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Help settle bedroom issue with older daughter

Nikki

Nikki

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Kailey is 14 and Courtney is 12.

Kailey has a tiny room. Courtney's room is larger. Then we have a bonus room. Right now, the bonus room is where the kids hang out when they have friends over, although here lately they've been going into their own rooms with their own friends. We have a futon, tv, computer, keyboard and all of Kailey's guitar stuff in the bonus room.

Kailey has been begging for us to let her have the bonus room as her bedroom. The reason Courtney got the larger room is because her furniture was larger and wouldn't fit in Kailey's current room (Courtney's furniture was given to us...it was a large set...Kailey's was just a twin bed and dresser). They now both have different furniture (both have full size beds) and I will be the first to admit that Kailey's room is cramped.

I know it's not really fair for Kailey to have the smaller room since she's older and now that they're getting older, it's becoming an issue. To make them SWITCH rooms is NOT going to happen. Courtney will have a fit, which I can understand because Courtney likes her room.

The bonus room ONLY gets used when the girls have friends over. DH and I never go in there and the girls rarely spend time in there.

I love that we have the bonus room for them to hang out in if they want to, but I also understand why Kailey wants a larger room being as she's older and has always had the small room.

WWYD?
 
But what if one day you decide to use the bonus room for more than you do now? My sister and her family live in Virginia in an area that doesn't have basements, so their bonus room is equal to basements where we live. Is this your case? Regardless, if you do decide to use it for entertaining, a den, or anything else, you're going to have an unnecessary battle on your hands. That's what would compel me to say something like, "Be grateful we give you your own room, because Dad and I were going to tell you we might put you with your sister in her room and use yours as a guest room. So, how do you like your room, now?" ;)
 
Mike, yes....our bonus room is equivalent to what a basement would be used for. It only gets used by the girls and their friends occasionally though.

To turn her current bedroom into a "bonus room"...well, it would be cramped! Then again, they are spending less time in the bonus room with their friends.
 
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