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ReginaForbes

ReginaForbes

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Im 32..Does any other adult struggle with this...
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I have come to realize though that I am an introvert and I love just being home with hubby and the cats...but SHOULD I have friends to visit? SHOULD I be on the phone texting or chattering away? I honestly don't know. What if there's something wrong with me? Okay so other adults....am I normal? And why am I worrying so much what I should or shouldn't be doing anyway?
 
I am pretty much the same way. When I first got married a friend of my wife's said no one would ever see us since were are both pretty much home bodies. Now we don't really go see anyone because of things going on in our family.

Having 6 kids kind of eats away at your time.
 
Not everyone needs as much of a social life as anyone else. As long as you're happy with it.

I love spending time with friends, but unless I know someone very, very well, I expend a lot of mental energy when I'm around people. I love online communities like this forum, but texting, chatrooms, talking on the phone, or talking face to face makes me a little uneasy. Always has.
 
Whatever feels natural for you. Don't try and force something that isn't part of you. You don't have to prove anything to anyone.

p.s. I'm not even on facebook, even though my friends communicate through it nowadays
 
Proverbs 20:24 Living Bible (TLB)
24 Since the Lord is directing our steps, why try to understand everything that happens along the way?
 
iLOVE said:
Proverbs 20:24 Living Bible (TLB)
24 Since the Lord is directing our steps, why try to understand everything that happens along the way?
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Why? Because it makes for good forum discussion?

...for people who don't get out of the house very much?
 
ReginaForbes said:
Im 32..Does any other adult struggle with this...
f7e128c37eb39f7e6bd918c2fa16eebf.jpg

I have come to realize though that I am an introvert and I love just being home with hubby and the cats...but SHOULD I have friends to visit? SHOULD I be on the phone texting or chattering away? I honestly don't know. What if there's something wrong with me? Okay so other adults....am I normal? And why am I worrying so much what I should or shouldn't be doing anyway?
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This may not be a good reason, but I don't have friends because virtually everybody I ever meet is so consumed with self. Everything is about them. It doesn't make me feel they are genuinely interested in a close friendship.
 
Jethro Bodine said:
This may not be a good reason, but I don't have friends because virtually everybody I ever meet is so consumed with self. Everything is about them. It doesn't make me feel they are genuinely interested in a close friendship.
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If I didn't know you any better I would say this statement is tragically ironic.
 
I think my worry about this stems from when I was a teenager. My mom is an extrovert so she was like "why are you stuck in your room looking at all four walls? Is there something wrong with you? " my dad, who's an introvert was more like "as long as I know where you are and know what you're doing, it's fine!"
Sometimes my mom's voice replays in my head and I just have to say "get out of my head mom!" And then my husband looks at me like I'm nuts. LOL
 
ReginaForbes said:
I think my worry about this stems from when I was a teenager. My mom is an extrovert so she was like "why are you stuck in your room looking at all four walls? Is there something wrong with you? " my dad, who's an introvert was more like "as long as I know where you are and know what you're doing, it's fine!"
Sometimes my mom's voice replays in my head and I just have to say "get out of my head mom!" And then my husband looks at me like I'm nuts. LOL
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Hey, my wife and I look at each other all the time like the other is nuts. Get used to it, it is part of marriage.
 
ReginaForbes said:
Im 32..Does any other adult struggle with this...
f7e128c37eb39f7e6bd918c2fa16eebf.jpg

I have come to realize though that I am an introvert and I love just being home with hubby and the cats...but SHOULD I have friends to visit? SHOULD I be on the phone texting or chattering away? I honestly don't know. What if there's something wrong with me? Okay so other adults....am I normal? And why am I worrying so much what I should or shouldn't be doing anyway?
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You're probably not crazy. I'm convinced it's your choice. But if you're like me and one-way relationships are not really relationships then stay home and enjoy your peace and solitude. Too many people think friendship means you exist to feed their need for emotional support and comfort while you starve to death. Narcissism is a disease that we all have to deal with by nature to one extent or anther, but I don't think we have any obligation to be in 'friendships' where your 'friend' is dying of the disease. My experience has shown me that pretty much means staying home and enjoying life, the earth, and God in the privacy of your own space....and in a good church fellowship, if you can find it.
 
Jethro Bodine said:
You're probably not crazy. I'm convinced it's your choice. But if you're like me and one-way relationships are not really relationships then stay home and enjoy your peace and solitude. Too many people think friendship means you exist to feed their need for emotional support and comfort while you starve to death. Narcissism is a disease that we all have to deal with by nature to one extent or anther, but I don't think we have any obligation to be in 'friendships' where your 'friend' is dying of the disease. My experience has shown me that pretty much means staying home and enjoying life, the earth, and God in the privacy of your own space....and in a good church fellowship, if you can find it.
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I'm a home body but also an extrovert.
I don't talk on the phone but I talk up a storm with anyone when I'm at Walmart, and there's lots to talk to.
I love going to church 4-5 times a week and I am very much outspoken.
Otherwise, I'm happy with staying at home and not talking on the phone.
 
Im very much an introvert too regina,I too grew up with extroverts but im very lucky that I had my one very extroverted sister who loved me so much for me she was the first person I saw God through.She did all kind of stuff to show me acceptance and encourage my writing etc and just who I was.I love my alone time ..just soaking up Gods love .I am reading this book now too that is pretty great so far its called Introvert power.
 
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