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Good evening everyone,

I came across quite a predicament today, and wanted some fellow Christian advice.

I have a female co-worker that I work with at the golf course. She dresses a bit risque on a regular basis. To each their own I guess. My question is--we are not really friends. We only have a seldem "hey, hows it going" work chat.
Today I was in the restroom and a few golfers came in not knowing I worked there, and started talking about her. Using words that were inapropriate towards a 21 YO girl...especially since they're old enough to be her father.
I wanted to yell over the stall, and tell them how inapropriate it was, and how I didn't apriciate them talking about my co-worker that way, but I refrained, for fear my job would be in jeapordy. Thoughts?:chin
 
Pray for them all, and then let them by your life and example be impressed by your testimony. Bad language is inappropriate; but remember often some things are cultural, and would be viewed slightly differently maybe from one Christian to another.

Blessings.
 
Given the way she dresses, I'd say she expects to be noticed (and yes, even talked about).

How much of this does she "own"?

What I am saying is not to condemn her, but to remind you that "it isn't just the guys" here - she does not live in vacuum and KNOWS she is dressing to get noticed.

(Have you not seen the ads for women's jeans?)


EDIT: HEY ARE YOU REALLY IN CUMMING?
 
Pizzaguy said:
Given the way she dresses, I'd say she expects to be noticed (and yes, even talked about).

How much of this does she "own"?

What I am saying is not to condemn her, but to remind you that "it isn't just the guys" here - she does not live in vacuum and KNOWS she is dressing to get noticed.
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i agree, shes partly to blame if you dress like that then you obviously want people to notice. she wants attention she just got the wrong kind
 
If i am not mistaken you are young... Take this to a boss and do it now..... She needs to be told how to dress and men should not act like jr hi boys.

Some form of dress code should be around...the work place....
 
I would have politely but firmly asked them to keep those sorts of comments to themselves while on the business premises. Patronizing a business does not entitle them to abuse or slander the staff.

As for what she wears, I'd assume that if it was against the company dress code it would already have been dealt with. Just as she's not criticizing your appearance, neither you nor the customers have a right to criticize hers. Different people have different levels of comfort and taste in clothing.

So long as it abides by the law and (when on the clock) the company policies, she can wear whatever she wants.
 
reba said:
If i am not mistaken you are young... Take this to a boss and do it now..... She needs to be told how to dress and men should not act like jr hi boys.

Some form of dress code should be around...the work place....
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Um no, she's an adult, she does not need to be "told how to dress". Would you take kindly to someone walking up to you and telling you that you're dressed wrong and need to submit to their tastes?
 
Lot of respected ideas here but personally if I was in the situation I would find a female employee that you work with, preferably of a high rank, an explain the situation and tell her how you feel. The woman would most likely understand, be able to connect to the issue, and you would not be the one confronting the issue directly.
 
Jman96 said:
Lot of respected ideas here but personally if I was in the situation I would find a female employee that you work with, preferably of a high rank, an explain the situation and tell her how you feel. The woman would most likely understand, be able to connect to the issue, and you would not be the one confronting the issue directly.
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Such wisdom from someone with access to the teen forum. ;)
 
Guys old enough to be her father should know better!

Its a no win situation. In some ways you could say you should be able to dress for self expression without putting up with childish criticism. In other ways no matter what you do its going to annoy someone...


You also have to step back and let other people live their lives. This is not your battle or problem.

Some girls are just like that and often have peroxide blonde hair to match lol.
 
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DarkHorseRising said:
Um no, she's an adult, she does not need to be "told how to dress". Would you take kindly to someone walking up to you and telling you that you're dressed wrong and need to submit to their tastes?
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yeah i get that and i tell my troops that. its called a UNIFORM. we have had that problem in the military ever since women could serve with men. we tell them not to dress provicatally while around unit functions that troops are allowed to wear civies.my lt is highly attractive. i dont want to be tempted by her in a skimpy outfit. im married and the regs dont allow officer-enlisted relationships.

im sure the civilian world has similar ideas.
 
jasoncran said:
yeah i get that and i tell my troops that. its called a UNIFORM. we have had that problem in the military ever since women could serve with men. we tell them not to dress provicatally while around unit functions that troops are allowed to wear civies.my lt is highly attractive. i dont want to be tempted by her in a skimpy outfit. im married and the regs dont allow officer-enlisted relationships.

im sure the civilian world has similar ideas.
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The problem is, you're using an arbitrary qualitative trait. What is "provocative"? Different people get turned on by different things. Should she not wear leather boots in case someone has a thing for that?

If you don't want to be tempted, control your thoughts. Personal responsibility has its benefits.
 
I think both sides of this discussion have merit. We are held responsible for our own thoughts and actions and that includes what we do or say on both sides of this discussion. I (we) are held responsible to resist adultery. We are also responsible to not do things that would cause another to stumble no matter how comfortable we are in doing them. Some discretion is called for on both sides.
 
DarkHorseRising said:
The problem is, you're using an arbitrary qualitative trait. What is "provocative"? Different people get turned on by different things. Should she not wear leather boots in case someone has a thing for that?

If you don't want to be tempted, control your thoughts. Personal responsibility has its benefits.
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he described provactive. i live in florida we have 36 golf courses. we have men that are in that age group. on a hot summer day what do you think is "provactive" shorts? or a bikini? or shorts that show a tad of the posterior. i have seen some teens do that near my neigberhood.i struggle with lust. so they dont have to wear anything if want to feed it. but if its way over the line. ie as listed.
 
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