[__ Prayer __] Fear and Worry...it's too much to handle.

[FitzDarcy]

I have so much fear and worry in my life...and it doesn't really makes sense that I do. I know the Lord loves me and takes care of me, my family, and my friends...but I can't get rid of the fear and worry that nags me and makes me ill.
I have fears that my family and best friends are going to die. That I am going to get into a car wreck. That I am going to be burnt (like my dad was...).
It used to be a minor issue dealing with my fears. I could settle my mind down and stay pretty calm. Now I can barely eat and I get ill from it. I feel tired all the time and barely function at work. I am snippy to my family and even weepy. I am never happy anymore. I prayed and read the Bible. I want to give all my fears and anxieties to the Lord...but I am not sure how to.
My biggest fear is that someone I love is going to be taken from me. It almost happened a couple years ago.
I can't live like this. It is making me miserable. I just want the fear and anxiety to stop so I can live a normal life again.
I appreciate your prayers.

 

[Davies]

FitzDarcy,

I'm glad to hear that you are a Christian. I'm not sure why you are suffering in the manner you describe, but when I'm down and out, I'm drawn to the sufferings of Jesus. I think about how he was alone. His disciples abandoned Him. I think about how His disciples must have mourned and how down His disciples were after Jesus was put to death. I think about how Jesus prayed for the forgiveness of those who put Him to death. The fact Jesus took all my sin upon Himself when He didn't do anything wrong. I think about how the Father punished Jesus on the cross and the pain Jesus was caused both physically and mentally. I'm rambling now, but this is what I hope you will do. Think about the Gospel when the creepy, anxious thoughts come, and then remember the depths of love Jesus showed you on the cross. This I hope will bring a lot of comfort to you.

- Davies

 

[Mike]

I'm of the opinion that everyone worries. If not everyone, then very VERY few people do not. We read how Jesus comforts us by telling us the Father will always be there. We read these beautiful words, and think how wonderful they are, He is, we close the Book, get up and go, and then... we worry.

I don't know what prevents us from settling His Promise in our hearts, but we don't. Some worry more than others, but if we're honest, we'll admit that we do. I've heard 90% of what we worry about never comes to fruition, and that which does is mostly out of our control.

Your worries appear are irrational, but it sounds like you know that. It just can't get from your head to your heart. When did this begin to consume your thoughts?

 

[FitzDarcy]

Thank you both for taking the time to post. I appreciate it so much!
I try to remember what the Bible says and I also try to take comfort in it. But I can't seem to. Worry invades my brain and takes over.
To be perfectly honest I have always worried. My grandfather has always done the same and even my great grandmother. I sometimes think it is a curse.
I cannot for the life of me understand how they dealt with it all their lives! I'm barely out of my teens and half the time I feel like I'm going crazy.
The thing is, I worry about things that are not in my control. Things I couldn't prevent even if I tried. Only God can. I think this problem started up majorly bad six or so months ago...but I've always been plagued with one worry or another. It's an endless cycle.
My mom says if I keep this up that I'm going to have a heart attack at a very young age. : P

 

[Tina]

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2 Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.


You need to start by understanding that obsessive/chronic fear is not from God but from the devil. The Bible is crystal clear about that ...

If your great grandmother and grandfather suffered from this, it is possible that you've inherited this "spirit of fear" from them.

Worst still, your mom is not helping at all when she says you're going to have a heart attack at a very young age. Is she a Christian? No mother will intentionally put a curse on her own child like that... not to mention it's only intensifying and adding on to your fears!

I'll encourage you to seek counsel and deliverance from your church pastors.


I will pray for you .....

 

[FitzDarcy]

Thank you, Tina, for your post.
I do understand that this isn't from God. I want to be free from it!
Yes, my Mum is a christian and I think she just said that because she's been really concerned about me, knowing what my constant worry has been doing to me mentally, emotionally, and even physically.
Today I had a real rough time after I did something stupid while driving. I worried constantly at work and even to the point where I almost left because I felt so ill. I rode it out to my lunch and called my Mum who encouraged me and prayed with me. I can't say it was the best day ever...but the prayer really helped and even tonight I was able to eat my dinner without feeling sick. First time in a couple of days!

If your great grandmother and grandfather suffered from this, it is possible that you've inherited this "spirit of fear" from them.

I've actually wondered about this before. I've always worried. It has just gotten really bad over time.

Thank you for the encouragement and the prayers!

 

[csmary]

Dear one start fearing God,so that no other fear will stay in you.Why do we fear God?We fear Him to please Him.God is our Father,our greatest Friend,He is the most powerful.All your fears and unwanted thoughts are put in you by the devil,and you know he is a liar and the father of all lies.All those fearful thoughts are lies ."Therefore submit to GOD.Resist the devil and he will flee from you".James 4:7.May God bless you.Please pray for my second son ,he too has useless fears and and thoughts.

 

[God's_gift]

I think that everyone of us live each day knowing that our love ones and the people we care about will be taken away from us anytime….but still we continue to live anyway

 

[farouk]

This is why it's good to commend family and friends daily to the Lord in prayer; they all have their varying needs and are in sometimes different circumstantial and spiritual situations.

 

[thethinkingrebel]

The bible, represents a truth that spans all history and all future. There are examples you can take courage from, but they are examples of people whose faith resulted in action, people who totally and utterly had complete faith in God.

They knew that they had no control, that only the Sovereign Lord Yahweh who built the universe, the Earth and even themselves had power over life and death.

We all have appointed times, whatever happens you can do nothing about it. It sounds stupid I'm sure, but you just have to suck it up, and deal with whatever underlying issue you have. Nobody here can take this problem away, you simply have to get through it and realise that worrying over what you cannot control is not what we are here for.

I say this out of love because I have been where you are, it will end..just know that if someone dies, its God's will.

 

[Clear2Learn]

Hello!

I'm sorry you're dealing with such a burden. I dealt with fears quite a bit and I know it can wear you down. Emotional trauma can really wear on you. Have you been the victim of some kind of abuse or trauma? Feeling powerless can lead to high anxiety and worry. I had to start trusting God and start forgiving before I could feel better. I forgave and forgave and forgave, and over time it truly changed my thinking. The hardest lesson for me was to learn to say the words regardless of how I feel! I would say something like, "I forgive ______ for ______. As I hope and pray to be forgiven, so will I forgive," when I needed to forgive others, and, "Dear God please forgive me for __________. I repent of my sin. In Jesus' name I pray," when I needed forgiveness for myself. Do any of us really deserve that forgiveness? Probably not, but Jesus died for us so we could be forgiven. He's paid for all our sins no matter what we've done or what's been done to us, and when we start trusting in God through forgiveness it will make a difference.

As far as dealing with fears right now, praying and putting them in God's hands will also help. I pray something like, "Dear God, I am so burdened with worry, I don't know what to do or how to handle it. I give my worry about _________________ to you. I know I can't control my future, so I will put my trust you in you. I give my worry to you and ask you to come into my mind and heart and soul and make me into who you created me to be." Every time a worry comes, pray about it immediately and give it and yourself to God. Over time it will make a difference.

You also don't have to be hostage to your thoughts and emotions. Interrupt them! Usually a sense of fear comes first and then the thoughts follow. Learn to recognize that fear and pray then! Bible phrases are great mantras to repeat in times of trouble. My favorite comes from 2 Timothy: "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." And Psalm 23: "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me."

I hope these prayers and thoughts are a blessing to you! Please try them. I'll pray for you too!

God bless you!

Steve