Emotions and Misunderstandings

[WIP]

It's hard enough to come across the way intended when putting words to pen or type in a forum such as this but I have not been immune to trouble in real life as well. I have never understood it but suspect that my expressions and voice inflections don't always convey my emotions accurately....or....maybe they do and I just don't realize how cynical I can be sometimes.

I have had people accuse me of being angry with them when the truth was quite the opposite. I have had people get angry and defensive with me for what I thought was no reason. My wife is always telling me to keep my voice down. One of the terms used to describe me has been "brassy." All I know is that I am often confused by this.

 

[LadyLoves]

Yes, not here though, because I'm a newbie But, I've been apart of some forums and people assume the way you font or type is a clear cut indication of the person you are, without any second thought and that's it. No one ever takes you into consideration especially if you font in a way they're not particularly a big fan of. I have to admit I've approached some topics I'm very strongly opiniated on, really agressively but that's only because I am very passionate about them, and really want to get my point across and make people think. It doesn't mean I'm a big ole meany lady, I just feel like sometimes you can talk to people about these things and they won't listen at all, and you don't see any change happening because they refuse to take in, absorb and "THINK". I don't make it an effort to change people's minds, we're all entitled to our own opinions and wonders about mankind and the world. But I just love when people think outside of the boxes they've created for themselves. Some of us are wired traditionally to percieve things how we've been known to do so, but it doesn't hurt to at least try and understand from someone else's point of view, even if you don't agree entirely Doesn't define how you really are emotionally or how you approach everything throughout life in general. I'm the nicest, sweetest lady you'll ever meet in person and barely talk at all until I feel comfortable.

 

[Davies]

Hi LadyLoves,

"It doesn't mean I'm a big ole meany lady." I really like this line. I couldn't help but laugh. I think if we saw people attempting to understand people more, we'd find people who were more willing to share. Then we have the hurdle of being gentle, and holding the truth without judging a person in error. We have a lot of examples of people judging, but you also have the condemning feelings people have when no condemnation is meant. This may be why this type of media is good. It brings out what is in the heart.

- Davies

 

[stovebolts]

Ya, I can be a hard candy shelled on the outside, but soft and gooey on the inside, LOL. Plus anyone who puts pics of cool cars in here can't be all bad.

Ha, well, the car is many, many years of hard labor and lots of money I earned doing side jobs (roofing). I was actually getting burnt out on the restoration and the car sat in the garage for 2 years stripped down to bare metal and I was kind of fed up and was just going to paint it flat black. Well, my wonderful wife took the car on my birthday and had it painted! It came out beautiful! And while you can't see them in the picture, the car does have beautiful ghost flames.

 

[stovebolts]

WIP,
You always come across as very level headed. Same thing with you Davies and Tim. I've never put anyone on ignore, but I've practices self control more than once to just step aside. Here is a verse I learned a long, long time ago. Sometimes it's hard to put into practice.
Proverbs 30:33 Surely the churning of milk bringeth forth butter, and the wringing of the nose bringeth forth blood: so the forcing of wrath bringeth forth strife.

To everyone, thanks for sharing! It helps!

 

[Aardverk]

...... I have not been immune to trouble in real life as well. I have never understood it but suspect that my expressions and voice inflections don't always convey my emotions accurately....or....maybe they do and I just don't realize how cynical I can be sometimes.

I have had people accuse me of being angry with them when the truth was quite the opposite. I have had people get angry and defensive with me for what I thought was no reason......

I really relate to this one! I suffer exactly the same issues and sometimes when I try to soften the message by smiling I'm accused of smirking:halo
On the other hand, people who actually know me can imagine no wrong in me. :silly

 

[WIP]

I really relate to this one! I suffer exactly the same issues and sometimes when I try to soften the message by smiling I'm accused of smirking:halo
On the other hand, people who actually know me can imagine no wrong in me. :silly

That's funny. You made me laugh. Glad to know I'm not alone.

 

[elijah23]

Does anyone else ever feel like they've been misunderstood by somebody else on this forum and try as you might, reconciliation just doesn't occur?

If I were to look at what communication is, I'd say that it's cause, distance and effect with intent for duplication.

What do I mean by that? Lets break it down.

I have a cause when I write. I think we all have a reason when we write something, but there is this distance between what I write and where you read it. Often, whatever we write will have an effect on the reader but our intent should always be that our cause is articulated concisely with the reader so they can understand clearly.

This isn't always the easiest task because writing is so one dementional. Communication is so much more than just writing and it's even much more than our words. It's the inflection of our voice and the way we move our body etc. But even then it's easy to be misunderstood because often, what we say isn't what is being heard on the other end for multiple reasons.

I can't be alone when it comes to this topic, so I thought we could all just kind of put our 2 cents in.

No, I think everyone here understands me okay. They just disagree with me all the time.

 

[WIP]

No, I think everyone here understands me okay. They just disagree with me all the time.

Not all the time.

 

[evenifigoalone]

I actually have an easier time expressing my thoughts through text. In real life I'm shy and hardly talk at all (unless you're a friend, then I could talk your ears off), or just don't know what to say. A lot of times I don't know what to say when typing, either, but it's still easier.
That said, I suppose misunderstandings do happen more often online than in person.

 

[DRA]

I know that I have had misunderstandings on forums before. Not here since I haven't been around long enough, but I will promise everybody two things:

1. I will always do my best to be respectful of everyone's position, whether I happen to agree with it or not.
2. I will offend you. Not sayin' it to be smug, it's just human nature after all. We are imperfect beings that have to work daily to emulate Christ and fail miserably daily, part of that is going to be in the form of offence.

On a lighter note, so far it's been good being here.

 

[reba]

When my 48 year old son can feel free to ask me to cook him breakfast , friday after cooking most the day Thursday, i can ask him XYZ!

 

[jasoncran]

if you could talk to me in person or over the phone. i would be less cornfusing.

i did spell that wrong on purpose.