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YosefHayim

YosefHayim

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I never had friends that were girls. Except for this one time. But that was no good. She was a bad influence.

I was in a leadership program, there was one girl that came up and said "let's be friends". We're not friends though. I see her at church but still after a year+ I haven't gained the guts to talk to her (or anyone).

It pisses me off though. She showed she wanted to be friends, and I never acted on it. I didn't know how. I wish I could today, but its just too awkward now.

I want female friends to fellowship with.

I don't even feel deserving to hang out with them. I'm a creep. I quit porn a while ago, and I still struggle with lustful thoughts. I feel filthy to even make eye contact. Why did God have to make girls so good-looking?

It depresses me though with the aspergers on top of it.

This is the prayer I ask for:
That God would make me into the Holy and strong man that he wants me to be.
And for girls to be friends with, to fellowship, and to serve. (And with hopes that perhaps I'd find a wife some day).
 
Angel said:
While I think porn is wrong, and am impressed you quit, it is ok to be attracted to women, YosefHayim
God created us that way. That being said, I think you should talk to a man about it privately.
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To be honest, the only true friend that I can trust, I don't think he has the spiritual maturity to give the advice I'm looking for. He's very fresh to Christianity. 3 years about. I don't really know anyone else who could give good advice. And to be honest, I don't really trust my pastors either.
 
I have too many female friends (gay till I got saved...comes with the territory). Just show an interest in a nice girl/woman without pursuing anything and/or thinking too much about sexual stuff, if at all possible. I think one reason girls love the gays is because most of us/them listen to what they're saying w/o wanting a whole lot more than companionship.
 
Christ_empowered said:
I have too many female friends (gay till I got saved...comes with the territory). Just show an interest in a nice girl/woman without pursuing anything and/or thinking too much about sexual stuff, if at all possible. I think one reason girls love the gays is because most of us/them listen to what they're saying w/o wanting a whole lot more than companionship.
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I had a lot of gay/lesbian friends in my twenties. Didn't bother me none. After the trauma I went through I have barely any friends. IRL it is hard to talk or even trust people. There is one exception- an awesome friend that I've been online friends with since 2009. I thank God for people on the net. Especially for this Christian Forum. I don't go to church because of my illness so I feel very blessed to know you all.
 
Christ_empowered said:
I have too many female friends (gay till I got saved...comes with the territory). Just show an interest in a nice girl/woman without pursuing anything and/or thinking too much about sexual stuff, if at all possible. I think one reason girls love the gays is because most of us/them listen to what they're saying w/o wanting a whole lot more than companionship.
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Hey are your words saying what they should be saying brother ?? :thinkingWhy are you owning something here?
Words bro.....:confused
 
He is just talking about his past before he came to Christ - he is talking about the culture of being gay. He used to be apart of it. Now, he's not. He is devoted to Jesus and is truly walking in Him. That's what I see.
 
YosefHayim said:
This is the prayer I ask for:
That God would make me into the Holy and strong man that he wants me to be.
And for girls to be friends with, to fellowship, and to serve. (And with hopes that perhaps I'd find a wife some day).
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Greetings Brother Yosef,
Believe me when I say God wants to do this more then you know. However it is really up to you. We have to make this happen. We have to dig into His word and listen to His word and do what His word says. We have to live as His word says. We have to pray what His word says over us. You put this kind of determanation into action and you will become that Man that you desire. Actually God placed that desire in you bro....

Make up your mind to make the choice that you are going after the very heart of God and becoming this Godly man come hell or high water and YOU WONT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER... Then do it and do not allow anything to keep you from it... I know you have what it takes. I know you can do this and I beleive in you and believe you will do this BUT you got to make up your mind and make the choice to do it......That is the best type of advice I ever got. It will change your life Bro....it really will.

have a wonderful week
Love and Blessings in Christ
Jim
 
Angel said:
He is just talking about his past before he came to Christ - he is talking about the culture of being gay. He used to be apart of it. Now, he's not. He is devoted to Jesus and is truly walking in Him. That's what I see.
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Well Angel that is good that you see, HOWEVER what words we say do matter. He knows what I am talking about because we have talked about this......He also knows that I am NOT upset or being mean with him. He is a wonderful man and friend and I just wanted to give him a wake up call if you will.

Thanks Angel and have a wonderful day.
 
Let's not hijack Yosef's thread. I guess I was just sayin...one of the few good things I retain from having been gay is that its always a good thing to take a genuine, non-sexual interest in other people, regardless of their gender. :)
 
Ok. I didn't think you were being aggressive. I was just giving you my opinion, of what I see. :)
 
Christ_empowered said:
Let's not hijack Yosef's thread. I guess I was just sayin...one of the few good things I retain from having been gay is that its always a good thing to take a genuine, non-sexual interest in other people, regardless of their gender. :)
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I agree about hijacking so this is my last one on this..........
Philippians 3:13 KJV.......
Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: BUT this ONE THING i do FORGETTING THOSE THINGS WHICH ARE BEHIND, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.

God does not remember our sins UNLESS we keep reminding him and in doing so we give our enemy free right to come into our life. Our words can give him the right and door. A Pastor once said he was praying and talking to God and God aksed him if he liked it when people reminded him of the things his children did bad or wrong...The pastor said NO he does not like it and will say something....God said niether do I so please stop telling me of your sins that I forgave you of and have forgetten as far as the east is from the west.
 
YosefHayim said:
I never had friends that were girls. Except for this one time. But that was no good. She was a bad influence.

I was in a leadership program, there was one girl that came up and said "let's be friends". We're not friends though. I see her at church but still after a year+ I haven't gained the guts to talk to her (or anyone).

It pisses me off though. She showed she wanted to be friends, and I never acted on it. I didn't know how. I wish I could today, but its just too awkward now.

I want female friends to fellowship with.

I don't even feel deserving to hang out with them. I'm a creep. I quit porn a while ago, and I still struggle with lustful thoughts. I feel filthy to even make eye contact. Why did God have to make girls so good-looking?

It depresses me though with the aspergers on top of it.

This is the prayer I ask for:
That God would make me into the Holy and strong man that he wants me to be.
And for girls to be friends with, to fellowship, and to serve. (And with hopes that perhaps I'd find a wife some day).
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Brother,

I know what you are going through, I was a fornicator and adulterer before Father got a hold of me, then one day Jesus just let go, my mind snapped, I couldn't walk and chew gum at the same time, I had to learn social skills all over again, and how to react with people and especially not look at women as sexual conquests, ...what they suggested is that I become involved in social work, they weren't Christian so I'm suggesting you find some Christian volunteer work to do, also start doing something you enjoy, for me it was camping and hiking in the high Sierras, ...manhood, adulthood comes with/from accomplishing things, having the knowledge and satisfaction you did it, but as a born again child of God realizing it wasn't you, but rather Jesus working through you by His Holy Spirit giving you the talent and strength Ex 31:3, Jn 15:5 ...then returning the glory to Him every night before closing your eyes to sleep, ...just keep doing that day after day, always in the Word, time will pass, He will conform/transform you into the Adam (man) he has prepared and can trust to receive from Him, His child (your Eve), ...He has/is preparing for you.

The just live by faith. Hab 2:4

Blessings
 
YosefHayim said:
To be honest, the only true friend that I can trust, I don't think he has the spiritual maturity to give the advice I'm looking for. He's very fresh to Christianity. 3 years about. I don't really know anyone else who could give good advice. And to be honest, I don't really trust my pastors either.
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Hello.. If you want good Godly advice from a man.. please pm Chopper. One of the moderators on this site. That's what God said for you to do. And Chopper has helped me so very much. He is a true man of God. Bless you.
 
Hi YosefHayim , I wonder to sometimes why God had to make women so desirable , but he did for a reason , to procreate . The problem is controlling that desire , especially when we have trained our minds to be a certain way . We have to retrain our minds , and this is not easy , it takes time , practice , and above all prayer . The instant you start to have an illicit thought about anything , not just women , pray to God to stop it
Don't stop praying until the thought is gone . It gets easier as you go , but it does take time . You are NOT a creep , you ARE a child of God .
Holy Father God , give YosefHayim the desires of his life according to your will , in the name of Jesus Christ , amen .
 
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