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GojuBrian
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MOre hard things....other christians who let me down and those that believe things that are not biblical.
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hardest things I have faced being a Christian
- Thread starter nyc christian
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ProphetMark
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- Jul 14, 2008
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Having my childhood wrecked and being kicked out of home at the age of 17 by christian parents.
Turning up at a christian friend's home to go to church with her, only for her to lock herself away in her bedroom and ignore me for 40 minutes, not even open the door to speak to me, and then storm off and get the porter to ask me to leave, rather than letting me know she didn't want to go to church herself.
Turning up at (the same) christian friend's home to go to church with her, being told she wasn't there, going away again, then a few days later turning up for a weekend away with the university christian union only to be told I couldn't go, because this friend had complained about me turning up at her home. This was in spite of it being her idea that we went to church together in the first place, she hadn't asked me not to come to her home, and she hadn't said anything about not wanting to go to church with me anymore. I have no idea how she made it sound bad enough to stop me going on the weekend away.
Trying to believe verses such as John 10 v 10, Romans 8 v 28, and Matthew 6 v 33 when my basic needs continue to go unmet, and God never speaks to me.
Turning up at a christian friend's home to go to church with her, only for her to lock herself away in her bedroom and ignore me for 40 minutes, not even open the door to speak to me, and then storm off and get the porter to ask me to leave, rather than letting me know she didn't want to go to church herself.
Turning up at (the same) christian friend's home to go to church with her, being told she wasn't there, going away again, then a few days later turning up for a weekend away with the university christian union only to be told I couldn't go, because this friend had complained about me turning up at her home. This was in spite of it being her idea that we went to church together in the first place, she hadn't asked me not to come to her home, and she hadn't said anything about not wanting to go to church with me anymore. I have no idea how she made it sound bad enough to stop me going on the weekend away.
Trying to believe verses such as John 10 v 10, Romans 8 v 28, and Matthew 6 v 33 when my basic needs continue to go unmet, and God never speaks to me.
starjax
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- Dec 7, 2009
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Hardest things I faced as a Christian....
In junior high, I was a strong believer in a school that didn't even permit religious education.
High sex drive, and sexual sin that I just am starting to learn to control (and run away from) through Scripture.
Witnessing to other people. Yet, I find that if God says for me to do it, it becomes relatively easy to do.
Keeping wrong company in college. Urgh, the amount of drinking, smoking and other debauchery...unacceptable!
Trying to remain set apart as a praise leader.
Being ripped from my church home and my calling because my father didn't like the church.
Knowing that my sister, who has the same church experience as me, cut and started to be bulimic, and keeping that a secret until now.
Belief that God wouldn't forgive me because of all the sick things I watched during my time when I was starving for community with believers, and could never tell anyone about.
God does forgive, I know that. And I'm doing my best to live for Him no matter what
This stuff doesn't matter to me anymore, but, it still feels nice to confess to someone. :shades
In junior high, I was a strong believer in a school that didn't even permit religious education.
High sex drive, and sexual sin that I just am starting to learn to control (and run away from) through Scripture.
Witnessing to other people. Yet, I find that if God says for me to do it, it becomes relatively easy to do.
Keeping wrong company in college. Urgh, the amount of drinking, smoking and other debauchery...unacceptable!
Trying to remain set apart as a praise leader.
Being ripped from my church home and my calling because my father didn't like the church.
Knowing that my sister, who has the same church experience as me, cut and started to be bulimic, and keeping that a secret until now.
Belief that God wouldn't forgive me because of all the sick things I watched during my time when I was starving for community with believers, and could never tell anyone about.
God does forgive, I know that. And I'm doing my best to live for Him no matter what
This stuff doesn't matter to me anymore, but, it still feels nice to confess to someone. :shades
starjax
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faithtransforms said:
I went through this too. But God is really good, and He saved me from this by putting a great man of God in my life
I don't have any desire to lust after anyone, because God healed me. It was hard, but I listened to Him and I sought His guidance. :yes
jasoncran
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that lust is a different an unatural one, the desire to fornicate with the same sex.starjax said:faithtransforms said:
I went through this too. But God is really good, and He saved me from this by putting a great man of God in my life
I kind of found NYC Christian`s post sad until I read the follow-up that you have a good family & don`t mind those hardships so that`s good.
As for me, it depends on what phase of life I have been in. As a child I had a hard time knowing how to balance obeying both God and my mother since my mother was opposed to my Christianity yet the Bible said I was supposed to obey and honor her. It was very difficult for me.
In early adulthood, since I was raised in a very small, rural town where people were generally honest, polite, and went to church (even my mother went to church but for social reasons not spiritual), it was difficult for me when I went to the big city where I tried to show love to all people as a Christian but would often get taken advantage of. It took awhile for me to figure out how to establish boundaries while maintaining a Christian spirit towards others, but it was very hard.
In early marriage, like in childhood, I wanted so much to please God so when the Bible said we should submit to our husbands I completely did that, but it took awhile for me to realize a husband can take advantage of that so it is not only okay but also healthy for a wife to establish some boundaries while maintaining her belief in God`s design for a family.
Now as a Christian I find it difficult to understand why God allows so much suffering for His children and children in general. I have a lot of things on my plate right now and I can not explain any of them. It does not change my faith and love for God. Don`t misunderstand what I am writing. I believe in God 100% and I know He is a good, perfect, just God, but I just don`t understand why He allows so much pain for His children. This is particularly hard for me because I`m a mother so as a mother if I could prevent really bad things from happening in my children`s lives, I would, and if I could set them up for a good life here on Earth, I would, but God does not always do this for His children and I do not know why. Plus His wrath is so much harsher than anything I can imagine giving my children, yet I accept His decisions as wiser than my understanding, but I don`t understand them. Not understanding but realizing more than ever the pain people (especially children) suffer in life is hard for me as a Christian. I imagine like in other stages in life I will eventually work this out as well.
As for me, it depends on what phase of life I have been in. As a child I had a hard time knowing how to balance obeying both God and my mother since my mother was opposed to my Christianity yet the Bible said I was supposed to obey and honor her. It was very difficult for me.
In early adulthood, since I was raised in a very small, rural town where people were generally honest, polite, and went to church (even my mother went to church but for social reasons not spiritual), it was difficult for me when I went to the big city where I tried to show love to all people as a Christian but would often get taken advantage of. It took awhile for me to figure out how to establish boundaries while maintaining a Christian spirit towards others, but it was very hard.
In early marriage, like in childhood, I wanted so much to please God so when the Bible said we should submit to our husbands I completely did that, but it took awhile for me to realize a husband can take advantage of that so it is not only okay but also healthy for a wife to establish some boundaries while maintaining her belief in God`s design for a family.
Now as a Christian I find it difficult to understand why God allows so much suffering for His children and children in general. I have a lot of things on my plate right now and I can not explain any of them. It does not change my faith and love for God. Don`t misunderstand what I am writing. I believe in God 100% and I know He is a good, perfect, just God, but I just don`t understand why He allows so much pain for His children. This is particularly hard for me because I`m a mother so as a mother if I could prevent really bad things from happening in my children`s lives, I would, and if I could set them up for a good life here on Earth, I would, but God does not always do this for His children and I do not know why. Plus His wrath is so much harsher than anything I can imagine giving my children, yet I accept His decisions as wiser than my understanding, but I don`t understand them. Not understanding but realizing more than ever the pain people (especially children) suffer in life is hard for me as a Christian. I imagine like in other stages in life I will eventually work this out as well.