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how do you view marriage/wedding?
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As a Christian I view marriage and the wedding vows to each other as two becoming one with Christ being the center of the marriage.
a friendship thing?
D-D-W
2024 Supporter
Of course it is allowed. It is not commanded, but the expectation is for all to get married unless they have the gift of celibacy.
Matt 19:10
The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” 11 But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given.
Matt 19:10
The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” 11 But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given.
well i was born with sickness so i quess i got the celibacy thing. what you say?
Yes, it has to start with building a friendship.
Before ever getting married take time to really know each other and establish a friendship that consist of trust and belief in each other. Allow Christ to be the center of your friendship and this will allow you to begin a marriage that is totally Christ centered.
D-D-W
2024 Supporter
Not necessarily. Depends on the sickness and whether God heals you (in this life) or not.
Edward
2024 Supporter
I believe that if a man is born with the gift of celibacy that he knows it, he will not desire marriage. And you already know if you would like to have a Wife or not.
So if you have desire for a Wife in your heart, then you can not have the gift of celibacy, so don't worry about it. If God wrote a wife into His plan for your life you can't stop it from happening. But! You can mess it up by choosing the wrong woman. So Be Patient !! Wait on God to ove. To everything there is a season.
Let the Wife come to you. Do not go looking for her, to meet her or it's guarenteed to be a wrong choice...(and God's up there shaking His head, I had a better Wife for you in mind but you got impatient).
I met my Wife by accident. In fact, every time that I've ever met a wife material lady, was by accident. When you go out looking to find a date, you will find that many girls are in estrus and will come home with you but none of them are wife material. So be patient and wait on the Lord. When you are ready for her,she will come to you.
Everything has it's own season.
So if you have desire for a Wife in your heart, then you can not have the gift of celibacy, so don't worry about it. If God wrote a wife into His plan for your life you can't stop it from happening. But! You can mess it up by choosing the wrong woman. So Be Patient !! Wait on God to ove. To everything there is a season.
Let the Wife come to you. Do not go looking for her, to meet her or it's guarenteed to be a wrong choice...(and God's up there shaking His head, I had a better Wife for you in mind but you got impatient).
I met my Wife by accident. In fact, every time that I've ever met a wife material lady, was by accident. When you go out looking to find a date, you will find that many girls are in estrus and will come home with you but none of them are wife material. So be patient and wait on the Lord. When you are ready for her,she will come to you.
Everything has it's own season.
A good thing, just not for me.
Maybe, my guy. Some of the stuff I've seen you post suggests you may be asexual. That said, asexuals can still desire marriage and desire a life partner or significant other, they just don't like the sex part of it.
D-D-W
2024 Supporter
I do not believe "asexual" and the charismatic gift of celibacy are the same thing.
The first is a natural fleshly thing; and the 2nd is a specific gift from God, poured out on HIS people for a special calling. Unbelievers can be asexual.
I have read in some christian counseling material that people who are asexual (specifically those who try to make themselves that way by mentally turning off their sex drive) have a harder than usual time of emotionally bonding with people. It seems all the emotions and physical drives are interconnected, and when one gets interrupted, it can affect many others.
I'm asexual. I bond with people just fine, I just don't want to have sex with anyone.
D-D-W
2024 Supporter
And that is ok. (unless God told you to marry someone and you refused)
As what I said is a generalization, it does not fit every single person or situation.
But I know from personal experience that stifling one emotion can block the expression of others.
If someone is truly stifling their sexuality, maybe. I wouldn't count someone who does have sexually desires but is repressing them to be truly asexual.
D-D-W
2024 Supporter
True, but the outward looks very similar. Especially in someone who is truly successful in repressing.
Edward
2024 Supporter
Is that really true? That's all you ever talk about.
Edward
2024 Supporter
So does this mean that you don't consider yourself to be truly asexual? Because didn't you say before that you embrace all the emotions and bonding, but simply do not participate in any physical acts?
I think in truly repressing the sex drive one would normally put it out of their mind. But that's all you ever have on your mind or talk about!
Ed, please lay off.
I don't repress any sexual desires, because I simply don't have them. So yes, I'm asexual. And no, that is far from the majority of my posts. I've discussed asexuality in two, maybe three threads on total, and the only reason that one thread had so many posts in it was because you were arguing with me and trying to dictate your opinions. I mostly talk about mental health on here. Perhaps it is you who have it on your mind, moreso than me.
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Edward
2024 Supporter
Sister, please forgive me, because I'm not trying to be offensive to you in any way, just trying to understand.
And as a man, I find it hard to understand how the female body can have zero sexual desire at all. I don't think I believe that is possible. God designed humans to have great desire in order for them to be fruitful and multiply. See what I mean? This is a boy girl thing and not an attack on evenifigoalone. Forget that. I simply do not believe that the females have zero sex drives. God did not, pass that one girl by and not give her the drives which procreate.
So why be cagey with me? Or is it yourself that you're not admitting to somethng about? Be at peace Sister. No one is attacking you. We're just talking as Brothers & Sisters. :nod
You've been very, very pushy about this, particularly in that previous thread, which I do not appreciate. It's fine to not understand, but please do not dictate to me what my own experiences are.
Asexuality is actually supported in the Bible, Matthew 19:12 NIV
For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.
The "choose to live like eunuchs" verse would be the people mentioned above who either repress sexual desires or simply choose never to act on them. The whole "choose to live like eunuchs" thing leads me to believe the verse includes not only people who physically cannot have sexual relations, but those who do not wish to or who lack the natural drive to do so.
Most people do have sexual desires, and yes that is how we were originally designed. But people were also designed to have eyesight, and yet we have people who are blind. My lack of sexuality does not negate anyone elses' presence of sexuality.