God does not love you if you are single. Read Genesis 2:18

[Mike760]

Hi, my name is Mike. I'm 21 and yes I go to church. I've been a Christian since I was in 1st grade, and I have seen miracles and Gods power throughout my life, even felt Him enough to where I know without a doubt He is in fact real and exists. But what I don't see, is a God who backs up His Words with actions.

Genesis 2:18 "It is not good for man to be alone. I will create a helper suitable for Him."

So... in other words, after clearly saying it is bad for man to be alone, then why the heck is He leaving me alone? That means one of two things. Either one, He doesn't care and wants me to have what is not good, which pretty much defies His "Great Love" for us, or two He is not who He says He is. Either way, I am sick of being alone, sick of crying out endlessly and passionately to a God who only gives me silent treatment.

He is clearly giving me what He Himself SAYS is "Not good".

So God does not love you if you are single. It doesn't matter that He died, His death and ressurection only gives me the garuntee of an enternal life SOMEDAY when I die here on Earth. It does not sooth the mind-bending wounds of loneliness that have been CONSUMING me for the last TEN years of my life. The fact is, I need someone to cuddle with, and it is not my fault God made Himself beyond our ability to touch. It's not my fault girls are pretty and God is not. I mean, why should I be alone? Why should I be ok with it? I am sick of putting my face against the glass. Sick of asking for a girlfriend or a wife.

So until God gives me the desire of my heart (A girl/wife/etc) and fulfills my great hunger, His love for me is a lie, His love for you is a lie, and He does not care about anyone or anything. And I DARE someone to try and prove me wrong...

 

[Tina]

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God loves everyone regardless of marital status, race, age, gender, sexual orientation and sins.

God loves you even though you are angry with Him. Many of us like you are also single. It does not mean we feel any less loved by God. It only means that we trust God in providing the right partner in His perfect timing. You should cast all your cares upon Him and cease from worrying. You seem overwhelmed by anxiety, loneliness and anger. Just understand that all of us here who read your posts are praying for you. God will grant the desires of your heart. Be patient.

 

[LostSoul]

Hi, my name is Mike. I'm 21 and yes I go to church. I've been a Christian since I was in 1st grade, and I have seen miracles and Gods power throughout my life, even felt Him enough to where I know without a doubt He is in fact real and exists. But what I don't see, is a God who backs up His Words with actions.

Genesis 2:18 "It is not good for man to be alone. I will create a helper suitable for Him."

So... in other words, after clearly saying it is bad for man to be alone, then why the heck is He leaving me alone? That means one of two things. Either one, He doesn't care and wants me to have what is not good, which pretty much defies His "Great Love" for us, or two He is not who He says He is. Either way, I am sick of being alone, sick of crying out endlessly and passionately to a God who only gives me silent treatment.

He is clearly giving me what He Himself SAYS is "Not good".

So God does not love you if you are single. It doesn't matter that He died, His death and ressurection only gives me the garuntee of an enternal life SOMEDAY when I die here on Earth. It does not sooth the mind-bending wounds of loneliness that have been CONSUMING me for the last TEN years of my life. The fact is, I need someone to cuddle with, and it is not my fault God made Himself beyond our ability to touch. It's not my fault girls are pretty and God is not. I mean, why should I be alone? Why should I be ok with it? I am sick of putting my face against the glass. Sick of asking for a girlfriend or a wife.

So until God gives me the desire of my heart (A girl/wife/etc) and fulfills my great hunger, His love for me is a lie, His love for you is a lie, and He does not care about anyone or anything. And I DARE someone to try and prove me wrong...

Sorry but I am inclined to disagree with you. Scripture states that God loves all.

John 3:16 For God so loved the WORLD that He gave His Only Begotten Son. That whosoever believeth in Him shalt not perish but have ever lasting life.

 

[Mike760]

Sorry but I am inclined to disagree with you. Scripture states that God loves all.

John 3:16 For God so loved the WORLD that He gave His Only Begotten Son. That whosoever believeth in Him shalt not perish but have ever lasting life.

Words. Thats it. I could say I love somebody, but unless I act like it, my words mean nothing.

 

[LostSoul]

Sorry but I am inclined to disagree with you. Scripture states that God loves all.

John 3:16 For God so loved the WORLD that He gave His Only Begotten Son. That whosoever believeth in Him shalt not perish but have ever lasting life.

Words. Thats it. I could say I love somebody, but unless I act like it, my words mean nothing.

Are you implying that God does not love you? What proof do you require? Is Jesus not proof enough? Please do not think I ask these things to accuse you of anything...but rather to understand you better.

 

[stovebolts]

Hi Mike, nice to make your acquaintance.

I'm not out to "prove you wrong", but I would like to discuss this topic with you. All I ask is that you become familiar with the story outlined in Genesis 2. Here's a study I did awhile back that might be of interest to you. viewtopic.php?f=32&t=39535

Why did God say what he said? You see, God made Adam in His own image because God, being love desires communion. It's his nature. However, man is not God, and God see's how empty Adam is because Adam does not have a companion to share his life with. Thus, God agrees with Adam that it is not good for man to be alone. However, and please note... Adam had to experience loneliness before God took action... and God knew it before Adam did. Think about that.

Also, when God declares things good and not good, I don't think it's fair to say that if something isn't good, it's bad. When God said that his creation was good, he didn't say that it was perfect, let alone complete for as the text says, when all of creation was completed, which included Adam and his helper, God said that everything was "Very Good". Again, not perfect, but 'Very Good". There is a distinction.

Your anguish speaks loudly and if there is a theme in the bible that is repeated over and over, then it would be the theme that God always hears the cries of his people. But as it is cited in Lamentation, sometimes God's presence can be felt within God's absence... and perhaps for good reason.

God's love for you is a reality, for even as as Naomi (The pleasant one) called herself Mara (bitter) after her losses, the Lord heard her cries and blessed her through Ruth.

Your story hasn't finished unfolding yet...

Grace and peace,
Jeff

 

[stovebolts]

Sorry but I am inclined to disagree with you. Scripture states that God loves all.

John 3:16 For God so loved the WORLD that He gave His Only Begotten Son. That whosoever believeth in Him shalt not perish but have ever lasting life.

Words. Thats it. I could say I love somebody, but unless I act like it, my words mean nothing.

Your exactly right my friend. Words without action is meaningless. But, just as God gave us his son, it was on God's time...

 

[kimberlyb0112]

Dude..your 21 You are still really young and you have alot of time ahead of you, you will find someone when the time is right

 

[Mike760]

Are you implying that God does not love you? What proof do you require? Is Jesus not proof enough? Please do not think I ask these things to accuse you of anything...but rather to understand you better.

The proof I need is that He cares enough about my feelings to give me the gift that matters to me the most. This is very important to me.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Are you caring about his feelings when you call him a liar and unloving? Are you caring about hia feelings by demanding that his will match yours? Are you caring about his feelings when you ignore the undeserved gift of salvaton as more than enough love in exchange for a person to person romance? Love is unconditional, but what you are demanding God do is love you just the way you want. You my friend ARE NOT ready for a wife because you are not capable of showing the God you claim to believe in and serve and love at all.

 

[Mike760]

Are you caring about his feelings when you call him a liar and unloving?

I'm only calling it for what it is.

Are you caring about his feelings by demanding that his will match yours?

How can I? Gods forsaking my need.

Are you caring about his feelings when you ignore the undeserved gift of salvaton as more than enough love in exchange for a person to person romance?

Well, I'm not in Heaven yet, am I? So person to person is all there is to really look forward to.

You my friend ARE NOT ready for a wife because you are not capable of showing the God you claim to believe in and serve and love at all.

And the reason I am not ready is cause God is lazy and wont get off his lazy throne and give a dang about me and my future bride just for once. If He cared He would have made us ready years ago and given us over to eachother already.

 

[LostSoul]

Are you caring about his feelings when you call him a liar and unloving?

I'm only calling it for what it is.

[quote="Blazin Bones":2rcwg2vt]Are you caring about his feelings by demanding that his will match yours?

How can I? Gods forsaking my need.

Are you caring about his feelings when you ignore the undeserved gift of salvaton as more than enough love in exchange for a person to person romance?

Well, I'm not in Heaven yet, am I? So person to person is all there is to really look forward to.

You my friend ARE NOT ready for a wife because you are not capable of showing the God you claim to believe in and serve and love at all.

And the reason I am not ready is cause God is lazy and wont get off his lazy throne and give a dang about me and my future bride just for once. If He cared He would have made us ready years ago and given us over to eachother already.[/quote:2rcwg2vt]

Mike...

I understand you do not want to be alone. But I do ask you do not speak of God like this in such a demeaning way on this forum as it is a Christian forum and part of the TOS.

I am here for you though...if you need to talk to someone. I will be praying for you Mike. There was a time I too was angry with God....after a prayer I prayed for a loved one did not turn out the way I wanted. Something though I did not realize at the time was...that God had indeed answered my prayer...just in accordance to His will. And His will turned out to be the best thing that could have happened in the end.

May God Bless You

Danielle

 

[jasoncran]

Are you caring about his feelings when you call him a liar and unloving?

I'm only calling it for what it is.

[quote="Blazin Bones":3d03ecs3]Are you caring about his feelings by demanding that his will match yours?

How can I? Gods forsaking my need.

Are you caring about his feelings when you ignore the undeserved gift of salvaton as more than enough love in exchange for a person to person romance?

Well, I'm not in Heaven yet, am I? So person to person is all there is to really look forward to.

You my friend ARE NOT ready for a wife because you are not capable of showing the God you claim to believe in and serve and love at all.

And the reason I am not ready is cause God is lazy and wont get off his lazy throne and give a dang about me and my future bride just for once. If He cared He would have made us ready years ago and given us over to eachother already.[/quote:3d03ecs3]
and what will you do when you finally meet and marry this girl and she hurts you real bad, ie fall into a sin, ie drinking, porn, pot etc, leave immeditaiely or at least try to help here, that takes the love of god my friend, or worse you hurt here and fall into porn,pot adultery, people arent perfect, i was ready to leave my life over pot , but the lord say no, and dealt with my heart and said there areas i need to change as well, that was hard, my wife has stopped using pot, and i still struggle with my area, but were still together, not exaclty what i planned but that's life and me rushing into marriage.

 

[justvisiting]

Hi, my name is Mike. I'm 21 and yes I go to church. I've been a Christian since I was in 1st grade, and I have seen miracles and Gods power throughout my life, even felt Him enough to where I know without a doubt He is in fact real and exists. But what I don't see, is a God who backs up His Words with actions.
Genesis 2:18 "It is not good for man to be alone. I will create a helper suitable for Him."
So until God gives me the desire of my heart (A girl/wife/etc) and fulfills my great hunger, His love for me is a lie, His love for you is a lie, and He does not care about anyone or anything. And I DARE someone to try and prove me wrong...

Sorry to hear you are cracking under the pressure. It happens to a lot of young men.
I can only say you will regret any stupid actions taken, later in life. Whether illicit sex or whatever...which I am not accusing you of.
Be smart. Have patience. Go to a college and career or something. Get your heart right with the Lord.
Paul was also alone. He survived it. As for your statement about it not being good for man to be alone...that doesn't mean a man can't be Godly and happy and be alone.
Rebellion only causes grief. Please be wise and apologize to the Lord. He is concerned for your well being.
You probably feel like you're one of the outcasts that can't get what he wants...but their are literally millions of lonely people around. The straight and narrow way is still the best way...even if you can't get what you want.

 

[Mike760]

Please be wise and apologize to the Lord. He is concerned for your well being.

He's the one who owes me an apology, for keeping me waiting so long. How is he so concerned for my well being?

I can only say you will regret any stupid actions taken, later in life. Whether illicit sex or whatever...

Are you insane? Virginity is a curse. It took me a very long painful time to realize that waiting is overrated.

[quote:2x1py2aa]You probably feel like you're one of the outcasts that can't get what he wants...but their are literally millions of lonely people around.

[/quote:2x1py2aa]
They can all burn for all I care. Finding my girl is what matters.

 

[Nick]

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[Tina]

They can all burn for all I care. Finding my girl is what matters.

Mike, calm down and get a hold of yourself ...... We are praying for you ... Be patient.

 

[Mike760]

1 - This is a Christian site, therefore, any attempt to put down Christianity and the basic tenets of our Faith will be considered a hostile act.

So you're going to just let my faith die in my conflict?

(this is a CHRISTIAN FORUMS site)

And as a Christian I came here for answers, so please work with me. I am not trying to be your enemy, even though I might seem like that. I'm just filled with a lot of pain and grief, and a lot of anger towards my situation. I feel I have no where else to turn in life, like God is rejecting my needful hands, which has caused me to come to this point where I'm giving up and questioning my faith. If you push me away then just know you'll be turning away an hand in need. :bigfrown

 

[Nick]

1 - This is a Christian site, therefore, any attempt to put down Christianity and the basic tenets of our Faith will be considered a hostile act.

So you're going to just let my faith die in my conflict?

[quote="Nick_29":28md5hp4](this is a CHRISTIAN FORUMS site)

And as a Christian I came here for answers, so please work with me. I am not trying to be your enemy, even though I might seem like that. I'm just filled with a lot of pain and grief, and a lot of anger towards my situation. I feel I have no where else to turn in life, like God is rejecting my needful hands, which has caused me to come to this point where I'm giving up and questioning my faith. If you push me away then just know you'll be turning away an hand in need. :bigfrown[/quote:28md5hp4]
Mike, I'm trying to understand what you're going through and empathise with you, but can you please be more respectful to the Christian faith? (as in the ToS). Quite frankly, I don't care what you've been through, nothing excuses talking about/to God and Jesus the way you do. So please be more respectful towards our beliefs, belivers and our Lord.

I hope you find a true relationship with Christ while you are here. .

I am not saying these things to judge your or to put you down. I am saying these things becasue I care for you, and I find it hard not to stand by and watch people criticisng God and other believers like the way you do.

 

[Mike760]

I hope you find a true relationship with Christ while you are here. .

Nick, I do have a relationship with the Lord. The problem is that relationship has suffered some tremendous damage over the years from my lonely hurt and my doubt. Believe me when I say I've once been a strong passionate person for God. I might yet be again, but right now I'm just too broken and hurt to be strong. I'm going to dissolve unless things change. I just really wish I had someone to love, while waiting for Heaven.