Forgiveness and Reconcilliation

[abide]

During our church's bible lesson, the topic which came up for study was Forgiveness. I made the comment that forgiveness frees the forgiver and we must be willing to forgive others or we will not be forgiven by God.

The lesson teacher (he knows that I am divorced) said to me that UNLESS I am willing to go back with my ex I cannot say I have forgiven him.

There is no biblical basis to state that reconcilliation and forgiveness are the same. I have forgiven my ex but I have no intention of going back with him. Why would someone think that they are both one and the same thing.

Your comments please.

 

[WIP]

After two years of marriage my first wife asked for a separation. I learned later that my suspicions were accurate that she was involved with another man. As it turned out she had a few involvements during our separation that lasted for nearly a year. We eventually tried to save our marriage and five years later I discovered that she was tasting the grass over the fence again. This time I did seek a divorce from her.

That was almost 25 years ago. When we divorced I truly hated her however, I have since forgiven her and no longer hold any animosity toward her but I would never go back into a relationship with her. I know I could never trust her.

Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing.

 

[for_his_glory]

We can reconcile our differences with each other if we choose to as a part of us that wants to feel better about our self and not hold on to anger or hate for the transgression made against us, but even though we have forgiven are we stupid enough to go back to the darkness we came out of once God shows us the light of His son Christ Jesus. Am I to go back to my ex and continue in the abuse so I can be forgiven of God, God forbid.

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

 

[abide]

After two years of marriage my first wife asked for a separation. I learned later that my suspicions were accurate that she was involved with another man. As it turned out she had a few involvements during our separation that lasted for nearly a year. We eventually tried to save our marriage and five years later I discovered that she was tasting the grass over the fence again. This time I did seek a divorce from her.

That was almost 25 years ago. When we divorced I truly hated her however, I have since forgiven her and no longer hold any animosity toward her but I would never go back into a relationship with her. I know I could never trust her.

Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing.

My ex was a repeated adulterer. This is what cause the divorce in the first place. I have no intention to get burn twice. When a person has character flaws where they continually do things how can you place faith in them.
I have a friend whose husband committed adultery with one of her close friends. The whole thing almost broke her heart. She divorced him. A couple years later he pleaded with her to remarry him, she did. She met me something after and told me that he was with the same woman again. (Interestingly this woman who was the adulterer was a staunch member of a wellknown Christian denomination).

It is better to move on with your life and let the adulterer do their thing.

 

[abide]

We can reconcile our differences with each other if we choose to as a part of us that wants to feel better about our self and not hold on to anger or hate for the transgression made against us, but even though we have forgiven are we stupid enough to go back to the darkness we came out of once God shows us the light of His son Christ Jesus. Am I to go back to my ex and continue in the abuse so I can be forgiven of God, God forbid.

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

I wholeheartedly agree with you