Does the Bible allow married men to have relationships with unmarried women?

[Hidden In Him]

Uhm Uhm. As someone whose spouse did commit adultery, restoration is always on the table (by the way, I DID get Julia's approval to share this). Your husband is just hurt (as was I). We feel so betrayed when this happens to us. We ask ourselves, am I not handsome enough, am I not sexy enough, etc. etc. but most notably we feel unloved or unwanted. It took a lot for Julia to restore my trust in her but it can be done. It took her humility for me to fully buy in to her repentance. It took her greeting me at the door on her knees (sans clothes), over and over day after day for me to realize how much she wanted to submit to me again. It took me changing some things that I was doing too. I wasn't being the leader and husband I needed to be (adultery is often a two way sin from the couple); I wasn't attentive to her needs, both emotional and PHYSICAL too. I was withholding things from her that was my obligation to fulfill. It doesn't justify adultery but reminds us of how the temptation becomes overbearing (not excusable). Of course, it was hard to be intimate with Julia again without thinking of the "other guy" doing the same thing. But with God's help, the anger can turn to gratefulness because God gave her back to me. She was mine again! All of her!

Don't give up! God can restore your marriage, and THEN your relationship will be deeper, more intimate, more loving, and even better than before! IT can also be more honest and centered on the Lord.

Wonderful post! I think the Lord gave us an example in how He treated unfaithful Israel. There is certainly a price to be paid, for it's a grievous sin. But the Lord is faithful if there is true repentance.

 

[Roberto Cisneros]

John 8 also comes to mind... "woman, where are your accusers?"
God is merciful. Though I briefly thought of divorce, then I came to my senses. And having kids brought me out of that line of thinking fairly quickly BUT forgiveness and restored trust do take time. But it is SOO worth it! Her repentance was also beautiful and melted my heart.

Wonderful post! I think the Lord gave us an example in how He treated unfaithful Israel. There is certainly a price to be paid, for it's a grievous sin. But the Lord is faithful if there is true repentance.

 

[Hidden In Him]

John 8 also comes to mind... "woman, where are your accusers?"
God is merciful. Though I briefly thought of divorce, then I came to my senses. And having kids brought me out of that line of thinking fairly quickly BUT forgiveness and restored trust do take time. But it is SOO worth it! Her repentance was also beautiful and melted my heart.

Praise the Lord. It's an excellent testimony!

 

[jonathanbrickman0000]

Treading gently am I, because I have not lived the experiences. But I am a witness of a marriage which is now good and string, in which, many years ago, both husband and wife committed adultery against each other, first one, then the other. Both of their children appear to have remained happily married now for several years each.

The second item that occurred to me, is that oft-omitted word "fornication". There is adultery...and there is fornication, which is much broader. So in the face of piles of words denying adultery...there is still fornication.

The last item is, trying to "co-parent" with an unrepentant rampant adulterer and fornicator who calls himself Christian, must be a most terrible misery. I shall pray that the Holy One gets you and your children free of that, either with the man's repentance or far enough away that his influence is countered and overcome by that which is holy.