ChristineES, Don't be so defensive.
Religion or rigorous practice can't be applied with pressure and intimidation because that only brings force and violence, not wisdom so it must be fulfilled with reason, debate and intuition. When religion is left to the conviction and conscience of every person, then one can achieve a balance in this world between positive and negative, good and evil, and also between pleasure and pain. If religion brings fear, hatred, separation or anything that will frighten a child, it is probably not a true practice, maybe it is a cult.. Religion should bring reverence and respect for everyone and everything.
Many are brainwashed by their religious leaders and are in cults some are Christian. One must be in prayer the whole time one is talking to them, because the spirits that have control over them must be quieted in order for them to hear what one is saying. The cult member has been told the same lies so many times that he believes they are true. He's been told that his group is the only one that has the truth. He has been told that anyone not in his/her group will go to a negative place such as Hell.
Jesus said, "Unless you become as a child you cannot enter the kingdom of heaven." He didn't mean for us to become childish but pure, innocent and unrehearsed. The infant emerges threatened by the negative perspectives of the world in the mind, to the higher layers of the mind where the function is to comfort and give refuge to others. Jesus is also pictured as this divine child ready to redeem mankind from its ignorance and misery.
Love and Peace