Does she like me or not?

[Christian20090]

Hi,

What do u think?
I met this Christian woman for coffee a few months ago. After the 1st coffee, she told me she would like to meet as friends for the time being. We then met again 2 months later (the delay was because we were both away on mission trips) and then again 1 month later. (2 weeks ago) I paid each time and the coffee lasted for about 1hour30mins each time. We've a lot in common and if anything develops, it will be from the solid foundation of friendship

Anyway, So, I asked again if she wanted to meet for coffee this week. But she said she is busy for the rest of November and she suggested a Saturday in early December.

On the plus side: she said November didnt suit, but suggested another day which is confirmed.

On the minus side: if you really like someone, would you not want to spend time with them more than once a month??

Or is she just wanting to take things really slowly - ie. one meeting once a month? Everytime i have asked her for coffee, she has said yes. Just this time, its hurtful in a way to be told she is busy for the rest of Saturdays in November (for the next 4 weeks!) it kinda makes me feel quite small.

I'm a bit confused.
What do u think?

 

[Blazin Bones]

I say just take your time. If she is interested what's the rush? If she is not, you get a nice casual friend who can vouch for character when a serious gal comes along. just stay patient and keep praying.

 

[Vince]

You want an INTELLIGENT method for dealing with romance? We're not sure there is one.

Okay, I'll give it a try. She has told you plainly that she wants to be friends. I think she is telling the truth. You want to develop a romance (which is fine) while she wants to develop a friendship. I would continue the friendship while dating other women as well.

 

[FormerGodHater]

It sounds to me like you've been burned before, so you're assuming the worst instead of taking her for her word. You need to give her the benefit of the doubt until she proves you wrong, and honestly leave this in God's hands. The more you get your sticky fingers involved and try to take control of this - or any - situation, you're taking Him out of the picture and you'll be sure to mess things up and scare her off for good.