and felt the same calling on our lives. Having personally made the mistake of dating someone I did not know very well at the beginning of the relationship, I think it is incredibly important to be friends with a person before dating. But just about everyone in college will have an "oops" as my now friend and I call it. Take your time with relationships. College will change and mature you so incredibly much. Wait to find someone who will match who you are, but also who you will become.

 

[zay]

I agree a lot with what little_tigress and Ebenezer said (welcome to the forums btw ^_^). I feel that we should wait on God's timing of things, and that whoever He has for us will reveal themself to us in His time. It's hard at times, but I think it's definately for the best. Who better than my creator to pick who I date/marry. Like tigress said, I don't like the idea of dating someone just to date, when I finally do get with someone I'd prefer it be for the long haul, I'm just the type of guy that doesn't take heartache well. While I can deal with it, I don't prefer it lol, for both people involved. But that's how I view it, in God's time all will come together.

 

[Blazin Bones]

I'm really liking what everyone's been saying. God's way really is the best way.

A reason I say wait on God's timing is because there is no Biblical role model to follow when you compare the Bible to today's style of dating. That makes it a lot harder to say what is and is not Godly dating.

 

[plath_fan]

I believe in courtship. I want God to write mine and my husband's love story.

1. It is practice for marriage. You get practice working our problems in a more romanitic setting. On the first date I didn't care what movie we went to go see. After 4 months, I got very tired of her picking. I had to learn how to deal with that.

I'd hate to think I was some guy's guinea pig for him to practice on to be a good husband to someone else.

2. It's fun. Sometimes it can get lonely and having someone with you can help relieve the boredom.

That teaches selfishness. "Here, take me out. I'm bored. Entertain me"

3. Exposure to new ideas. When you date someone, you will find out many weird things. Sometimes it is good to learn them from dating instead of being shocked in marriage. Stuff like boys find farting funny and girls really ask if their clothes make them look fat. Sometimes you find people who lived in a war zone or was exposed to African voodoo.

Anyone with friends of the opposite sex know that random stuff.

4. Have someone there to help you through a bad day. Yeah some of us have family or good friends. But it is also nice to have someone a little more devoted to you to cheer you up.

Here again, more serial dating for self-centered reasons.

 

[Mac0486]

wow. nice slam plath! lol

 

[Blazin Bones]

*Bump* Come on, I know that this topic can be discussed further.

 

[element80]

I was too lazy to read all the posts, so if someone already said this, then you get a cookie. I agree with what (insert board name of perosn who said it here) said about not dating someone you wouldn't want to mary. Dating is ultimiately a method of getting to know someone better, and finding out if you want to marry them. If you have no intentions of marrying the person, and you just are with them to have a girlfriend/boyfriend, then you really shouldn't be with them. that's just my opinion, and sadly I'm speaking as someone who had no eperience in the matter whatsoever (unless you want to count my girlfriend in kindergarten).

 

[KnarfKS]

Element I completely agree with you.
The only problem is some people think that if you date then you must get married(not that I saw anyone here do it). They take it to the other extreme. My theory is if the final ring is not on the finger it can be called off, even if it is the wedding day. The person would be an pretty foolish to wait that long, but it might still be the right thing to do.

I will only date with the intention of getting married. I don't want to waste my time or other person's if that isn 't the intention. Plus I don't like dating.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Let's make this discussion a little easier. What do we consider as a "date". I'm not sure I want today's, instantly exclusive idea of dating, and I won't date that way until God tells me who the right person is. However, I have and will take a gal to Dinner and/or movies. That's the kind of dating I will do, but now most people don't see that as a date. I thing it's called, "we just hung out together".

 

[Nikki]

A "date" to me is going out to eat and then to a movie, bowling, putt-putt, etc afterwards. I have also gone back to the guys place (this was when I was dating my hubby) and he'd have a bunch of people over and we'd all play games, do karaoke, etc.

A date doesn't even have to involve a goodnight kiss or anything. I don't see anything wrong with a thank you hug, but I'm a huggy person naturally. Hugging is no big deal at all to me. Dating is just "going out"....getting to know the other person and have fun with them!

 

[element80]

If you define it as a date, then it's a date. If, however, the two of you decide to just hang out as friends, then it's not a date. Things like paying for her, however, may give people the wrong idea, but ultimately, whether or not it's a date rests soley on the two people involved.

 

[Blazin Bones]

I guess that's a good way to see it 80. However, I guess I also evjoy confusing people, because this guy always pays for a lady if I take them somewhere.

 

[element80]

that's a cool thing to do. Like I said, it's not really importatn what others think, as long as the two of you know it's only hanging out. Being worried about rumors and people tlaking about you makes life so much more difficult. Just be you and don't worry about what others think.

 

[KnarfKS]

Being worried about rumors and people tlaking about you makes life so much more difficult. Just be you and don't worry about what others think.

I assume if people are talking about me, then that must mean their life must be really really lame :-D.

But I have had this issue before too. I talked to a girl on the porch of my campus ministry house on night. Withing the week I was asked 8 times when we started dating. :o I was talking to her about her grandfather dieing that week. I nearly ripped the head off every single person who asked me about it. I was mostly mad because almost noone else cared that this girl was in pain. It was more interesting that we were supposedly dating.

You know what happens when you assume things?
It makes an a-- of u and me :-D learned that one from a drafting teacher.

 

[element80]

Being worried about rumors and people tlaking about you makes life so much more difficult. Just be you and don't worry about what others think.

I assume if people are talking about me, then that must mean their life must be really really lame :-D.

Haha, I read that wrong the first time, and though that you were accusing us of talking about you and said that we were lame. I really need to start getting more sleep.

On a side note, I'm glad there's threads like this. It goves me a reak from yelling at people in teh "Bible Study" and "General" forums

 

[KnarfKS]

On a side note, I'm glad there's threads like this. It goves me a reak from yelling at people in teh "Bible Study" and "General" forums

hahahahaha the same for me too element :D , but you also for got "apolegetics" and "theology" too. :-?

 

[Blazin Bones]

The great part about the lower section of the boards is the fact that most people won't come down here. So those who are looking to fight won't come down here too often. Then, when the do come down here and start trounle they are a lot easier to catch.

 

[shaddix]

the first one he said was good though lol praciticng relationships, i mean you know the purpose isn't that but you know like practicing to be your spouse or w/e you know

hmm i don't blelieve in dating like dating more than one person at once, i see no purpose in it it's stupid but damn i'm preaching to the choir here, why am i even on a christian forum, i am here to get advice okay here's my question oh wait i'll just make a thread lol